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From: MSN NicknameRev-Lin-McGee___Rain  (Original Message)Sent: 8/24/2006 1:26 PM

yes please share it with others. I felt that I had to
share my thoughts.
Thank you all
Debora Nichols

--- "CT Blue Star Mothers -- Rev. Lin McGee"
<blue.star.mothers.rev.lin.mcgee@gmail.com> wrote:

*GREAT and HEART FELT, Deb!!! May I quote you on myCT BSM website?  Thanks== Lin*

> On 8/9/06, Debora Nichols <twosoldiersons@yahoo.com>
> wrote:
> >
> > Please forgive me that this is so long but I
> need to
> > share What Blue Star Mothers means to me and how
> much
> > all of you mean to me......................................

 

From: MSN NicknameRev-Lin-McGee___Rain  (Original Message)Sent: 9/15/2006 11:43 AM
Hi Suan -- I am trying to catchup on reading my messages -- no small task!!
 
I would like to know if you would give me permission to post your message about the POW/MIA for my CT BSM group.... 
 
Thanks-- Lin


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I would be honored. 
 
Thank you Lin.
 
Susan

 

From: MSN NicknameRev-Lin-McGee___Rain  (Original Message)Sent: 11/19/2006 12:04 AM


Poems By Ester B. Gates

My dear Lin, you honor this 84 year old!  I live in a retirement community.  We publish a monthly newsletter and I write a poem for each issue.  I will be happy to send them on to you to share with those they might help.  Yes, my work is copywrited, so I would appreciate you giving me credit for the work.  Let us start with NINE ONE ONE.  It is attached. 
 
Love, Esther B. Gates

 Poems By Norma Bieard

From: MSN NicknameRev-Lin-McGee___Rain  (Original Message)Sent: 11/19/2006 12:36 AM
Good Morning Lin:
 
I would love to be a part of the Department of Defense program and have my poetry included.  As well, if you will send me some material/photos/information, I will dedicate a page on my website to your work.  What we both do is a ministry for the Lord and it is great that we can support each other.  Right now, God is opening up doors for my husband and me and I am really excited about it.  Within the next week, I will send you some material to place on your site and I really appreciate the generous offer.............   
 
Have a Good Day!
 
Norma

  Poems By Faye Sizemore

From: MSN NicknameRev-Lin-McGee___Rain  (Original Message)Sent: 11/24/2006 12:11 PM
Dear Rev.McGee.
   I was forwarded your message from Tony Pahl,the IWVPA webmaster.
   I would be honored to have you use any of my poetry that you see fit on your site with copyright displayed.
  I visited your site and found it excellent.You are doing a great service to the troops and their families.  Keep up the good work.

                                  Sincerely,
                                      Faye Sizemore
 

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CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS 
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JamesPeter Matthews
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Army
Our son who has served in Iraq has a tribute page on 'A Tribute To Our Troops'.  Please post a message to our son by clicking on his personal tribute web page:
 
 
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
David and Lin McGee
 
 
We Thank You Lord That Our Son Has Returned Home Safe!!!

 

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Daniel W. Matthews
Winsted, CT
Marine
Dan has sent his picture home from Iraq.  Please post a message to encourage him as he serves with so much courage!!  Here is his special page:
 
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
David and Lin McGee
 
 
 
 
Dear God, We Pray That You Will Bring Our Son Home Safely -- We Love Him So Much, Lord
 

 

 

 Sean Severson
 
Please leave Sean a message on his 'A Tribute To Our Troops' Page!!!
 
WE LOVE YOU, SEAN!!!
 
 
 
 
 

 

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On Homecoming Day ... `God, It Feels Good'



By JESSE HAMILTON
Courant Staff Writer

October 26 2006

CAMP PENDLETON, Calif. -- Long before dawn, the Marines gather in a parking lot beside their tall hill of identical sea bags.

At the start of the last day of deployment on Wednesday, Plainville's Charlie Company waits. Sometimes it seems to them as if a Marine exists to wait, as if waiting is his own special burden, even beyond Iraq's insurgent firefights and midnight raids.

Whether it's waiting seven months in the maelstrom of downtown Fallujah, waiting seven days in the drab nowhere barracks of Camp Pendleton or waiting seven hours to get on a chartered jet toward New England, it's all the same endless wait for these reservist Marines to get back to what they once were.

So they stand in the cool dark of a Southern California night, which feels bitter cold in their desert-baked bones. The remnants of the unit, about 170 Marines, arrived here days ago at the end of their long journey home from Fallujah - home to Charlie Company, 1st Battalion, 25th Marines, for about seven months. California has been a purgatory for those anxious to get home, but it's all according to military design.

Troops returning from war must "de-mobilize" at a U.S. base for days, getting medical screens, turning in weapons and learning about veterans benefits. It's also a buffer of time between war and home front, a moment for each to twist his lens from wide angle back to his own tight focus. Another wait.

The infinite "When I get home ..." game had filled their scant downtime in Iraq, but now that they wait for buses to an airfield, not all know how they'll fit into their old lives, and for some, fitting back in isn't an option.

Divorce. Reconciliation. Infidelity. Careers gone missing-in-action. New starts. Fighting for the custody of children. Or meeting their own babies for the first time. Their worlds have turned while they fought in the war.

Lance Cpl. Lino Torres is coming home to Bridgeport. He's hours away from meeting his first son, Lino Jr., and he knows there will be a lot to get used to. "I really don't know what to think," he says. "I just want to see my son."

Cpl. Parke Stearns from Lebanon, one of the 91 Connecticut residents at the start of the deployment, has his own uncertainty.

"How different am I going to be when I go home?" He thinks the easy violence of Fallujah has changed him, made him realize how narrow a line it is between living and dying. "It just happens," he said. "Like rain." Death isn't a big production. People just cease to exist in an instant. "It's just that simple."

He was there on Oct. 1 when Lance Cpl. Christopher B. Cosgrove III from New Jersey was consumed in the blast of a car bomb. Cosgrove was one of four from Charlie Company killed in Iraq: Capt. Brian S. Letendre, who lived in New Britain, was first on May 3.

Then Lance. Cpl. Kurt E. Dechen from Vermont and Cpl. Jordan C. Pierson from Milford both killed in August. Cosgrove fell at the beginning of this month, in the final days of Charlie Company's time in Fallujah.

"The buses are here!" somebody shouts. Loaded with tired Marines, the convoy of buses drive through the misty dawn fog to the airfield, just in time to wait several hours for their flights. Even the commanders aren't sure why they had to leave so early. It's just the way the Marine Corps works, one says.

As the sun rises over the airport on their homecoming day, spirits rise with it. The Marines in the all-male infantry unit talk about being ready to get away from all the others, finally being alone and responsible only for themselves again. But 1st Sgt. Ben Grainger from Enfield, the chief non-commissioned officer of Charlie Company, has been through all this before. He knows the moments his Marines will have when they get home.

"Your room is empty all of a sudden," he says. "It's quiet. Deafeningly quiet."

The Marines start loading their bags on the wrong airplane and then the head count isn't coming out right, which adds minutes of delay. Each minute is starting to become a test of strength. The boarding of the airplane makes the coming reunion seem more real.

"I'm a civilian again!" one Marine yells as he gets to the plane.

As the charter plane takes off and flies east, flight attendants distribute hot towels to the Marines, and the in-flight movie starts: "The Devil Wears Prada," the tale of a young woman's misadventures in the fashion biz, which most of the Marines sleep through.

The pilot announces the plane will land soon at Westover Air Force Base in Massachusetts.

He says, "The temperature has cooled to about 44 degrees."

Loud groans fill the passenger cabin. But when it lands, the Marines cheer and whistle. One more step taken. Just a last bus ride to go.

"We made it, brother," says Cpl. Devin Anderson from Southington, hugging another Marine. "God, it feels good."

It's on that final ride through a New England night that the Marines' spirits erupt. They've got a state police escort, and a Marine starts playing music through an iPod with speakers. "Mama, I'm Coming Home," by Ozzy Osbourne is first.

The bus caravan runs red lights. Sgt. Jason Hermenau, a Winsted cop, points out a Dunkin' Donuts - the first he's seen in most of a year.

Through Massachusetts and down I-91, there are banners hung on the overpasses, welcoming Charlie Company home. One reads: "Thank You, Grainger's Grunts."

The police escort is joined by American Legion motorcycles and trucks flying flags. "This is how we do it in Connecticut!" a Marine yells.

The young men are talking over each other now, joking and singing. They see the lights of Hartford, where their families and friends are gathered at the state armory.

They pull into the city, past more signs and banners and flashing lights. They are pointing and grinning like children. And there's the armory, besieged by parked cars.

The wait of their lives is over.

The buses line up. The doors open, and the Marines no longer mind the cold.

Contact Jesse Hamilton at jhamilton@courant.com.

Copyright 2006, Hartford Courant

  

The Marines of Charlie Company returned to Connecticut Wednesday night (October 25, 2006) after a seven-month deployment to Fallujah. To view a slideshow of the return, click here. 
 
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Home at last: South Shore Marines back from Iraq


Erin Gormley of Stoughton hangs a sign at Fort Devens welcoming home her brother, Lance Cpl. Patrick Gormley, 21. (GREG DERR/The Patriot Ledger)

By RYAN MENARD
The Patriot Ledger

AYER - A thousand Marines returned home from Iraq today, thrilled to be reunited with their families but mindful of the sacrifice of 11 comrades who will never return.

For seven months, the Marines of the 1st Battalion 25th Infantry walked the deadly Fallujah streets every day, protected only by their guns, their armor and their friends.

They were foot soldiers, first in the line of fire and the most vulnerable. They use terms like ‘‘kill zone’’ and are the ones kicking in doors and chasing militants. And they were there by their own choice.

The battalion lost 11 members in action.

But today, the 400 who hail from Massachusetts, including 40 from the South Shore, touched down to a flood of family and friends in welcome ceremonies at Fort Devens. The Marines landed in California about a week ago and have been waiting to come home. While most of the troops arrived this morning, the Marines of Bravo Company landed in Nashua, N.H., last night.

‘‘Thank God they are home,’’ said Harriet Pugsley, 82, of Braintree, the mother of two Vietnam veterans and grandmother of three of the Marines who returned home today.

‘‘They are home and here to stay.’’

A Navy nurse during World War II, she met her late husband, a Marine, as he was coming home from overseas.

Her Marine grandsons are Cpl. Ryan Pugsley of Braintree, Lance Cpl. Joe Pugsley of Weymouth and Lance Cpl. Kenny Downey of Braintree.

‘‘Their grandfather is looking down on them,’’ Pugsley said. ‘‘I prayed for them everyday.’’

It was a tearful reunion as she hugged and kissed each grandson.

‘‘Thank God you’re home’’, she said to Lance Crpl. Kenny Downey, the first one to reach the family.

The Marines were happy to be on American soil, but Joe Pugsley said he was more than willing to serve his country.

‘‘It’s unreal. It makes me appreciate how great this country is and I would do it all over again if I had do,’’ he said.

Mary Savage of Marshfield and her son, Michael, were there to see Neil Hovasapian, 22, of West Roxbury, her nephew and his cousin.

‘‘It’s been very emotional,’’ Savage said. ‘‘I’ve been crying since yesterday. It’s just a wonderful day and these guys deserve a lot of credit.’’

Waiting with the Savages were another aunt and uncle, Paul and Diana Farrell of Canton, and the young Marine’s mother, Sheila Hovasapian.

‘‘This is fantastic,’’ Diana Farrell said. ‘‘It’s going to be great to see him again.’’

Thirty relatives and friends of Lance Cpl. Michael Sullivan, 25, of North Quincy chartered a bus for the ceremony.

‘‘I’m filled with excitement and joy,’’ said his mother, Donna Sullivan. ‘‘I just want him home for Sunday dinner.’’

But, she added, ‘‘There is so much emotion and sadness for the kids who couldn’t.’’

‘‘We are very blessed and lucky he’s coming home and doesn’t have to go back,’’ she said.

Michael Sullivan, a Quincy firefighter, has been in the Marines for five years.

Last night, Paula Fiorello of Weymouth was tidying the house in anticipation of her husband’s arrival.

‘‘He’s in the ’States and he’s safe and that’s fine with me,’’ said Fiorello. ‘‘New Hampshire is safer than Fallujah.’’

Her husband, Michael Fiorello, 36, one of the battalion’s oldest men, is thrilled to come home. He has survived deadly missions and missed out on seven months of his 1-year-old daughter’s life.

‘‘I know he’ll have a hard time adjusting, but I’m just glad he’ll be coming home safe,’’ Paula Fiorello said. ‘‘It’s been quite a year for him. He’s excited to be coming home and he can’t wait to see his daughter.’’

The battalion, formed in the 1920s, is known as ‘‘New England’s Own’’ for its headquarters at Fort Devens, with units in Connecticut, New Hampshire and Maine. The Marines were called in to duty a year ago, deploying to Fallujah.

The duties were extremely risky. Holbrook native Matt Nelson, 25, a member of the battalion, was commended this week for running through streams of bullets and scooping up a crying baby.

Ryan Menard may be reached at rmenard@ledger.com

Copyright 2006 The Patriot Ledger
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Marines come home
By Jon Brodkin/ Daily News Staff
Friday, October 27, 2006 - Updated: 02:17 AM EST

DEVENS -- Marine Staff Sgt. Dan Healey had been married for only two days when he left for military duty late last year, with little idea what awaited him in Iraq. 

    "You really can’t understand what it’s like over there until you start living it,"
Healey said yesterday, shortly after he and 450 other Marines arrived in Devens to cheering crowds of friends and relatives. 

    There were 11 deaths among the 1st Battalion, 25th Marine Regiment during seven months of combat in and around Fallujah, Iraq. 

    Healey led a platoon of 46 men, all of whom survived combat southwest of Fallujah, he said. They fought on farmland and near canals, trying to avoid roadside bombs and gunmen. 

    Iraqis fighting U.S. forces "don’t wear a uniform, they wear the same clothes as everyone else," Healey said. "The only difference is they may pop out and take a few shots at you and then they’ll hide their rifle and blend in with the local population." 

    Healey, a 32-year-old Marine reservist who lives in Shrewsbury, was greeted by many family members, including his wife, Carolyn. The couple had already seen each other last weekend when Carolyn flew to California, where the regiment was staying temporarily after returning to America. 

    For other Marines, yesterday’s 9 a.m. arrival was the first chance to see friends and family since their deployment began last December. Some Marines came home to babies born while they were overseas. 

    Cpl. Patrick Foley, 24, of Bellingham held Emma, his 2-month-old daughter, for the first time. "She’s smiling at you," his wife, Melissa, told him. 

    Patrick and Melissa have been married five years and have three children, Melissa said. 

    Like most wives and family members, Melissa was told little about combat while Patrick was in Iraq. Marines are not supposed to reveal details over the phone, said Maegan Henderson of Ashland, who met her fiance, Jason Cox, when the Marines arrived in Devens yesterday. 

    "It’s all pretty much classified information," she said. "They can’t say a lot just in case the phones are being listened to." 

    The 1st Battalion, 25th Regiment went to the Marine base at Twentynine Palms, Calif., in early January to train for combat, said regiment spokesman Gunnery Sgt. Pete Walz. The regiment, mostly reservists from Massachusetts, Maine, New Hampshire and Connecticut, arrived in Iraq in March, he said. The Marines will be on leave most of November and their deployments officially end on Nov. 30, he said. 

    The regiment has members from Milford, Dedham, Framingham, Hopkinton, Hudson, Maynard, Marlborough, Newton, Southborough, Westborough, Uxbridge and other MetroWest communities. 

    Kevin Dertsakian of Waltham turned 20 years old while in Iraq. Dertsakian is an intelligence analyst who gathered information on the enemy’s location and key leaders, he said. The young man did not have to fight. 

    "I was lucky enough to never get shot at or hurt," he said. "It’s definitely a hostile place, but when Marines are over there we always do our best to make the best of it." 

    Cpl. Bryan Sullivan of Milton, 22, now walks with a cane after bones in both of his feet were broken by a bomb detonated underneath the Humvee on which he was a turret gunner. 

    The bomb exploded June 6, he said. "It was 6/6/6. It was pretty messed up," Sullivan said. 

    Sullivan returned to the United States early because of the injury, but went to the former Army base at Devens yesterday to see his platoon mates. 

    Family members and friends started gathering at Devens at 7 a.m., two hours before the Marines arrived by bus. Karen Cote of Sudbury said she endured a worrisome seven months while her son, 23-year-old Jared Wimberly, was a turret gunner in and around Fallujah. 

    "It’s very difficult every day, when you would hear that a Marine had died but they wouldn’t announce the name until the family had been notified," Cote said. 

    Wimberly, a lance corporal, saw more combat than anticipated, Cote said. 

    "Their initial job was to go over and train the Iraqi army but I think they ended up being in much more combat than they would have expected," she said. 

    Now that he’s home, Dertsakian of Waltham said he will become a jeweler, joining the family business. 

    Healey will return to work at Staples headquarters in Framingham, and go on the honeymoon he and his wife never had. They are planning a two-week trip to Hawaii in January, Carolyn Healey said. 

    The Healeys got married in Pawtucket, R.I., two days before Dan shipped out. It was a "full-blown wedding" with a big turnout, Carolyn said. But the following months apart were a trial for her. 

    "It’s been a long year," she said, "a long, terrifying year." 

    Jon Brodkin can be reached at 508-626-4424 or jbrodkin@cnc.com.

 

THIS IS THE ARTICLE ON MY SON"S HOMECOMING -- Lin

 

Boston.com

THIS STORY HAS BEEN FORMATTED FOR EASY PRINTING
The Associated Press

Hundreds of Bay State marines come home from Iraq

October 26, 2006

DEVENS, Mass. --Hundreds of Marines from Massachusetts were welcomed home Thursday morning after several months in Iraq by thousands of happy, teary and relieved relatives.

"I'm so happy he's home. So relieved," Julie A. Wenck of Milford, who was there to greet her nephew, Lance Cpl. Brian Shepard, told The Telegram & Gazette of Worcester.

The Marines, members of the 1st Battalion, 25th Infantry, marched onto the field in formation at Devens Reserve Force Training and remaining straight-faced before both sides rushed toward each other.

Eleven members of the unit died in Iraq.

The Marines actually left Iraq more than a week ago, but spent 10 days at Camp Pendleton, Calif., before flying to Westover Air Force Base in Chicopee on Thursday morning.

"Thank God they are home," Harriet Pugsley, 82, of Braintree, the mother of two Vietnam veterans and grandmother of three of the Marines who returned home Thursday, told the Patriot Ledger of Quincy. "They are home and here to stay."

The unit was called in to duty a year ago, and deployed to Fallujah, where they spent seven months. 

© Copyright 2006 The New York Times Company
 

 

'Now, I can breathe':130 Marines from Londonderry unit return to cheers, hugs

By Terry Date , Staff writer
Eagle-Tribune

Copyright © 1999-2006 cnhi, inc.

NASHUA - More than 100 Marines came home last night to rousing cheers and embraces, a stark contrast to the regular gunfire and bomb blasts the infantry unit endured over the past seven months in Fallujah, Iraq.

The reunion couldn't take place soon enough for the 1,000 wives, mothers, brothers and sisters shoulder to shoulder in the stands at Nashua South High School.

"Now I can breathe," Paula Kvetkosky of Londonderry said, relieved that her son, Lance Cpl. Tom Kvetkosky, was home. The corporal's father, Rich, said he could now retire a banner that had been hanging in his son's bedroom.

Starting at 9:15 p.m., one by one, Marine reservists from Bravo Company, 1st Battalion, 25th Marine Regiment in Londonderry strode into the gym in their light camouflage uniforms, placing their green packs on the floor. With each arrival the tension for the awaited reunion grew. Marines gazed into the crowd for familiar faces and waved to the clapping and elated crowd.

As the floor filled with Marines, they grew more animated, responding to the crowd's yells, claps and hollers. One Marine hopped on another Marine's back and waved to the crowd.

After speeches and award ceremonies, the Marines, who spent seven months in Fallujah as part of one year on active duty, were dismissed. Many of them hugged each other as their loved ones poured from the stands.

Six-foot-five Tom Kvetkosky of Londonderry lifted his diminutive wife, Jaimie, overhead near center court. She clung to his neck and they spun around surrounded by similar family reunions. The couple had married just before the Marine left for Iraq.

Kvetkosky's brother Joe, who was deployed the last time the Londonderry Marine unit was activated in 2003, tussled brother Tom's hair.

Their mother, Paula, and father, Rich, took turns hugging their boy. Tom Kvetkosky said he was delighted to be home. His wife cried.

Nearby, Leo and Pat Driscoll of Andover, Mass., hugged their son, Lance Cpl. Brian Driscoll. Pat Driscoll said her stomach had been in knots all day.

"I'm very thankful that he's home safe and sound, that's for sure," she said.

Her red-haired son grinned ear to ear. He just wants to relax with loved ones for a couple of days and enjoy some peace and quiet, and play some golf.

Mother Marie Goulet of Methuen, Mass., said she was so excited to see her son, Cpl. Robert Goulet, return home she had a hard time working at the Dunkin' Donuts, where she's a manager.

"I'm so excited. Oh, my God, I'm so proud of him," she said.

Three of the Bravo Company Marines - two from Methuen - received Purple Hearts at the ceremony. They were Cpl. William Moran, 25, and Cpl. Craig Sullivan, 24. Cpl. Donald Weeks also received the Purple Heart, which is presented to members of the armed forces who are wounded or killed in action against an enemy.

The entire company, part of a more than 700-member battalion of Marines and Navy corpsmen, faced adversity in their daily operations.

"They put their necks on the line every day," Major Brian Hoffman said.

Moran, Sullivan and other injured Marines from the company who had returned home earlier greeted their comrades. Some of the injured held crutches or were in wheelchairs.

Sgt. Patrick Igo, 29, of Boothwyn, Pa., has undergone eight operations since an improvised explosive device blew up the vehicle in which he was traveling in Fallujah. He said he received third-degree burns, and shrapnel tore open his left leg, his neck and jaw.

Igo said he couldn't wait to see his buddies. "It's like Christmas. If it wasn't for them I wouldn't be here," he said.

Marine Lance Cpl. Joe Saccardo of Everett, Mass., and Cpl. Stephen Zussman of California, dragged Igo from the burning vehicle and down the street to a courtyard, where they bandaged the wounded Marine and had him flown to safety.

Saccardo, surrounded by family and friends at the gym, said it was such a relief to be around people he could trust.

Bravo Company's successes included capturing infamous Iraqis. They trained Iraqi soldiers, which, according to several accounts, could be trying. The Marines had a name for an action the Iraqi soldiers undertook when under fire or spooked. The Marines called it a "death blossom." The Iraqi soldiers would form a circle and fire automatic weapons into the air and around them indiscriminately.

September was a difficult month for the Marines, Saccardo said, as nine members of his platoon were wounded.

In August, two Bravo Company Marines who had come from a different unit to augment Bravo, were killed. Capt. John McKenna IV, a New York state trooper from Brooklyn, and Lance Cpl. Michael Glover, of Far Rockaway, were killed Aug. 16 on combat operations. Bravo Company is primarily made up of reservists from New Hampshire and Massachusetts.

When not patrolling, operating checkpoints and capturing enemies, they are police officers, salesmen and college students.

Now they can return to their regular lives.

 

TROOP SUPPORT IN CONNECTICUT

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Basically, 'Troop Support' in Connecticut comes to us via two avenues.  One avenue would be our various official, governmental agencies which provide troops and their families with various types of assistance, information, and services during times of stateside or overseas duty tours.  The other very important avenue of support for our service people and their families in Connecticut comes to us through wonderful, dedicated people who establish programs, projects, and organizations which seek to meet service related needs.

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Below you will find links to three 'message boards' on this website.  Clicking the link (title) will take you to that specific message board.  You can also access the boards by using the side panel on this website to the left of this web page. 

One board (CT Agencies) will list official, governmental agencies for troop and troop family assistance.  The other board (We Care) will list organizations, projects, and programs established throughout our state by private individuals who are attempting to actively support, encourage, and assist our troops and their families.  The third board (Events - Troops Support) will give specific events taking place in our state for Troop support.

The name of the organization, project, or program spoken of in each message will be listed in the message's 'subject line' so that you can find the message you are looking for more easily.

 

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PLEASE ADD TO THESE MESSAGE BOARDS!!! 

  • Click on the link below where you wish to leave information concerning help for the troops and their families
  • Click on the 'new message' section that will appear above the list of all of the messages that are already on the board
  • Place the 'name' of the organization, project, program, and/or people in the 'subject line' when the window opens for you to leave your message
  • Type your message concerning the people you would like the troops and their families to know about
  • Be sure to leave information in the message that tells others how to reach the people you are speaking of
  • Press 'send' and the message will be posted to either the 'CT Agencies', 'We Care', or 'Events - Troops Support'  message board, depending on which one you have selected to post to     

 

"CT AGENCIES"

(click title above for list of agencies)

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"WE CARE"

(click title above for list of organizations / programs)

 

 

 

 

"Events - Troop Support"

(click title above for list of events in CT)

 

 

IRaqi Patch 

 

Thank you very much for helping to provide information to our troops and their families in Connecticut!

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VETERAN SUPPORT IN CONNECTICUT

 

 

 

TO ADD TO THE ABOVE MESSAGE BOARDS:

  • Click on the link where you wish to leave information
  • Click on the 'new message' section that will appear above the list of all of the messages that are already on the board
  • Place the 'name' or 'title' of that which you will be speaking about in the 'subject line' when the window opens for you to leave your message
  • Type your message for the veterans and their families
  • If it applies, be sure to leave information in the message that tells how to contact that which you are speaking of
  • Press 'send' and the message will be posted to the message board you have selected   

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Connecticut Department of Labor
Veterans' Service Organizations

http://www.ctdol.state.ct.us/veterans/service-org.htm#amerlegion

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The Connecticut Department of Labor website listed above gives the contact information, website location, and organization details for the following groups ( you can also click on the links below):

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PLEASE REMEMBER THOSE WHO GAVE THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE TO SERVE THIS COUNTRY AND PLEASE ALSO REMEMBER THEIR FAMILIES

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PLEASE REMEMBER THOSE WHO ARE BOUND AS POW, THOSE LISTED AS MIA, AND THEIR FAMILIES THAT LOVE THEM AND WAIT FOR THEIR RETURN

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VETERANS OF FOREIGN WARS OF THE UNITED STATES

Post 296 -- Winsted, CT

Seicheprey Post

114 Colebrook River Road
Route 8    Winsted, CT 06098
Mailing Address
Post 296 - Seicheprey Post

114 Colebrook River Road

PO Box 53

Winsted, CT 06098

Phone Number
(860) 379-3489

Ask for Beverly

Email Address

vfwpost296@yahoo.com

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All meetings are held at the Post Headquarters:

2 miles north of Winsted on Old Route 8

(just north of the Rte 8 / Rte 20 intersection)

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VFW Members’ Meetings:

Held monthly on the third Wednesday of every month at 7:00 PM

VFW Ladies’ Auxiliary Meetings:

Held monthly on the third Tuesday of every month at 7:30 PM

(No meetings in July or August)

Men’s Auxiliary Meetings:

Held monthly on the fourth Wednesday of every month at 7:30 PM

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POST 296 MONTHLY MEETINGS

POST WEBSITE

http://www.geocities.com/vfwpost296/

eMail Post 296 Webmaster:

vfwpost296@yahoo.com 

 

 

 

 

WATER-OAK Veterans Of Foreign Wars POST 5157

Route 6 Watertown, CT. 06795   

Established December 18. 1945

 

WEBSITE:

http://www.vfw5157.com/

EMAIL:

Webmaster@vfw5157.com

 

Contact Jim Byrnes 

860-274-1573  for more information

 

 

 

McEvoy - Dempsey Post # 10585

Veterans of Foreign Wars

Derby, CT

Location:  corner of Atwater and Seymour Avenues in Derby

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For information about the Post and the Veterans of Foreign Wars

Contact:

Bernard Williamson

45 Coppola Terrace

Derby, CT 06418

(203)735-3581

email - bwilliamson@snet.net

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MEETINGS

The Post holds monthly meetings on the third Thursday of each month at 11:00 a.m.

The meetings are held in the Post Home located on the corner of Atwater and Seymour Avenues in Derby

Any and all veterans are invited to attend these meetings

Please Note: No meetings in July and August

 


 

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VETERANS ASSISTANCE LINKS FOR ALL FIFTY STATES

click here: http://groups.msn.com/ConnecticutBlueStarMothers/militarywebsite.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=855&LastModified=4675610549632970961

 

 

A LISTING OF WEBSITES TO HELP OUR TROOPS AND OUR VETERANS

A LISTING OF PROJECTS AND PROGRAMS

A LISTING OF FAITH BASED WEBSITES

PAGES TO HONOR THOSE THAT SERVE

PICTURES WE PRIDE

ARTICLES OF INTEREST

IN THE NEWS

EVENTS YOU MAY WANT TO ATTEND 

 

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If You Wish To Leave Information On Any Of The Message Boards Listed Above:

  • Click on the link where you wish to leave information
  • Click on the 'new message' section that will appear above the list of all of the messages that are already on the board
  • Place the 'name' or 'title' of that which you will be speaking about in the 'subject line' when the window opens for you to leave your message
  • Type the message you would like to leave on the board
  • If it applies, be sure to leave information in the message that tells how to contact that which you are speaking of
  • Press 'send' and the message will be posted to the message board you have selected   

 

 

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We Thank Our Troops, Our Veterans, And All Military Families For the Service And Sacrifice They Have Given To Our Country, Our Way Of Life, And To The Cause Of Freedom, Justice, And Peace Throughout The World!!! 

 

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MIPT TERRIORISM KNOWLEDGE BASE http://www.tkb.org/Home.jsp

      
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         Other MIPT systems: 
        
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HOMELAND SECURITY EMERGENCY EMAIL
 
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GOVERNMENT BOOKLET -- WEAPONS OF MASS DESTRUCTION COMBAT STRATEGY 

 

"PURE PURSUIT INTELLIGENCE NETWORK"
with Nena Wiley 
 
 

 

United American Civil Taskforce
 
 

 

TERRORIST WARNING.com  http://www.terroristwarning.com 
 

  

United States Action
 
 

 

Excessive Heat Event Operations

The U.S. Environmental Protection Agency has produced the Excessive Heat Events Guidebook with assistance from Federal, state and local and
academic partners.

Designed to help community officials, emergency managers,
meteorologists, and others plan for and respond to excessive heat
events, the guidebook highlights best practices that have been employed
to save lives during excessive heat events in different urban areas and
provides a menu of options that officials can use to respond to these
events in their communities.

 
 
http://epa.gov/heatisland/about/heatguidebook.html

 

THE EMERGENCY EMAIL NETWORK (Get notified of an emergency from your local, regional, and national government sources)  http://www.emergencyemail.org/

 

 
TERRORIST WARNINGS  http://www.terroristwarning.com 
 
HOMELAND SECURITY GROUP  http://www.homelandsecuritygroup.info/ 
 
CENTRAL INTELLIGENCE AGENCY  http://www.cia.gov/index.html 
 
NATIONAL GOVERNERS ASSOCIATION (security page)  http://www.nga.org/center/security 
 
TERRORIST WARNING.com www.TerroristWarning.com 
 
BIO TERRORISM NEWS.com www.BioTerrorismNews.com 
 
HOMELAND SECURITY INDUSTRY NEWS.com www.HomelandSecurityIndustryNews.com 
 
AGRI TERROR.com  www.AgriTerror.com
 
UNITED AMERICAN CIVIL TASK FORCE  http://www.uact.us/
 
 

 

For Immediate Release
January 17, 2007

Washington D.C.
FBI National Press Office
(202) 324-3691

FBI Launches E-Mail Alerts on Public Website

 Washington, D.C.— To improve public safety and law enforcement partnerships, the FBI recently launched a service that sends out e-mail alerts when new and vital information is posted on its Internet website.

“Through these alerts, the FBI’s breaking news and information comes straight to you—to your PC, laptop, or wireless device,” said John Miller, Assistant Director for Public Affairs. “It’s a fast, effective way of keeping our partners and the public informed about terrorist threats, missing kids, wanted fugitives, emerging scams, major cases, and more. And most importantly, it will help us do a better job of catching criminals and keeping the American people safe.”

Signing up is easy. Just click on the red envelope icons found on the FBI’s main website at http://www.fbi.gov and on the websites of its 56 field offices nationwide. No personal information is required, just an e-mail address where the alerts will be sent. Subscribers select which topics that they want updates on, such as new e-scams and warnings, most wanted terrorists, top ten fugitives, and national and local press releases. The alerts are sent as soon as updates are posted on the FBI website or in daily, weekly, or monthly digests.

Since launching the service in October, the FBI has e-mailed more than 600,000 alerts to nearly 14,000 subscribers.

Through its website, the FBI has also begun providing RSS (Really Simple Syndication) news feeds for press releases, top stories, and other breaking news. Go to http://www.fbi.gov/rss.htm for details.

The FBI website, which is visited by 2-3 million people from around the world each month, has been an important public safety and communications tool for more than a decade. On the site, you can report crime, help find fugitives and missing persons, apply for a job, request FBI records, get tips on how to “be crime smart,” and learn how to do business with the Bureau.

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Dear Veterans,

To assist you in applying for a post-service medal, you can acquaint yourself with the official military medal regulations at this site: U.S. Military Medal Issue
Regulations
http://www.amervets.com/replacement/isr.htm

How To Apply for Post-Service Medal
Authorization
http://members.aol.com/forvets/htom.htm

Contact Person for inquiry regarding this Posting:

Mr. Roger Simpson, PIO
http://www.13105320634.com

The American War Library
http://www.amervets.com

Building Two, 16907 Brighton Avenue

Gardena CA 90247-5420

1-310-532-0634

  

Veterans Day, 2006
A Proclamation by the President of the United States of America

Through the generations, America's men and women in uniform have defeated tyrants, liberated continents, and set a standard of courage and idealism for the entire world. On Veterans Day, our Nation pays tribute to those who have proudly served in our Armed Forces.

To protect the Nation they love, our veterans stepped forward when America needed them most. In conflicts around the world, their sacrifice and resolve helped destroy the enemies of freedom and saved millions from oppression. In answering history's call with honor, decency, and resolve, our veterans have shown the power of liberty and earned the respect and admiration of a grateful Nation.

All of America's veterans have placed our Nation's security before their own lives, creating a debt that we can never fully repay. Our veterans represent the best of America, and they deserve the best America can give them.

As we recall the service of our Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen, Marines, and Coast Guardsmen, we are reminded that the defense of freedom comes with great loss and sacrifice. This Veterans Day, we give thanks to those who have served freedom's cause; we salute the members of our Armed Forces who are confronting our adversaries abroad; and we honor the men and women who left America's shores but did not live to be thanked as veterans. They will always be remembered by our country.

With respect for and in recognition of the contributions our service men and women have made to the cause of peace and freedom around the world, the Congress has provided (5 U.S.C. 6103(a)) that November 11 of each year shall be set aside as a legal public holiday to honor veterans.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, GEORGE W. BUSH, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim November 11, 2006, as Veterans Day and urge all Americans to observe November 5 through November 11, 2006, as National Veterans Awareness Week. I encourage all Americans to recognize the valor and sacrifice of our veterans through ceremonies and prayers. I call upon Federal, State, and local officials to display the flag of the United States and to support and participate in patriotic activities in their communities. I invite civic and fraternal organizations, places of worship, schools, businesses, unions, and the media to support this national observance with commemorative expressions and programs.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirty-first day of October, in the year of our Lord two thousand six, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-first.

 

GEORGE W. BUSH

 

 

The Veterans Pride Initiative

 

Q.  What is the Veterans Pride initiative?

A.  The Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) launched the Veterans Pride initiative to rally America's veterans and their survivors around the cause of expressing patriotism and pride in past military service.  Veterans Affairs Secretary the Honorable R. James Nicholson has encouraged America’s veterans to join in wearing their medals or miniature replicas on national holidays beginning with the nation's Nov. 11 celebration of Veterans Day 2006.  Veterans organizations are cosponsoring the show of pride and will be urging members to proudly display their decorations on their civilian attire on patriotic national holidays.

Q.  Where did the Veterans Pride initiative come from?

A.  During recent international travel, Secretary Nicholson became aware of a similar tradition in Australia and New Zealand.  In observing the annual April 25 holiday in those countries honoring the Australian and New Zealand Army Corps (ANZAC), a tradition evolved wearing medals on ANZAC Day at ceremonies and marches as a show of pride and, in more recent years, with children of veterans wearing a deceased parent's medals.

Q.  I have misplaced one or more of my medals.  How can I get replacements?

A.  An Internet search for "military medals" will generate considerable advertising links from private firms selling replica medals including miniatures.  Retirees may wish to check with military exchanges or military clothing stores.  Under certain circumstances official replacements for lost or damaged medals may be obtained from the government by veterans by sending a request to the appropriate branch of service.  More information and links to initiate requests are available at http://www.va.gov/veteranspride/.

Q.  If I request my duplicate medals from the government, will I receive them in time for Veterans Day this year?

A.  The speed of fulfillment varies by military service and the availability of records. But order now to be ready for next year if you qualify for replacements at government expense.

Q.  On what holidays does VA recommend veterans wear their medals?

A.  VA encourages veterans to wear decorations on Veterans Day, July Fourth and Memorial Day. 

Q.  I'm not sure I recall correctly what medals I received.  Where can I obtain this information?

A.  Service histories are available from government archives to veterans and to their next of kin.  Information about these sources and request procedures is available at VA's Web page on the Veterans Pride initiative at http://www.va.gov/veteranspride/.

Q.  How should the medals be worn?

A.  Veterans are encouraged to wear their decorations on their civilian clothing over the left breast.  Other guidance such as order of precedence of various decorations is available in links at http://www.va.gov/veteranspride/.

Q.  I have seen news articles reporting on concerns about veterans wearing medals they did not earn, including possible legislation.  How does that work with this initiative?

A.  The primary concern you reference has been where individuals have represented themselves to have had military service -- combat zone or other experience -- that is not true, or claiming high-profile medals that they did not earn.  VA views this as a different matter than a veteran wearing his or her earned honors.  VA does not encourage veterans to wear medals where there is uncertainty about their service records.

 

 

 

The Mothers, Fathers, and Associates
of the
CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS
CT Chapter One - Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.
 
Send Heartfelt Thanks to Each Veteran and Their Families on this
Veterans Day - November 11, 2006
 
VETERANS DAY TRIBUTE
Thank you for your service -- Thank you for your sacrifice
Official Chapter Statement
Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers

  

As we all watch the sun fall in the West, let us think about the hope of the morning dawn as it rises in the East.

With each new day, let us remember

All those who gave their yesterdays
All those who left their youth on the battlefield
All those who still wait to see the sun rise in American soil
All those who continue to serve Our Nation.

Our military, our Veterans, our POWs, our families along with the families of the Fallen
have kept the flame of Freedom burning and the hope of Peace a reality
We thank them for our tomorrows.




Susan Naill, Past National President, BSMA
Proud Mom of Jason (USMC Persian Gulf)
TODAY'S MILITARY -- TOMORROW'S VETERAN

 

  

 
The 2006 edition of the popular publication Federal Benefits for Veterans and Dependents is now available on-line at
 
 
The booklet updates the rates for certain federal payments and outlines a variety of programs and services provided by VA and other federal agencies. It also includes toll-free phone numbers, Internet addresses and a directory of VA facilities throughout the country
 

 

AMERICAN LEGION
 
An alphabetical directory of American Legion Post locations in all 50 States.
 
 

 

ORDER OF THE SILVER ROSE 
 
"It is the Mission of this organization to recognize the Courage, Heroism, and contributions of American service personnel found to have been exposed to Agent Orange Dioxins, chemicals and biological exposures and bring it to the attention of the Veterans and civilian community in America with the presentation of the Prestigious Silver Rose Award to all whom are eligible."
 

 

Technology Identifies Veterans at Risk for Diabetic Eye Disease

February 15, 2007

Secretary Nicholson: “Important Initiative for Veterans”

WASHINGTON  – Many veterans with diabetes are getting initial screening for possible eye disease during their Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) primary care appointments, thanks to a national tele-retinal imaging program now in place at the majority of VA hospitals and clinics.

“This leading-edge technology will make a difference for our nation’s veterans.  One out of every five VA patients has diabetes,” said Secretary of Veterans Affairs Jim Nicholson.  “Early detection of retinal abnormalities is essential in preventing vision loss from diabetes.  This is another example of VA’s commitment to provide world-class care to our nation’s veterans.”  

This new procedure, which screens patients for diabetic retinopathy, does not take the place of a dilated eye exam.  Veterans with known retinopathy or laser treatment will be seen in eye clinics, along with high risk patients such as those with pregnancy or renal disease.  The new procedure is a good initial way, however, to identify patients at risk for visual loss from diabetes. 

Patients are scheduled for the imaging via the computerized patient record system (CPRS). The images taken of the retina at the clinics are sent to an image reading center, where an eye care specialist determines the need for further care.

Diabetic retinopathy causes 12,000 to 24,000 new cases of blindness each year in the United States, making diabetes the leading cause of new cases of blindness in adults 20-74 years of age.

The tele-retinal imaging program is just one year old this month and expected to expand significantly in the coming year.  VA collaborated with the Department of Defense and the Joslin Diabetes Center in Boston.

the technology involving digital retinal imaging and remote image interpretations to assess for levels of diabetic retinopathy.  This is another example of how VA has achieved efficiency and quality of care for its patients with diabetes that exceeds that in the private sector.

Diabetes is one target of a major VA program designed to reduce the high rates of illness caused by obesity.  Called MOVE -- for “Managing Overweight Veterans Everywhere” -- it encourages veterans to increase their physical activity and improve their nutrition.  Further information is available at www.move.va.gov.

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Find Article at United States Department of Veterans Affairs  http://www1.va.gov/opa/pressrel/pressrelease.cfm?id=1297

 

 

 

 
This Announcement Can Be Found On The Military.com Website:
 

Free Legal Help for Veterans

Week of July 23, 2007

The law firm of Womble Carlyle Sandridge & Rice PLLC, recently announced its Washington, D.C., pro bono project "When Duty Calls." Womble Carlyle will host the program in an effort to provide military veterans with pro bono legal assistance in the initial stages of disability claims filed with the Department of Veterans Affairs. For more information, read the article on the Military.com website at www.military.com/opinion/0,15202,142517,00.html?wh=wh.

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http://wildgun1.com 
 
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This public domain and non-profit list of available private attorneys is maintained as a public service in honor of the nation's military veterans who seek representation for VA benefits. All listed attorneys are admitted to practice before the VA, the United States Court of Appeals for Veterans Claims (CAVC), and the United States Court of Appeals for the Federal Circuit. All are members of the National Organization of Veterans Advocates, Inc. (NOVA). For more information on NOVA, see www.vetadvocates.com . Such veteran's attorneys are difficult to locate since there are only a few hundred in the entire United States.

Veterans and dependents are invited to contact these attorneys about representation, attorney fees, expenses, and the procedural requirements for retaining an attorney. All names are listed with permission.

States represented:FLINMIMNMTNJNCOHTXVAWV
FloridaOther Information
Lisa A. Lee
Lee Law Firm
830-13 A1A North, Suite 158
Ponte Vedra Beach, FL32082
phone: (904) 223-1974
fax: (904) 223-3208
email:
lisaalee66@msn.com
web site:
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information: Law Practice limited to representing Veterans and Dependents.
  
IndianaOther Information
Wade R. Bosley
Bosley, Schatz, Bolinger & McKown
1320 Johnson Street, P.O. Box 1223
Marion, IN  46952
phone: (765) 668-7531
fax: (765) 662-1156
email:
wbosley@lawyers4veterans.com
web site:
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information: Serving America's Veterans.
  
MichiganOther Information
Michael R. Viterna
Fausone, Taylor & Bohn LLP
41820 West Six Mile Road, Ste. 103
Northville MI 48167
phone: (248) 380-0000
fax: (248) 380-3434
email:
mviterna@ftblaw.com
web site: www.legalhelpforveterans.com
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information: Practice concentrates in VA appeals.
  
Minnesota

Other Information

Dennis L. Peterson
Peterson & Fishman P.L.L.P.
3009 Holmes Avenue South
Minneapolis, MN  55408
phone: (612) 827-8123
fax:
email:
Dennis@petersonfishman.com
web site: www.petersonfishman.com
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information: Offices in Minneapolis and Phoenix.
Rebecca B. Wong and
Theresa A. Capistrant
Capistrant & Associates
3009 Holmes Avenue South
Minneapolis, MN 55408
phone: (612) 827-6300
fax: (612) 827-8916
email:
becca@capistrantlaw.com
web site: www.capistrantlaw.com
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at levels: YES
Other Information: Represents at Regional Offices, Board of Veterans' Appeals, and U.S. Court of Appeals for Veterans Claims.
  
Montana

Other Information

Robert M. Kampfer
Attorney at Law
P.O. Box 1946
Great Falls, MT  59403
phone: (406)727-9540
fax: (406) 453-5901
email:
rkampfer@strainbld.com
web site:
 
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information:
  
New Jersey

Other Information

Lewis C. Fichera
773 W. Atlantic Avenue
Sewell, NJ 08080-1502
phone: (856) 468-3000
fax: (856) 468-3089
email:
lcfichera@yahoo.com
web site: www.lewisfichera.com
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information: Represents veterans before agency and federal court. Practice also includes Social Security disability appeals to agency and federal court.
  
North CarolinaOther Information
Michael A. Leonard
Attorney at Law
P.O. Box 15085
Wilmington, NC  28408
Toll free: (877) 657-5803
Fax:
(910) 452-5234
email:  
email: VETSLAW@hotmail.com
Web site:  
www.VETS-LAW.com

NOVA Member:  YES
Admitted to CAVC:  YES
Represents at all levels:  YES
Other Information:  Former VA Deputy Assistant General Counsel with Practice Dedicated Exclusively to Representing Veterans and Dependents.

  
Ohio 
Barbara Cook
917 Main St., Suite 300
Cincinnati, OH 45202
phone: (513) 751-4010
toll-free: (800) 934-5059
fax: (513) 977-4221

NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information:

  
TexasOther Information
Jill Mitchell   
5780 Rawhide Trail
Bulverde, TX 78163
phone: (830) 438-8311
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Practice limited to representing veterans and their dependents.
  
VirginiaOther Information
Marshall O. Potter
Attorney at Law
912 College Street
Vienna, VA 22180
phone: (703) 938-3220
fax: (703) 938-3680
email:
mpotterjr@cox.net
web site:
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information: Practice limited exclusively to Veterans Law. Former Board of Veterans Appeals Counsel. 25 years experience.
  
West VirginiaOther Information
Richard Paul Cohen
Cohen, Abate & Cohen, L.C.
114 High Street, P.O. Box 846
Morgantown, WV  26507
phone: (304) 292-1911
fax: (304) 292-9575
email:
wvajustice@netscape.net
    and wvjustice@msn.cpm 
web site:
www.wvajustice.com
NOVA Member: YES
Admitted to CAVC: YES
Represents at all levels: YES
Other Information: Represents Social Security, Workers Compensation, and Federal Disability cases; Represents Consumer Law.
  
  

 

Veterans Day, 2007
A Proclamation By the President of the United States of America
 
Throughout our history, America has been protected by patriots who cherished liberty and made great sacrifices to advance the cause of freedom. The brave members of the United States Armed Forces have answered the call to serve our Nation, ready to give all for their country. On Veterans Day, we honor these extraordinary Americans for their service and sacrifice, and we pay tribute to the legacy of freedom and peace that they have given our great Nation.
 
In times of war and of peace, our men and women in uniform stepped forward to defend their fellow citizens and the country they love. They shouldered great responsibility and lived up to the highest standards of duty and honor. Our veterans held fast against determined and ruthless enemies and helped save the world from tyranny and terror. They ensured that America remained what our founders meant her to be: a light to the nations, spreading the good news of human freedom to the darkest corners of the earth.
 
Like the heroes before them, today a new generation of men and women are fighting for freedom around the globe. Their determination, courage, and sacrifice are laying the foundation for a more secure and peaceful world.
 
Veterans Day is dedicated to the extraordinary Americans who protected our freedom in years past, and to those who protect it today. They represent the very best of our Nation. Every Soldier, Sailor, Airman, Marine, and Coast Guardsman has earned the lasting gratitude of the American people, and their service and sacrifice will be remembered forever. In the words of Abraham Lincoln: " . . . let us strive on to finish the work we are in, to bind up the Nation's wounds, to care for him who shall have borne the battle . . . ." On this Veterans Day, I ask all Americans to express their appreciation to our Nation's veterans.
 
With respect for and in recognition of the contributions our service men and women have made to the cause of peace and freedom around the world, the Congress has provided (5 U.S.C. 6103(a)) that November 11 of each year shall be set aside as a legal public holiday to honor our Nation's veterans.
 
NOW, THEREFORE, I, GEORGE W. BUSH, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim November 11, 2007, as Veterans Day and urge all Americans to observe November 11 through November 17, 2007, as National Veterans Awareness Week. I encourage all Americans to recognize the valor and sacrifice of our veterans through ceremonies and prayers. I call upon Federal, State, and local officials to display the flag of the United States and to support and participate in patriotic activities in their communities. I invite civic and fraternal organizations, places of worship, schools, businesses, unions, and the media to support this national observance with commemorative expressions and programs.
 
IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirty-first day of October, in the year of our Lord two thousand seven, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-second.
GEORGE W. BUSH

 

The Mothers, Fathers, and Associates
of the
CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS
CT Chapter One - Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.
 
~~ With Great Appreciation For Our Freedoms ~~ 
Wish Each Service Member And Veteran
A VETERANS DAY FILLED WITH HOPE

YOUR SERVICE TO OUR COUNTRY IS APPRECIATED
NO WORDS CAN BEGIN TO THANK YOU ENOUGH
 
 
 
 
 
Thank you for your service -- Thank you for your sacrifice
Official Chapter Statement
Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers
 
VETERANS DAY 2007
 
 


 

NON Taxable Veteran Benefits

Subject: [VeteranIssues] Payments Under VA CWT Program Are Nontaxable Veterans' Benefits , CWT program pays vets to work in VA facilities

http://www.centerfortaxstudies.com/blog/taxnews/2007/11/19/payments_under_va_cwt_program_are_nontax_69
 
Payments Under VA CWT Program Are Nontaxable Veterans' Benefits (Rev. Rul. 2007-69)
 
The IRS has ruled that payments made by the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs under the Compensated Work Therapy (CWT) Program are exempt from federal income tax as veterans' benefits. The ruling reflects the IRS's acquiescence (TAXDAY, 2007/10/29, I.5) to the Tax Court's decision in R. Wallace , 128 TC 132, Dec. 56,899 (TAXDAY, 2007/04/17, J.1), that payments received under the CWT Program constitute nontaxable veterans' benefit under 38 U.S.C. §5301 (as cross-referenced in Code Sec. 140(a)(3)).
 
The IRS noted that the legislative history for Code Sec. 134, which provides an exclusion from gross income for qualified military benefits, indicates that veterans' benefits under 38 U.S.C. §3101 (now 38 U.S.C. §5301) constitute qualified military benefits. The IRS further ruled that, because payments made under the CWT Program are exempt from federal income tax, they are not required to be reported on an information return.

Rev. Rul. 65-18, 1965-1 CB 32, is revoked and Rev. Rul. 72-605, 1972-2 CB 35, is amplified.

Rev. Rul. 2007-69, 2007FED ¶46,715

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This is an interesting IRS decision that could have an impact on tens of thousands of veterans.

The CWT program pays vets to work in VA facilities as part of their therapy.  They could be transitioning out of a homeless program or drug / alcohol rehab.

Vets are usually paid minimum wage (based on the state in which they are working).

The VA has issued 1099 forms at the end of each year to CWT workers.
Although the VA has told many vets that their CWT earnings are not taxable, the IRS has "nailed" many vets, claiming it is income.

So...if you have received CWT compensation and paid taxes on it, you should file amended returns to get the money back because CWT pay has been ruled a BENEFIT and NOT income.

Be sure to cite IRS Rule 2007-69.
_________________

PS -- be sure to also remember that Veterans Disability Payments are NOT taxable.....
 
http://www.vawatchdog.org/07/nf07/nfNOV07/nf112007-3.htm 

 

 

Jo Brandt is a wonderful and caring person that I met online through the military ministry that she and her friend Bev co-own, and that Danny helps them moderate.  The name of their group is Veterans Wives and Families and it can be found at the following website locations:

WEBSITE LOCATION:
   
     GROUP LOCATION:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Veterans_Wives-Families/ 
TO JOIN:
 
Jo knows so much about veteran's issues, the military, military life, the things that those serving our country are facing, and  important political infomation that affect both veterans and present military personnel alike.  
 
She is friendly and outgoing, and you will not feel a moments hesitation in approaching her to ask a question.  You can reach her on her message board here:  http://groups.msn.com/WomenofMinistryWomenofFaith/militaryinfo.msnw 
or via her email address:
 
I am a member and I recommend the group very highly!
 
 
 

 

Military Support, now and always!

VETERANS WIVES and FAMILIES honor all military service members, past, present, future, whether active duty or retired . We offer support and provide information for anyone that needs it and wants to share knowledge and experiences with others. Our "Because We Care" website is filled with a multitude of links that deal with the many complex issues, of medical, emotional and physical problems facing our military, retired and veterans. Our mail list encourages discussion in an informal atmosphere in a place where friendships are made and support is our number one priority. Serious issues take priority although we enjoy interacting with our friends and share fun times also. This exchange helps to release the stresses and tensions which many times accompany the disabilites or harships that often are experienced. The contributions of our veterans must not go unnoticed for they have paved the way to freedom. Their dues have been paid. "FREEDOM" must be maintained at all costs and should be honored, respected and cherished by each of us. We are here because we care and understand many of the difficulties and challenges they face and want to help them to better cope.

J. Brandt
http://vetsunited.com

 

  

Wildgun's C Troop 11th Cavalry 

 

IN HONOR AND MEMORY OF 2,709,965 Who served in Vietnam, 1,870 POW/MIA'S, 58,226 who were KIA

 

DOC'S MILITARY-VETERAN WEBSITE
 
 

 

Salute American Heroes
 
 

  

Veterans and Families
 

Veterans and Families is a national non-profit community service and support organization, founded and directed by Veterans, parents, grandparents, family members, employers, mental health professionals, academics and community leaders.

 

  

Vietnam Veterans of America
 
 
 

 

Connecticut Department of Veterans Affairs
 
 
Department of
 Veterans' Affairs
287 West Street
Rocky Hill, CT 06067

860-529-2571
1-800-550-0000
Fax: 860-721-5919
 
Veterans Info Line
1-866-9CT-VETS
(1-866-928-8387)

 

'OPERATION HELMET'
 
OPERATION HELMET provides helmet upgrade kits free of charge (http://operation-helmet.org/Kitrequest.html) to troops in Iraq and Afghanistan, as well as to those ordered to deploy in the near future.
These helmet upgrades do three primary things:

Comfort - If it is more comfortable, it will stay on troop's head longer and more often.

Stability - Keeps the helmet firmly on the head and out of the eyes.

Protection - Shock-absorbing pads keep the helmet from slapping the skull when hit with blast forces, fragments, or being tumbled along the ground or inside a vehicle. This decreases the chance of brain injury
from bombs, RPG's, vehicle accidents, falls, etc.

Doc Bob started Operation Helmet when his grandson asked him to check out the effectiveness of a helmet upgrade kit. Doc Bob sent a $100 kit to Justin plus a dozen more for members of his rifle team. They loved them but told Doc Bob that they couldn't use them unless the whole company of 100 had them. Thus started Operation Helmet.

About Operation Helmet
Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan, charitable grassroots effort that
provides helmet upgrade kits free of charge to U.S. troops in Iraq and Afghanistan. These helmet upgrade kits consist of shock-absorbing pads and a new strap system. Operation Helmet depends on tax-deductible donations. For $75-$100, depending on the manufacturer, added safety and comfort can be provided for a trooper. But donations of any amount are welcome. The donation can be designated for a specific branch of the military, a particular unit or an individual trooper. 99% of donations go toward helmet kits. There are no salaries or payroll and the Operation's books are available for inspection by anyone who wants to see them. To date, Operation Helmet has sent upgrade kits to over 16,000 troops. For more information, see www.Operation-
Helmet.org
<http://www.operation-helmet.org/> .

For further information on Operation Helmet, please contact:

Dr. Bob Meaders, President, Operation Helmet,
ophelm@operation-helmet.org
http://www.operationhelmet.org
(936) 449-9706

 

THANK YOU!! 
 
click here:

 

Guardian Angels For Soldier's Pets
 
 
Being A Foster Care Parent For A Soldier's Pet
 
Form A Chapter In Your State
 
 

 

Salute American Heroes
 

 

All I Need to Know About Life
I Learned in the Military


  • If the enemy is in range, so are you.

  • Incoming fire has the right of way.

  • Don't look conspicuous, it draws fire.

  • There is always a way.

  • The easy way is always mined.

  • Try to look unimportant, they may be low on ammo.

  • Professionals are predictable, it's the amateurs that are dangerous.

  • The enemy invariably attacks on two occasions:
    1. when you are ready for them
    2. when you are not ready for them

  • Teamwork is essential, it gives them someone else to shoot at.

  • If you can't remember, then the claymore is pointed at you.

  • The enemy diversion you have been ignoring will be the main attack.

  • A "sucking chest wound" is nature's way of telling you to slow down.

  • If your attack is going well, you have walked into an ambush.

  • Never draw fire, it irritates everyone around you.

  • Anything you do can get you shot, including nothing.

  • Make it tough enough for the enemy to get in and you won't be able to get out.

  • Never share a foxhole with anyone braver than yourself.

  • If you're short of everything but the enemy, you're in a combat zone.

  • When you have secured an area, don't forget to tell the enemy.

  • Never forget that your weapon is made by the lowest bidder.

  • If it's stupid but it works, it's military issue


 

 

I Got Your Back
 
I am a small and precious child, my dad's been sent to fight.
The only place I'll see his face is in my dreams at night.
He will be gone too many days for my young mind to keep track.
I may be sad, but I am proud.
My daddy's got your back.
 
I am a caring parent.  My son has gone to war.
My mind is filled with worries that I have never known before.
Every day I try to keep my thoughts from turning black.
I may be scared, but I am proud.
My son has got your back.
 
I am a strong and loving wife, with a husband gone.
There are times I'm terrified in a way most never know.
I bite my lip and force a smile as I have watched my husband leave.
My heart may break, but I am proud.
My husband's got your back.
 
I"m a soldier's brother, my brother's out to sea.
He's on the way to Iraq today, to fight for you and me.
I pray for him each day and night, and my voice often cracks.
The tears may come, but I am proud.
My brother's got your back.
 
I am a soldier . . . . serving proudly, standing tall.
I fight for freedom, yours and mine, by answering this call.
I do my job while knowing the thanks it sometimes lacks.
Say a prayer that I'll come home.
It's me whose got your back.
 
~ Author Unknown ~

 

Music For Troops.com
Sending Free Music To The Troops!
 

 

Click Here On The Picture To Take You To One Of The Largest Military Websites!

MILITARY CONNECTION!!!

Lots of Resources!!!

 

 

 

 

DOC'S MILITARY-VETERAN WEBSITE
 
 
 

 Wal Mart -- Wall of Honor

In honor of Veterans Day, beginning October 20th through November
11, Wal-Mart stores and SAM'S CLUBS across the U.S. created their
annual in-store "Wall of Honor" to recognize military men and women
currently serving our country, as well as the veterans who have
fought to protect our freedom. During this time, customers wishing
to honor their "hero" who has served or is currently serving in the
U.S. Armed Forces were invited to bring a photo to any U.S. Wal-Mart
or SAM'S CLUB Photo Center to be included on the Wall.

Customers have their choice of one of the two packages courtesy of
Kodak. The first package includes two free 5"x7" prints. One of the
prints was placed in a decorative photo holder and added to the wall
among other honored veterans and military men and women of that
local community and the other print was given to the customer free
of charge. The second package includes one 5"x7" print, one 3.5"x5"
print and two wallet sized photos. The 5"x7" was placed on the "Wall
of Honor." One wallet sized print was placed in a "Badge of Honor"
and given to the customer along with the second wallet and 3.5"x5"
print.

Also this October, Wal-Mart and Eastman Kodak Company have joined
America Supports You, a nationwide Department of Defense campaign
that highlights military support and encourages others to share
their gratitude for the troops. Although Wal-Mart and Kodak began
the "Wall of Honor" program in 1998, this new partnership further
highlights the shared commitment to honoring those who have
dedicated their lives to protecting ours.

"Wal-Mart and Kodak are true champions for our military men and
women and this is yet another way to show their strong support,"
said Allison Barber, Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defense for
Public Affairs. "We are excited about this new partnership with Wal-
Mart and Kodak and are looking forward to working with them as they
continue to support our troops and their families." Wal-Mart will
also engage in other activities to support our service men and
women, families and veterans over the coming months and year.

"Veterans Day reminds us how important it is to remember and honor
those who serve and protect our country," said Betsy Reithemeyer,
vice president of corporate affairs for Wal-Mart Stores, Inc. "We
started the Wall of Honor at Wal-Mart seven years ago as a way to
help our communities pay tribute to those who bravely serve our
nation. We are happy to have joined forces with the Department of
Defense's America Supports You team to continue honoring the men and
women who defend our freedom everyday."

"For more information about Wal-Mart's continuing support of our
military and other community giving programs, log on to
www.walmartfacts.com. To learn more about America Supports You and
the stories of Americans supporting the troops, please log on to
www.AmericaSupportsYou.mil

 

UKES FOR TROOPS
 
A unique offer to send a unique 'gift' to our troops serving overseas!!
 
Anita Coyoli-Cullen and Shirley Orlanda from California have a project titled 'Ukes for Troops'.  Very exciting -- learn all about it here:
 
 

 

LET'S BRING EM HOME!
 
LBEH (Let's Bring Em Home) is an organization that purchases plane tickets for junior enlisted military personnel, allowing them the opportunity to fly home and spend the holidays with their families. This program was initially started in December 2001 to show grateful appreciation to American service members deployed in support of Operation Enduring Freedom, and has become an annual tradition ever since.
 
You too can be a part of this awesome event - by donating frequent flyer miles and/or making financial contributions - if you can't do either, then help out by spreading the word of this effort to others!
 
Here's the "411" on: Let's Bring Em Home
How you can help: http://www.lbeh. org/?help
Current status of donations for 2006: http://www.lbeh. org/?status
How you can request a ticket: http://www.lbeh. org/?request
Background info on the birth of LBEH: http://www.lbeh. org/?about
How to contact LBEH: http://www.lbeh. org/?contact
IRS certification of this organization as a legitimate charity: http://www.lbeh.org/?501c
 

 

Web site Available For Families To Link Up With Deployed Loved Ones
Story Number: NNS080613-06
Release Date: 6/13/2008 12:38:00 PM

From LIFELines Public Affairs/American Forces Press Services

WASHINGTON (NNS) -- The families of deployed Navy and Marine Corps personnel are invited to sign up for a new Web site, www.websitesforheroes.com, which allows them to maintain close family ties with their loved ones beyond the occasional phone call or e-mail.

These family Web sites provide a safe and secure online environment for a military family through a portal on the front page of the LIFELines Services Network, the Navy Department's official Quality of Life Web site at
www.lifelines.navy.mil and www.lifelines.usmc.mil.

Each personalized family Web site includes innovative features such as two hours of streaming video so parents can see what the family is doing back home, unlimited photo albums, interactive calendars and message boards that ensure military families don't miss life's special moments.

Last year, the Department of Defense blocked access to some popular social networking sites in order to guarantee bandwith availability for mission-critical functions.

Websitesforheroes.com is a Linux-based Web environment which means it is secure and password-protected, to ensure a level of privacy not found in most public sites.

"Deployments are hard on families," said Terry Gniffke, CEO of Caliber Media Group who co-founded websitesforheroes.com. "When you're away and you're in harms way, it's a lonely place. You miss home, and the greatest thing is to be connected in some way. Websitesforheroes allows that to happen."

Gniffke knows from experience just how important something like web sitesforheroes can be. The former Marine served in Vietnam, and he explained he waited up to three weeks for a single letter from home. "It's tough on the homefront, and it's tough on the other side," he said. "What a difference [websitesforheroes.com] would have made."

"We want as many Navy and Marine families as possible to take advantage of this fantastic resource," said retired commander Rudolph Brewington, director of LIFELines. Brewington learned of Gniffke's invention and worked with him to have the site cleared through DoD's "America Supports You" program which now has the site among it's public-to-military support projects.

Under the program, websitesforheroes keeps families connected at no cost to the family. There are currently 1,200 families enjoying a family Web site that has been graciously sponsored by an individual or a corporation at a cost of $99 per year per family. Specific families cannot be sponsored; the sites are awarded on a "first come, first served" basis to protect anonymity.

The goal for websitesforheroes.com is to keep military families connected and let them know that someone cares.

For more news from LIFELines Services Network, visit
www.navy.mil/local/lifelines.

 Holiday Season For The Troops -- USO

The holiday season is upon us and while many Americans will be enjoying the company of friends and family, more than 160,000 service men and women serving overseas will not. Instead of sharing in the laughter and smiles the holidays bring -- especially for the children in their lives -- they will be defending us at lonely outposts around the world.

Help the USO put a smile on their faces by giving them the very special gift of reaching out to their loved ones for the holidays. Make a donation to either the USO's Operation Phone Home or United Through Reading programs and help brighten the day of a lonely service member. Giving these men and women the opportunity to speak to and interact with their loved ones over the holidays will provide an immeasurable boost to their morale.


Operation Phone Home - Prepaid, international phone cards are distributed free of charge to service members, especially those in Afghanistan, Iraq and other overseas locations.


United Through Reading - At participating USO centers, service men and women can stay connected with the children in their lives by videotaping themselves reading a children's book. The USO sends the DVD and a copy of the book to the children back home. The parent or caregiver is encouraged to photograph or videotape the child's excitement while watching the DVD and following along with the book, and sends photos or DVD back to the deployed service member.

Holiday Season For The Troops -- USO


Let them know they are not forgotten!

 

 American Forces Press Service

SANTA ANA, Calif., Nov. 17, 2006 - Just in time for the holidays, Operation Homefront has launched "eCarePackage," an online service that allows caring citizens to send care packages to deployed troops and their families.

Operation Homefront is part of CinCHouse.com, a community for military wives, and is a team member of America Supports You, a Department of Defense program connecting U.S. citizens with members of the military.

Servicemembers and families can register on
www.ecarepackage.org, which protects their identity and location, and visitors can "adopt" them based on common interests. Then visitors select individual items to create a customized care
package for their chosen servicemember or family and include a personal message.

Operation Homefront's team of volunteers takes the order, boxes the selected items and ships them directly to the servicemember or family - always protecting their identity and physical location.

"There's nothing like a care package to cheer a deployed soldier or a lonely military family, especially during the holidays," said Amy Palmer, executive vice president of operations for Operation Homefront. "With operational security for the troops so tight, we were concerned that care packages weren't getting through. So we built eCarePackage to ensure our troops and families continue to
'feel the love' from Americans."

Items available in the eCarePackage store range from toiletries and necessities to games, books and candy. Most items were donated from sponsors, particularly The Dollar Tree, which runs its Operation Appreciation program in most stores nationwide.

Donated items are not marked up, so eCarePackage visitors often pay only the cost of handling and shipping - making eCarePackage less expensive than doing it yourself. Moreover, Operation Homefront has partnered with DHL, which provides postal service to overseas troops, to ensure direct and timely delivery of all
care packages to deployed troops.

The eCarePackage program is an extension of Operation Homefront's mission to provide emergency support and morale to our troops, the families they leave behind during deployments, and wounded warriors when they return home. Operation Homefront recently signed a Memorandum of Understanding with the Defense
Department to ensure greater collaboration.

(From a CinCHouse.com news release.)

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FROM THE DEPARTMENT OF DEFENSE

 

By Samantha L. Quigley
American Forces Press Service

WASHINGTON, Nov. 30, 2006 - Silver Star Families of America, a group dedicated to supporting wounded servicemembers and their families, is thinking outside the box this Christmas.

A member of America Supports You, a Defense Department program highlighting ways Americans and the corporate sector support the nation's servicemembers, the group has undertaken a program to send holiday cheer to military and veterans hospitals.

"We concentrate on sending Silver Star banners to the wounded," Steve Newton, the organization's founder, said. "But the members wanted to do something special for the wounded for Christmas."

Through "Project Christmas," Silver Star Families is sending at least one box of goodies to a military hospital, a Veterans Affairs medical center or a combat support hospital in every state in the U.S., and to Germany and Iraq, Newton said.

The effort got under way a mere three weeks ago, and the organization has nearly met its goal. All boxes for overseas locations have been shipped to ensure they arrived in time for the holidays. As for the stateside venture, only a handful of states remain to be checked off the list. "This has been a big project for us," Newton said. "We usually don't tackle care packages on this scale. But we've had a lot of support."

That support has come from within, with members donating items to stuff the boxes, and from the celebrity realm, including best-selling author Dean Koontz. The author shipped "cases and cases of autographed books," which meshed well with the group's goal of sending "fun" items. Other items donated for the packages include signed baseball, football and other sports memorabilia, as well as items with musicians' signatures.

"We got pencils from the Chicago Cubs, just hundreds and hundreds of pencils," he said. "The Cleveland Cavaliers basketball team sent us, I bet it was 150 ... T-shirts, beautiful T-shirts."

The Silver Star members also are taking it upon themselves to pick up any slack, Newton said. One member from the Washington area stepped up to cover the postage for all of the packages being sent from the national headquarters in Missouri. Other members are sending packages on their own to ensure as many wounded servicemembers as possible have a great Christmas.

"If you'd asked me a week or two ago, I'd have said, 'I don't ever, ever want to see any kind of box again," Newton said with a laugh. "But I think we'll do this every year."

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Families Support Our Troops
 
 

 

Connecticut Law About Military Affidavits

 

GREETINGS!!!  I am please to announce that I received in the mail today an Official Statement from our Governor, M. Jodi Rell, of the State of Connecticut.  As you know, the Connecticut Blue Star Mothers have been attempting to honor the Gold Star Mothers of our state and have asked the Governor to make the proclamation which would correspond to the National proclamation from the President of the United States for Gold Star Mothers across the nation.  We are grateful that our governor has issued her proclamation so that our state can officially honor our Gold Star Mothers!!
 
The proclamation we received reads as follows:
 
WHEREAS, during the early days of World War I, a blue star was used to represent men and women in the Military Service of the United States.  As the war progressed and men and women were killed in combat or died of wounds and diseases, there came about the accepted usage of the Gold Star; and
 
WHEREAS, the Gold Star represents the honor and glory accorded individuals who made the supreme sacrifice in offering their lives for their country; and
 
WHEREAS, in 1918, President Woodrow Wilson approved a suggestion made by the Women's Committee of the Council of National Defenses.  Instead of wearing conventional mourning for relatives who have died in the service of their country, American women should wear a black band on the left arm with a gilt star on the band for each member of the family who has given his or her life for the nation.  Service Flags indicating how many members of the family had served or been killed in the Armed Forces were decorated with a deep Blue Star for each living member in the service and a Gold Star for each member who has died; and
 
WHEREAS, the term Gold Star Mother applies to mothers whose sons or daughters died in the World Wars and other conflicts of the Armed Services; and
 
WHEREAS, Connecticut is the home of many Gold Star Mothers, whose children served and were killed in World Wars I, and II, Korea, Vietnam, Desert Storm, Operation Iraqi Freedom and Operation Enduring Freedom; now
 
THEREFORE, I, M. Jodi Rell, Governor of the State of Connecticut, do hereby officially designate September 24, 2006, as:
 
GOLD STAR MOTHERS DAY
 
in the State of Connecticut, and offer my thanks and condolences for the sacrifices their children made for the Armed Forces of the United States of America.
________________
 
Thank you, Governor Rell!!
 
For anyone wishing to see the Official Statement, the Connecticut Blue Star Mothers will have it displayed at each monthly meeting to remember and honor the Gold Star Mothers of this state.
 
Please tell the Gold Star Mothers that you know about this excellent official statement of proclimation in honor for them!!!  The CT BSM will be sending a copy of the proclamation to all of the GSM we know.
 
Respectifully submitted -- Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers
 
 

 

Governor Jodi Rell to Unveil Gold Star License Plate

Monday, September 17, 2007 @ 3:30 PM

Sutter-Terlizzi Post 16 American Legion

295 Bridgeport Avenue in Shelton

 

Governor M. Jodi Rell will be unveiling the Gold Star License Plate on Monday, September 17 at 3:30 pm at the Sutter-Terlizzi American Legion Post 16 in Shelton. The Governor will be joined by Commissioners from the Department of Motor Vehicles and the Department of Veterans Affairs as well as legislators and veterans.

 

All veterans are invited to attend the event.

 

Public Act 07-167 - approved during the 2007 legislative session and signed into law by Governor Rell authorizes the issuance of a "Gold Star Family" license plate to certain relatives of an armed forces member killed in the line of duty.

 

 

 

"NEW ENGLAND'S OWN"

1st Battalion, 25th Marine Regiment

 

Devens Reserve Forces Training Area. The Battalion is primarily a cold weather infantry unit, and trains in many locations around the Northeast. In addition, it trains in California, North Carolina and Northern Norway. 1st Battalion, 25th Marines is spread throughout the Northeast with Companies in New Hampshire, Maine, Connecticut, and Massachusetts which is where it gets the name "New Englands Own". Today the Battalion is spread over the New England area with the Headquarters and Service Company along with Weapons Company located at Devens RFTA. Company A is located at Topsham, Maine; Company B is located at Londonderry, New Hampshire; and Company C is located at Plainville, Connecticut.

The mission of 1/25 4th Marine Division is to provide trained combat and combat support personnel and units to augment and reinforce the active component in time of war, national emergency, and at other times as national security requires; and have the capability to reconstitute the Division, if required.

Marines conduct training to prepare for employment as a Battalion tasked to plan and conduct combat operations in order to locate, close with, and destroy the enemy by fire and maneuver, or to repel his assault by close combat.

Peacetime Unit Mission is to be prepared to mobilize in 30-42 days to be a combat capable battalion. Be Prepared to conduct offensive and defensive operations against forces in cold weather and mountain operations. Be prepared to execute effective combat operations training, Intelligence, fire support coordination, logistics and administration processes. Be prepared to augment/reinforce other similar organizations. Maintain individual MOS proficiency through effective training.

"New England's Own" Selected Marine Corps Reserve unit was originally established in Boston, Massachusetts, as an infantry company in the early 1920's. It was not until some years later that the unit attained battalion status.

In April of 1926, Captain John J. Flynn was named the Commanding Officer of the 301st Company, USMCR, with Headquarters at the Marine Barracks, Charlestown Navy Yard. Building #5, the Navy Officer's Mess, was used for drill and formation until the Company was called to active duty on November 8, 1940.

During its varied and illustrious history, the 1st Battalion, 25th Marines has undergone some redesignations. From its beginning as the 301st Company, the Battalion has been variously redesignated as an Artillery Company (December 29, 1928); the 301st Infantry Company (December 1, 1929); Company A, 1st Battalion, 19th Reserve Marines (February 15, 1933); 2nd Battalion, Fleet Marine Corps Reserve (February 1, 1935) - at that point a battalion had an authorized strength of 256 men, comparable to an infantry company in today's table of organization.

There was an especially critical period in the life of "New England's Own" from 1931 to 1934. During those years, Congress discontinued all drill and administrative pay. Those stalwarts who stayed with the organization did so voluntarily. New members were required to purchase their own uniforms. The fact that the Battalion survived this critical period is a "banner" on their history.

The 2nd Battalion continued as a unit until called to active service on the eve of World War II. The Battalion was sent to Marine Corps Base, Quantico, Virginia, and then to Cuba where it was split in January 1941 to serve with various units serving in Cuba at the time.

On May 1, 1943, the 1st Battalion, 25th Marines was formed at Camp Lejeune, North Carolina, and was then shipped off to Camp Pendleton, California, to be assigned to the 4th Marine Division, During the war the 1st Battalion, 25th Marines saw action in the following island-hopping campaigns: Kwajalein, Saipan, Tinian and Iwojima. The Battalion earned special honors for its action on Iwo Jima. The Battalion played a critical role in the seizure of Hill 382 ("Turkey Knob") in an area that Marine,,, on Iwo Jima called the "Meat Grinder." For its actions, the Battalion earned a Presidential Unit Citation. The Battalion saw no further action during the war due to having to rebuild the Battalion after the heavy losses on Iwo Jima. The Battalion was deactivated on October 31, 1945.

After World War II, on October 1, 1946, the 2nd Infantry Battalion was activated at the Naval and Marine Corps Training Center in South Boston under the command of Lieutenant Colonel James J. Dugan, who had established an excellent personal record as a member of the Battalion before the war and distinguished himself by outstanding service during World War II. Lieutenant Colonel Dugan remained as the Commanding Officer until July 1950, shortly before the Battalion was called to active duty during the Korean War. The service during the Korea War was short and the Battalion was quickly returned to Boston in October of 1951, where it grew into one of the largest Marine Reserve units in the country.

On July 1, 1962, the Battalion was reorganized and redesignated in conjunction with the new concept and mission of the Marine Corps Reserve as the 1st Battalion, 25th Marines, 4th Marine Division, FMF, USMCR, with the Battalion Headquarters located in Boston, Massachusetts. On September 30, 1977, the Headquarters was relocated to Camp Edwards, Cape Cod, Massachusetts.

Since its reorganization in 1962, the Battalion has participated in a variety of training experiences, including desert maneuvers at 29 Palms, California; amphibious training in Little Creek, Virginia; mountain warfare training at Bridgeport, California; cold weather training in Norway, and numerous field exercises at Camp Lejeune, North Carolina. Attesting to the effective role which the unit played in these and other programs, the 1st Battalion, 25th Marines received the GENERAL HARRY SCHMIDT TROPHY for the most combat ready battalion in the 4th Marine Division in 1970,1989, and 1990- No other battalion in the 4th marine Division can claim that they have won this trophy in consecutive years.

On November 25, 1990, the Battalion was again called to active duty to serve in the Gulf War against Iraq. 'I'he Battalion moved to Camp Lejeune, North Carolina, and was promptly moved into the Kuwait Theater of Operations on December 29, 1 990. The Battalion was assigned as an independent battalion within the 1st Marine Division. While attached to the 1st Marine Division, it performed a variety of missions to include Rear Area Security and Enemy Prisoner of War Control. The Battalion was With the frontline units during the war, which made it one of the few Reserve units to see frontline service. During the Ground offensive the Battalion was to receive the responsibility of controlling over 8,500 Iraq POWs and processing them to rear areas of the 1st Marine Division. The Battalion was returned to the United States in April of 1991 and was deactivated at Camp Edwards, Massachusetts.

On June 9, 2000, the Headquarters was relocated to Devens Reserve Forces Training Area, Massachusetts.The Battalion is still performing its mission of training for the possible call-up for active service in times of national emergency. Today the Battalion is spread over the New England area with the Headquarters and Service Company along with the Weapons Company located at Devens RFTA. Company A is located at Topsham, Maine; Company B is located at Londonderry, New Hampshire; and Company C is located at Plainville, Connecticut.

 

 

 
IT'S OFFICIAL!!!!
 
The governor of the state of Connecticut
has declared May 1st in the year 2007 as Silver Star Families of America Day to honor all of our state's wounded heroes and their families!
 
We are so proud of all those that have served and all those that are serving to keep this country free!!  We thank you and your families for your sacrifice!! 
 
Thank you Governor Rell for honoring our heroes!!
 
THE SILVER STAR SHINING FOR SACRIFICE!!
 
Please let us know if you wish to receive a Silver Star Banner and Certificate of Honor or if you know of someone who would!  The Connecticut Blue Star Mothers are actively assisting the Silver Star Families of America in the process of getting these items to our wounded veterans in the state of Connecticut through our Blue to Silver Program.  Please contact us at 860-379-1298.
 
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 CT Attorney General

Connecticut Attorney General's Office

Press Release

Attorney General Announces Veterans Advocacy Unit To Assist Veterans, Active Duty Personnel On Benefit, Legal, Other Issues

November 12, 2007

Attorney General Richard Blumenthal marked Veterans Day by announcing his office is launching a Veterans Advocacy Unit to assist veterans and active duty military personnel with benefit, legal and other issues.

Starting tomorrow, veterans and active duty men and women with legal, benefit, consumer protection, employment or other questions or problems can call Blumenthal's office and speak with a lawyer who will seek to assist them.

"My office will fight for those who fought for us," Blumenthal said. "Today, as we honor the brave military men and women who selflessly serve and sacrifice for us, we should resolve to serve them. Veterans and active duty personnel needing help with benefits, service-related legal, consumer protection or employment issues can call my office for assistance.

"We owe every veteran and every man and woman now serving all benefits and rights without hitch or hindrance. As our servicemen and women return home from Iraq and Afghanistan, the need for these services is great and growing. I will fight for veterans and active duty military -- to assure access, cut red tape and break down bureaucratic obstacles."

Starting tomorrow, veterans needing assistance should call the Attorney General's Office at (860) 808-5318. >

  

The Official Website Of The State Of Connecticut
 
 

 

Connecticut Department of Veterans Affairs
 
 
Department of
 Veterans' Affairs
287 West Street
Rocky Hill, CT 06067

860-529-2571
1-800-550-0000
Fax: 860-721-5919
 
Veterans Info Line
1-866-9CT-VETS
(1-866-928-8387)

 

The Connecticut National Guard Foundation, Inc.
 
 
A private, nonprofit, organization who's purpose it is to provide temporary financial assistance for Connecticut National Guard and Organized Militia members and their families. 
 
For further information please call (860) 241-1550

 

Today's Puzzle is Soldier Salutes
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Air Force Test
 
 

The object of the game is to move the red block around without getting hit by the blue blocks or touching the black walls. 

If you can go longer than 18 seconds you are phenomenal. It's been said that the US Air Force uses this for fighter pilots. They are expected to go for at least 2 minutes.

Give it a try but be careful...it is addictive!

Air Force Test < <--------click on this (or link below)



 
 
 
 
 

SEND A CARD 

 

 

 LET'S SAY THANKS!

 If you go to this web site, www.letssaythanks.com, you can pick out a thank you card and Xerox will print it and it will be sent to a soldier that is currently serving in Iraq.

 You can't pick out who gets the card, but it will go to some member of the armed services.

 How AMAZING it would be if we could get everyone we know to send one!!!

 This is a great site.  Please send a card.  It is FREE and it only takes a second.

 

 

 

 

 

 

All I Need to Know About Life
I Learned in the Military


  • If the enemy is in range, so are you.

  • Incoming fire has the right of way.

  • Don't look conspicuous, it draws fire.

  • There is always a way.

  • The easy way is always mined.

  • Try to look unimportant, they may be low on ammo.

  • Professionals are predictable, it's the amateurs that are dangerous.

  • The enemy invariably attacks on two occasions:
    1. when you are ready for them
    2. when you are not ready for them

  • Teamwork is essential, it gives them someone else to shoot at.

  • If you can't remember, then the claymore is pointed at you.

  • The enemy diversion you have been ignoring will be the main attack.

  • A "sucking chest wound" is nature's way of telling you to slow down.

  • If your attack is going well, you have walked into an ambush.

  • Never draw fire, it irritates everyone around you.

  • Anything you do can get you shot, including nothing.

  • Make it tough enough for the enemy to get in and you won't be able to get out.

  • Never share a foxhole with anyone braver than yourself.

  • If you're short of everything but the enemy, you're in a combat zone.

  • When you have secured an area, don't forget to tell the enemy.

  • Never forget that your weapon is made by the lowest bidder.

  • If it's stupid but it works, it's military issue

 

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 BLUE STAR MOTHERS

To Our Children:

We humbly wait for your return in prayer and thanksgiving that you are our sons and daughters.  We are ever so proud of you!!!  May all that we do until you return make you proud of us.  You are in our hearts and on our minds each moment and with every breath we take we say, "I Love You, I Miss You, Come Home Safe. Love Mom."

 

 

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THE FOLLOWING MESSAGE BOARDS HAVE POEMS, PRAYERS, STORIES, INFORMATION, PICTURES, SLIDE SHOWS, WEBSITE LINKS, MUSIC, AND OTHER THINGS OF INTEREST THAT PERTAIN TO THE 'TOPIC' LISTED

WE ARE KEEPING OURSELVES BUSY UNTIL YOUR RETURN!

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Copyright © 2006  All Rights Reserved

The Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc. is a non-partisan, non-political organization. We do not support any political candidate nor do we endorse any religious organization. The military represents all aspects of America as does our organization. We are here to support our troops, our veterans, one another, and the cause of patriotism  Please adhere to our purpose when posting to this site; do not use it for any personal platform.   DO NOT post anything that does not comply with Operational Security measures! Also we must adhere to copyright laws when posting.  Linking to our website does not represent an endorsement on the part of Connecticut Blue Star Mothers or Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.

 

 


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Since I have been in the trenches for the past five months of providing care, comfort and support for my personal Wounded Warrior, Karen Stevens requested that I put together some tips for both chapters and individuals in dealing with this aspect of military service. I will apologize in advance for the length of the posting but I have tried to be somewhat comprehensive in my information.

My thoughts and prayers are with any family that has to put any of this to actual use.

All BSM members should have a valid, current passport whether your service member is currently deployed or not. If you do not have a passport, please get one NOW - applications are available at the post office. Yes, the military can assist you with getting a passport in the event of an emergency; however, it will probably delay you if you are trying to travel to your injured service member's bedside outside of the US - such as Landstuhl Medical Center, Germany. And hours can make a difference in making plane connections.

*If you go to Landstuhl, the military requires that you have an International Drivers License to operate a car in Germany.

You should know your service member's rank, Social Security number, military unit/organization.

If you get The Dreaded Phone Call that your service member has been injured - get a spiral notebook - date and time all entries and who is talking to you. Write down everything that they tell you in one central location and keep adding information as it comes in. That becomes your log or diary - you will never remember everything or anything simply because you are in a state of shock.

Things to pack to take with you -
Comfortable shoes and clothes - easy to care for/layer up and down for temperature differences.
Backpack - ditch the purse - the backpack becomes the tote bag, brief case, purse - whatever. A backpack leaves your hands free to deal with crutches, wheelchair and assisting an injured service member. >

 

The Silver Rose Award
consists of a Certificate, Award Card, Poster and
Medal with an Orange and White neck-drape Ribbon.

 
Silver Rose Plaque
The special Plaque may be purchased by anyone for any recipient of the Silver Rose Award(including for yourself) or as an 'In Memoriam' for family members or friends.
 
 
Silver Rose Monument
Place a Silver Rose Monument in Your Community
 
 
Silver Rose Merchandise
Various Silver Rose Merchandise Which Can Be Purchased
 
 

 

People.....  get name.....
American People's DIOXIN Report
 
 

  

Excessive Heat Event Operations

The U.S. Environmental Protection Agency has produced the Excessive Heat Events Guidebook with assistance from Federal, state and local and
academic partners.

Designed to help community officials, emergency managers,
meteorologists, and others plan for and respond to excessive heat
events, the guidebook highlights best practices that have been employed
to save lives during excessive heat events in different urban areas and
provides a menu of options that officials can use to respond to these
events in their communities.

 
 
http://epa.gov/heatisland/about/heatguidebook.html

 

Technology Identifies Veterans at Risk for Diabetic Eye Disease

February 15, 2007

Secretary Nicholson: “Important Initiative for Veterans”

WASHINGTON  – Many veterans with diabetes are getting initial screening for possible eye disease during their Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) primary care appointments, thanks to a national tele-retinal imaging program now in place at the majority of VA hospitals and clinics.

“This leading-edge technology will make a difference for our nation’s veterans.  One out of every five VA patients has diabetes,” said Secretary of Veterans Affairs Jim Nicholson.  “Early detection of retinal abnormalities is essential in preventing vision loss from diabetes.  This is another example of VA’s commitment to provide world-class care to our nation’s veterans.”  

This new procedure, which screens patients for diabetic retinopathy, does not take the place of a dilated eye exam.  Veterans with known retinopathy or laser treatment will be seen in eye clinics, along with high risk patients such as those with pregnancy or renal disease.  The new procedure is a good initial way, however, to identify patients at risk for visual loss from diabetes. 

Patients are scheduled for the imaging via the computerized patient record system (CPRS). The images taken of the retina at the clinics are sent to an image reading center, where an eye care specialist determines the need for further care.

Diabetic retinopathy causes 12,000 to 24,000 new cases of blindness each year in the United States, making diabetes the leading cause of new cases of blindness in adults 20-74 years of age.

The tele-retinal imaging program is just one year old this month and expected to expand significantly in the coming year.  VA collaborated with the Department of Defense and the Joslin Diabetes Center in Boston.

the technology involving digital retinal imaging and remote image interpretations to assess for levels of diabetic retinopathy.  This is another example of how VA has achieved efficiency and quality of care for its patients with diabetes that exceeds that in the private sector.

Diabetes is one target of a major VA program designed to reduce the high rates of illness caused by obesity.  Called MOVE -- for “Managing Overweight Veterans Everywhere” -- it encourages veterans to increase their physical activity and improve their nutrition.  Further information is available at www.move.va.gov.

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National Center for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Department of Veterans Affairs

Coping When a Family Member Has Been Called to War

A National Center for PTSD Fact Sheet
by Julia Whealin, Ph.D. & Ilona Pivar, Ph.D.

When a family member goes to war, the impact upon those left at home can be daunting. There is often tremendous uncertainty about the dangers that exist where the loved one is being deployed and about when he or she will return. Concerns may be intensified as TV news programs emphasize threats, such as chemical or biological warfare, scud missile attack, and environmental destruction. In addition to having to adjust to the loved one’s absence, the families of those who have been deployed may live in constant fear of harm to their loved one.

The Emotional Cycle of Deployment

When a loved one is deployed, fluctuating emotions such as pride, anger, fear, and bitterness can add to the distress of uncertainty. Various emotions continue during the person’s deployment, based upon changes the family encounters as they adjust to the departure and absence of their family member. The following is a typical cycle of emotions:

·        The cycle begins with a short period of intense emotions, such as fear and anger, when news of deployment is released to the family.

·        As departure grows closer, a period of detachment and withdrawal may occur. In preparation for the physical separation, family members may experience intense emotions.

·        A period of sadness, loneliness, and tension begins at the time of departure; this can last several weeks or longer.

·        Following the first weeks of deployment, families begin to adjust to a new routine without the deployed service member.

·        As the end of the deployment period draws near, tension continues as the family anticipates changes related to the return of the service member.

When Families Have Difficulties

Deployment will be a challenging time for family members who are left behind:

·        In addition to patriotism and pride, feelings of fear and anger are also common. The mixture of these feelings may be confusing, particularly for children.

·        If a family already has difficulty communicating with one another, such problems may worsen during times of stress, and add strain to the family.

·        Those deployed may downplay the potential for danger in order to protect the family from excessive worry, which can make family members feel their feelings of fear are being invalidated.

When there is an impending crisis such as a war deployment, some families may need to be become more aware of their style of relating to and supporting each other.

·        Emotions can run high during the deployment, and people can turn fear, anger, and other emotions against those they care for the most.

·        When certain family members, particularly children, do express their fear or anger, families should not view these feelings as too sensitive or as an annoyance. Instead, realize that those feelings may be emotions that everyone shares, but perhaps not everyone has acknowledged those feelings yet.

·        Alternatively, it is possible that members will feel as though their emotions are numb during the time before a departure. This is because these individuals may be preparing emotionally for the separation from the family; it does not mean these family members don't care. Sometimes the stronger the numbing, the stronger the emotions underlying the feelings.

Fear of the Unknown

Communication with the deployed family member during war may be minimal. When the family knows little about where the service member is being deployed, they may try to obtain any information they can about that area of the world. Often, family members will turn to the media for this information. When families do this, they may be faced with media speculation that emphasizes frightening commentary and images. Online discussion groups can also be a source of unreliable information that creates needless distress. Learn what you can about the issues from trustworthy resources, such as public libraries and published books. Put the risk in proportion so that you are in a better position to think realistically. For example, remind yourself that even though you hear regularly about deaths in the military, the vast majority of deployed troops are not harmed.

Changes in Family Structure

A spouse left at home during deployment will be faced with work tasks that s/he may be unfamiliar with. Juggling finances, lawn care, car and home repair, cooking, and raising children can lead to stress overload and exhaustion. Families that are flexible regarding roles and responsibilities are better able to adapt to deployment stresses. It's important for family members to support each other in these new responsibilities and to get outside help as much as possible. Your military contingency officer and your employee assistance program can provide you with childcare referrals, including before- and after-school programs and in-home care.

Special Concerns When the Primary Caretaker Is Deployed

Many more women are now participating in war-related deployments. During Operation Desert Shield/Storm, more than 40,000 women were deployed, thousands of them mothers with dependent children. Research on work-family conflict among active duty women indicates:

·        The struggle between work and family duties is a source of parenting distress.

·        Women who were supported by their husbands in their marital and parenting roles had fewer work-family conflicts, less distress, or less depression.

·        Families that are flexible regarding roles and responsibilities are better able to adapt to deployment stresses.

·        Getting information about difficult issues, such as separation anxiety, discipline, raising adolescents, and sibling rivalry, may help make care easier.

Special Concerns for Reservists

Reservists have added concerns pertaining to the families and jobs left behind. In some cases, military deployment can create financial hardships due to a loss of income. Sometimes the household financial manager is the one who is deployed and the remaining head of the household is left to manage the finances, perhaps without much practice. The government has developed many services and programs to assist you and your family with these challenges during the predeployment, deployment, and reunification stages. There are groups that can help with the development of family emergency plans, family care plans, and personal financial management.

Suggestions for Families of Those Going to War

The following are suggestions to help you manage the stress of having a family member deployed for war-related duties:

1.      Take time to listen to each other. Know that deployment will be a painful and frightening time, particularly for children. Spend time listening to family members without judging or criticizing what they say. People may need to just express themselves during this time. The more family members can communicate with one another, the less long-term strain there will be on the family.

2.      Limit exposure to news media programs. Families should minimize exposure to anxiety-arousing media related to the war. News programs often emphasize fearful content and frightening images to create a "story." Watching a lot of TV news programs, for example, can create needless distress. When children worry about war, let them know that the war is far away. Acknowledge children's fears, and let them know that parents, teachers, and police are here to protect them.

3.      Remember the deployed member is still a part of the family. Find ways to keep a symbolic representation of the deployed member visible to the family. Keep photographs of your loved one in prominent locations. Get children's help in keeping a family journal of each day's events for the deployed member to look at when he or she returns.

4.      Understand feelings. Emotions such as fear, anger, and feeling "numb" are normal and common reactions to stress. Family members need to make sure these emotions aren't turned against one another in frustration. It will help family members manage tension if you share feelings, recognize that they are normal, and realize that most family members feel the same way.

5.      Spend time with people. Coping with stressful events is easier when in the company of caring friends. Ask for support from your family, friends, church, or other community group.

6.      Join or develop support groups. Forming support groups for the spouses of deployed military personnel helps spouses cope with separation from their loved ones. Peer-support groups, led by spouses of deployed service members, can be a tremendous aid to family functioning. Spouses can share ideas with each other, trade childcare or other responsibilities, and encourage each other if they are feeling taxed.

7.      Keep up routines. Try to stick to everyday routines. Familiar habits can be very comforting.

8.      Take time out for fun. Don't forget to do things that feel good to you. Take a walk, spend time with your pets, or play a game you enjoy.

9.      Help others. It is beneficial for everyone to find ways you and your family can productively channel energy. Helping other families and organizing neighborhood support groups or outings can help everyone involved.

10.  Self-care. The more emotionally nurturing and stable the remaining caretaker is, the less stress the children will feel. However, trying to "do it all" can lead to exhaustion. Signs of caregiver stress include feeling as though you are unable to cope, feeling constantly exhausted, or feeling as though you no longer care about anything. It is especially important for caretakers to devote time to themselves, exercise, and get plenty of rest.

11.  Get professional help if needed. When stress becomes overwhelming, don't be afraid to seek professional help. Ongoing difficulties such as exhaustion, apathy, worry, sleeplessness, bad dreams, irritability, or anger-outbursts warrant the attention of a professional counselor. The military employment assistance program provides free counseling for family members impacted by the stress of deployment. Contingency planning personnel are available on bases around the country to help families handle stress related to deployment.

12.  Use military outreach programs. Military outreach programs are in place to help families prevent social isolation. Interventions for military families are especially important for younger families and those without a prior history of deployments. Group leaders are trained to (1) assist in the grief process that a family goes through when a spouse is deployed, (2) teach coping skills to deal with indefinite separations, and (3) help spouses plan a family reunion.

Conclusion

War brings about difficult stressors for families of deployed service members. Mixed feelings about the deployment are common, and emotions tend to fluctuate over the course of the deployment. It is most important to take added steps during this time to take care of yourself and your family. Also, seek help from others around you who will understand, including friends, family members, or other families who have a member deployed.


Related Fact Sheets

Managing grief

Information about the course of bereavement, the treatment of bereaved individuals, and complications of bereavement

Talking with children about war

How do children understand what war means? How can adults best address the concerns of children?

The effect of PTSD on families

Provides information about the effects of PTSD on family members, and how to cope with the effects

War and families

How traumatic stress reactions can affect families

Web site links

Family Readiness Groups (FRGs)
The Army recognizes that helping families is its moral obligation and in its best interest. Family Readiness Groups (FRGs) are an organization of officers, enlisted soldiers, civilians, and family members who volunteer to provide mutual social and emotional support, outreach services, and information to their fellow soldiers and family members in a local area. For information contact your unit, or if you need help in locating family assistance, contact the Army-wide Family Liaison Office or call toll-free 1-800-833-6622.

Selected References

Black, W. G. (1993). Military-induced family separation: A stress reduction intervention. Social Work, 38, 273–280.

Gimbel, C., & Booth, A. (1994). Why does military combat experience adversely affect marital relations? Journal of Marriage and Family, 56, 691–703.

Pincus, S. H., House, R., Christenson, J., & Adler, L. E. (2001). The emotional cycle of deployment: A military family perspective. U.S. Army Medical Department Journal, 4/5/6, 15–23.

Van Breda, A. D. (1999). Developing resilience to routine separations: An occupational social work intervention. The Journal of Contemporary Human Services, 80, 597–605.

Vinokur, A. D., Pierce, P. F., & Buck, C. L. (1999). Work-family conflicts of women in the Air force: Their influence on mental health and functioning. Journal of Organizational Behavior, 20, 865–878.

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FOREVER CHANGED -- Military families are urged to face facts:

Soldiers will be different when they return.

 

 

 

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Forever changed

Military families are urged to face facts: Soldiers will be different when they return

By Peter Schworm, Globe Staff


Cathy Carney dreams of her husband's return from Iraq in loving detail. He steps through a door, and she runs toward him, leaping into his arms for a deep kiss and tearful embrace. He doesn't say much, just ``Hi, Cath," but smiles ear to ear, the way he did on their wedding day. All around them, mothers are hugging their sons, and fathers are scooping up daughters, but she sees only him. She clings to him and, for the longest time, doesn't let go.

During Jack Carney's year long deployment in Iraq, she has replayed the scene in her mind over and over again. She turns to it when she misses him the most, even if it sometimes makes her miss him more.

But, at a recent meeting of a family readiness group at an Army Reserve Center in Brockton, a program trainer cautioned against such idyllic images of soldiers' homecomings. After the initial joy of the reunion, reservists and their families often struggle to pick up the threads of their shared lives, he warned. Many soldiers returning from war experience a rocky transition to civilian life, and that strain can permeate entire families.
Couples, in particular, find it hard to regain their footing, and shouldn't be disappointed if the old magic doesn't return overnight.

``Don't expect perfect in the reunion process," said Richard Croucher, the director of family programs for the 94th Regional Readiness Command, which oversees readiness groups across New England. ``To think you're both going to continue just the way you were, it's not going to happen. You're both different people."

Family readiness groups are volunteer support networks for relatives of service members who typically meet monthly to share experiences and advice, both on coping with soldiers' absences and preparing for their return.

The Brockton group is affiliated with the Army Reserve's 220th Transportation Company, a unit based in Keene, N.H., that was deployed to Iraq a year ago. The unit is poised to return home from Iraq soon, possibly within two weeks, and relatives are counting the days until the homecoming.

The hardships military families endure during deployment receive more attention, but the difficulties they encounter when soldiers return are often just as profound, military and civilian counselors say. Taken together, the toll of the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq are potentially causing ``secondary trauma" for millions of Americans on the home front, said Kenneth Reich , codirector of a group of volunteer therapists called SOFAR that has partnered with the Army Reserve to counsel families of several reserve units, including the 220th.

``The scope is staggering," said Reich, president of the Psychoanalytic Couple and Family Institute of New England, SOFAR's umbrella organization. `
`There's a real ripple effect on the families."

Reich started SOFAR -- it stands for Strategic Outreach to Families of All Reservists -- last year after extensive negotiations with the military, and is now coordinating with groups of mental health professionals across the country to broaden the effort. SOFAR, whose members usually meet with small groups of reservists' relatives, including children, is scheduled to begin working with the Massachusetts National Guard in October, and is also developing a program to train teachers to help children of men and women in the services.

With so many combat soldiers returning from Iraq with serious psychological problems, millions of their loved ones are dealing with the repercussions. Reich said he is struck by the depth of military families' resilience, but also of their hardships. ``The tail of trauma is a long one," he said.

Croucher and Reich said there is a growing recognition that military families, particularly those of reservists, need counseling before and during soldiers' return to ease the often-jarring reentry to their former lives. A National Military Family Association survey released in March found that military families experience high levels of anxiety, fatigue, and stress, and called for increased assistance to help families adjust after deployments.

Jaine Darwin, a Cambridge psychoanalyst and SOFAR codirector, said that while the public commonly perceives soldiers' returns as ``VE Day in Times Square," the post deployment transition is usually daunting.

Essentially, a new father or mother is coming home to a family that has also changed, she said. ``You can't take someone whose life has been in constant danger, drop them back home, and expect everything to be rosy right away."

Darwin said that families' daily exposure to intense stress -- the nightmares, erratic behavior, and emotional distance -- can be traumatizing, and hopes that counseling families will help prevent soldiers' children from incurring ``intergenerational trauma." SOFAR plans to continue counseling family members for several months after units have returned.

Mel Tapper , the returning combat veteran coordinator for the Boston area, who also works with National Guard readiness groups, said that families who pray each day for their soldier's safe return find it hard to think of anything beyond that point.

``But, after the initial euphoria, you have to deal with the reality," he said.

Matt Cary , president of the Washington-based advocacy group, Veterans and Military Families for Progress, said he is lobbying for expanded services for military families after deployment, noting high divorce rates among military couples.

Nancy Lessin , a Boston resident who cofounded Military Families Speak Out, which opposes the war, said that reunions are invariably bittersweet because soldiers return fundamentally changed.

``No one comes back from this war safe and sound," she said. ``Our loved ones who left do not come back."

In Brockton, a strong kinship pervades the room at the Army Reserve Center as members share smiles, empathetic looks, and nervous laughs. No one mentions the war, except to ask how a loved one is doing, and whether they've been able to get through on the phone. They want nothing more than to have their spouses and children safely beside them again, but they understand that reconnecting will take time.

``When they get back, it's wonderful, but everything's changed," said Lillian Connolly , the wife of an Army staff sergeant, Joseph Connolly Jr., and the readiness group leader. ``They don't know what the kids eat, what their bedtime is. You adjust to them being gone and suddenly it's, `` `Hi, honey, I'm home.' "

SOFAR and the group plan to keep meeting after the unit returns. When the unit returned from its first tour, families felt unprepared to handle the anxiety, paranoia, and restlessness many soldiers experienced. This time, relatives believe they will be able to spot the warning signs and have fewer illusions that their lives will resume without a hitch.

Connolly said members started preparing for the unit's return ``as soon as they left," to minimize the readjustment, and Croucher, who suffered post traumatic stress disorder after serving in Vietnam, counsels patience.

``It takes at least as long as the deployment for you both to get your nervous system back to normal," Croucher told the group. Many soldiers return home wary and withdrawn, hesitant to show affection, he said.

``They're still soldiers," he said. ``They're not husbands and parents yet."

Carney, a 44-year-old Canton resident, said she is relieved the group will continue its meetings, and that she has tried to remain ``cautious about my expectations" despite her excitement that a year that has ``felt like five" is nearly over.

As the meeting wrapped up, Croucher urged the group to call if they see signs of erratic behavior.

``Only time will bring your soldier back to you. Remember that."



Peter Schworm can be reached at schworm@globe.com .

 

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Today is the National Day of Prayer
May 3, 2007
 
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Give me the greatness of heart to see, The difference between duty & his/her/their love for me. Give me understanding so that I may Know, When duty calls him/her/them, he/she/they must go. Give me a task to do each day, To fill the time when he/she's/ while they're away. When he/she's/they're in a foreign land, Keep him/her/them safe in your loving hand. And Lord, when duty is in the field, Please protect him/her/them and be his/her/their shield. And Lord, when deployment is so long, Please stay with me and keep me strong.

 

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Keeping Faith with America’s Veterans

Homeless veterans, jobless veterans, incarcerated veterans… veterans without hope, veterans in need.

 

Consider John Downing, Chief Executive Officer of the United Veterans of America, Inc., which was founded in 1994 to help homeless veterans in Leeds and Pittsfield, Massachusetts. Throughout the 1990s, Downing submitted several transitional housing and homeless grant applications to the Department of Housing and Urban Development ("HUD") and Department of Veterans Affairs ("VA"). His applications were not given the serious consideration they deserved because his non-profit organization, classified as faith-based, was ineligible for federal funding. "I felt like we needed an advocate for non-profit, faith-based and community groups inside the governmental process. Someone who understands what we need and is willing to fight for us," said Downing.

Policies regarding faith-based and community groups’ participation in federal grants-making and contracting processes are changing for United Veterans of America and thousands of other faith-based and community organizations. In 2001, President George W. Bush signed Executive Order 13198 which established Centers for Faith-Based and Community Initiatives in five cabinet departments – Health and Human Services, Housing and Urban Development, Education, Labor and Justice.

In 2004, the President extended his Faith-Based and Community Initiative to the Department of Veterans Affairs, establishing the VA Center for Faith-Based and Community Initiatives. Partnering with faith-based groups was nothing new to VA. The VA Voluntary Service Program (VAVS), which is the largest volunteer program in the federal government, has provided more than fifty-nine years of service to America’s veterans. More than 350 national and local veterans, civic, and service organizations contributed close to thirteen million hours of service to VA last year. Since 1994, VA has awarded more than $230 million to more than 500 faith-based and community organizations through the homeless grant and per diem program, with funding earmarked for everything from transitional housing to meals for homeless veterans.

In the past, some government regulations went as far as prohibiting faith-based organizations from even applying for federal funds. At other times, the barriers have been more subtle, but the message is still the same—"faith-based organizations need not apply."

Darin Selnick, Director of the VA Center for Faith-Based and Community Initiatives, is hoping to change that perception. He is no stranger to faith-based and community organizations. He has previously served as California State Commander and National Executive Committee Member for the Jewish War Veterans. The challenges he faced while serving in those capacities taught him that even subtle barriers can taint relationships.

"I know what it’s like to be excluded because of your faith," said Selnick. "Legitimate faith-based and community organizations interested in serving at-risk veterans shouldn’t be left out in the cold. They deserve the same access to federal resources as other community groups. And they will get it at VA."

The laws governing federal grants to faith-based groups are clear, according to Selnick. "Direct federal funds cannot be used for inherently religious activities and veterans must receive services regardless of their religious affiliation or beliefs. My goal is to make it easier for VA and these organizations to work together, and to look for new ways these partnerships can serve veterans in every community," he said.

There are many partnership opportunities within the VA for faith-based and community organizations. By striving to create innovative pilot and demonstration programs, VA is increasing these opportunities and expanding the availability of community services that meet veterans’ needs.

If your organization has a potential partnering opportunity or wants more information about VA programs and the VA Center for Faith-Based and Community Initiative, visit our website at     http://www1.va.gov/opa/fbci/   

Faith-based and community organizations have been a cornerstone of community assistance throughout American History. They are eager to provide badly-needed services and many do. However, accessing federal resources is difficult for some organizations because of outdated government rules and regulations that often prohibit these groups from competing for federal grants on a level playing field.

  

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 CAKE IN A JAR

Banana Nut Bread Baked in a Jar

This makes a great gift for friends and neighbors. Also great for Christmas Bazaar item. Decorate with pretty label and a circle of Christmas fabric under the jar ring. Using the same basic recipe you can substitute different fruits and vegetables to make other varieties. Prep Time: approx.

10 Minutes. Cook Time: approx. 45 Minutes. Ready in: approx. 1 Hour 5 Minutes. Makes 8 (1 pint) jars (24 servings).

2/3 cup shortening

2 2/3 cups white sugar

4 eggs

2 cups mashed bananas

2/3 cup water

3 1/3 cups all-purpose flour

1/2 teaspoon baking powder

2 teaspoons baking soda

1 1/2 teaspoons salt

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1 teaspoon ground cloves

2/3 cup chopped pecans

Directions

1 Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C). Grease insides of 8 (1 pint) straight sided, wide mouth canning jars.

2 In a large bowl, cream shortening and sugar until light and fluffy. Beat in eggs, bananas, and water. Sift together flour, baking powder, soda, salt, cinnamon, and cloves. Add to banana mixture. Stir in nuts.

3 Pour mixture into greased WIDE MOUTH pint jars, filling 1/2 full of batter. Do NOT put lids on jars for baking. Be careful to keep the rims clean, wiping off any batter that gets on the rims.

4 Bake at 325 degrees F (165 degrees C) for 45 minutes.

Meanwhile, sterilize the lids and rings in boiling water.

5 As soon as cake is done, remove from oven one at a time, wipe rims of jars and put on lid and ring. Jars will seal as cakes cool. Place the jars on the counter and listen for them to "ping" as they seal. If you miss the "ping", wait until they are completely cool and press on the top of the lid. If it doesn't move at all, it's sealed.

6 Unsealed jars should be eaten or kept in refrigerator for up to a week. Sealed jars can be stored in a cool dry place for up to 6 weeks.

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Apple Cake in a Jar

Apple cake that is sealed in jars and can be given as gifts, or stored for emergencies. Makes 8 pint jars (16 servings).

2/3 cup shortening

2 2/3 cups white sugar

4 eggs

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg

1 1/2 teaspoons salt

2 teaspoons baking soda

3 cups all-purpose flour

2/3 cup water

3 cups grated apple

2/3 cup raisins

2/3 cup chopped walnuts

Directions

1 Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C). Lightly grease the insides of 8 straight-sided wide-mouth pint canning jars. Sift together flour, baking soda, salt, nutmeg and cinnamon. Set aside.

2 Cream shortening and sugar until fluffy. Add eggs and beat in well. Add flour alternately with water and mix until smooth. Fold in apples, raisins and nuts.

3 Fill jars 1/2 full of batter, being careful to keep the rims clean. Wipe off any batter that gets on the rims. Bake at 325 degrees F (165 degrees C) for 45 minutes.

Meanwhile, sterilize the lids and rings in boiling water.

4 As soon as cake is done, remove from oven one at a time, wipe rims of jars and put on lid and ring. Jars will seal as cakes cool. Place the jars on the counter and listen for them to "ping" as they seal. If you miss the "ping", wait until they are completely cool and press on the top of the lid. If it doesn't move at all, it's sealed.

5 Unsealed jars should be eaten or kept in refrigerator for up to a week. Sealed jars can be stored with other canned food for up to a year.

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CARAMEL NUT CAKE IN A JAR

2 cups packed Brown Sugar

2/3 cup white sugar

1-cup butter softened

4 eggs

2/3 cups milk

1 Tablespoon vanilla extract

3 ½ cups all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon baking powder

2 teaspoons baking soda

1 teaspoon salt

1 cup walnuts

 

Sterilize 6 (1-pint) straight sided wide mouth canning jars, lids & rings by boiling for 10 mins. Keep lids & rings in hot water until needed. Preheat oven to 325 degrees. Dry jars and let the come to room temperature. Grease inside of jars well.

In a medium bowl, sift flour, baking powder, baking soda & salt. Set aside.

In a large bowl, cream together sugars, butter with electric mixer. Add eggs and mix well. Add milk & vanilla and mix well.

Add flour mixture and blend with a large spoon. Gently fold in walnuts.

Place one-cup batter in to each 1 pint greased canning jar. Wipe any batter from rim. Place jars on baking sheet. Bake at 325 for 50 minutes or until toothpick inserted in center comes out clean.

Make sure jar rims are clean (If they are not, jars will not seal properly) While jars are still hot, place lids on jars and screw rings on tightly. Jars will seal as they cool. Place the jars on the counter and listen for the "ping" as they seal. If you miss the "ping" wait until they are completely cool and press on the top of the lids. If it doesn't move at all, then it's sealed.

Keep in refrigerator for prolong storage.

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Applesauce Cake In A Jar

2/3 cup shortening

2 2/3 cups sugar

4 eggs

2/3 cup water

3 1/3 cups flour

1/2 tsp baking powder

2 tsps baking soda

1 1/2 tsp salt

1 tsp ground cloves

1 tsp cinnamon

2 cups applesauce

2/3 cups nuts (walnuts or pecans)

9 pint wide mouth jars with rings and seals

Mix all ingredients and pour into well greased sterilized pint wide mouth jars. Fill half full and bake 35-40 minutes at 325 degrees or until done. I put my jars on a baking sheet to put them in the oven. When done remove the jars one at a time, place the seal (flat) and ring on the jar and tighten the ring. The lids will seal as the dake cools. You will be able to hear the ping of the seal and can make sure it is sealed by pressing on the center of the lid after the cakes have cooled. Test the lids to make sure they seal before storing in the cupboard. If they do not seal eat the cake right away, otherwise they can be stored indefinitely in the cupboard.

Good luck and enjoy and hope your Marines enjoy too. These also make great last minute Christmas gifts

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Amaretto or Rum Cakes in a Jar:

1 pkg white cake mix

1 small box instant vanilla pudding

4 eggs

1 cup oil

1/2 cup water

3/4 cup amaretto or rum

Put cake mix and pudding powder together and stir till blended. Add the eggs, oil, water, and amaretto. Beat with electric mixer for 2 minutes. Divide batter into 4 1quart wide mouth mason jars that are sprayed well with Pam. Wipe any batter from the rims and place on a cookie sheet and bake at 325 for approx. 45 minutes. When cakes are almost done, make the glaze.

Soaking glaze:

1 cup pwd. sugar

1/2 cup amaretto/rum

1 stick butter

Place all in a sauce pan and bring to a boil. Lower heat and boil for 3 minutes. Poke holes in cake and spoon mixture over each. Wipe rims of jars with a warm wet cloth and seal with lids while jars are still very hot.

Just a few added tips: These cakes will rise to the top of the jar when baked. I use a bamboo skewers to poke the holes in the cakes when they come out of the oven. Put the lids on tight and the expansion from the heat inside the jar makes the lids puff slightly, then as they cool the lids seal down and make "pinging" noises. This is like the canning process which makes these cakes edible for up to 6 months.

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Chocolate Cake in a Jar

Stored in canning jars, these should last up to a year.

Makes 2 wide mouth (pint) canning jars (2 servings).

1 cup all-purpose flour

1 cup white sugar

1/2 teaspoon baking soda

1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1/3 cup butter

1/4 cup water

3 tablespoons unsweetened

cocoa powder

1/4 cup buttermilk

1 egg, beaten

1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract

1/4 cup finely chopped walnuts

Directions

1 Sterilize 2 (1 pint) straight sided wide mouth canning jars, lids and rings by boiling for 10 minutes. Keep the lids and rings in the hot water until needed. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C)

2 In a small bowl, mix flour, sugar, baking soda and cinnamon. Set aside.

3 In a medium saucepan, combine butter, water and cocoa powder. Heat and stir until butter is melted and mixture is well blended. Pour into a large bowl.

4 Stir in Flour mixture and blend. Add buttermilk, egg and vanilla and beat by hand until smooth. Stir in nuts.

5 Distribute evenly into the 2 prepared canning jars. Place the jars on a cookie sheet and bake at 325 degrees F (165 degrees C) for 35 to 40 minutes or until toothpick inserted deep into center of cake comes out clean.

6 Using heavy oven mitts, remove cakes from oven one at a time. Place a lid, then a ring onto the jars and screw them down tightly. Place the jars on the counter and listen for them to "ping" as they seal. If you miss the "ping", wait until they are completely cool and press on the top of the lid. If it doesn't move at all, it's sealed.

7 Store cakes in a cool dark place. They should last for up to a year.

 

 

 

"ZIPLOC OMELETS"
Have you ever heard of this?  This works great! Good for when all the troops come in!!  No one has to wait for their special omelet!  Have guests write their name on a quart-size ziploc freezer bag with permanent marker.  It's also good for when you just don't want to clean up an omelet skillet after breakfast! 



Crack 2 eggs (lg or extra-lg) into the bag not more than 2) shake to combine them.

Put out a variety of ingredients such as: cheeses, onion, green pepper, mushrooms, olives, tomato, salsa, etc.

Each guest adds prepared ingredients of choice to their bag & shakes. Make sure to get the air out of the bag & zip it up.

Place the bags into rolling, boiling water for exactly 13 minutes. You can usually cook 6-8 omelets in a large pot. For more, make another pot of boiling water.

Open the bags & the omelet will roll out easily. Be prepared for everyone to be amazed.

Nice to serve with fresh fruit & coffee cake; everyone gets involved in the process & a it's a great conversation.

 

Heart of a Hawk: One family's sacrifice & journey toward healing
by Deborah H. Tainsh
 
David and Deborah Tainsh were living the happiest years of their lives until the dark morning of February 12, 2004, when a six a.m. knock at the door brought the news that their son, Sergeant Patrick Tainsh, had been killed in Iraq. Patrick, David’s only child, was the pride of his life. He was the son who overcame a rebellious, drug-addicted youth to become an outstanding U.S. Army Cavalry Scout, posthumously awarded the Bronze and Silver Stars for saving the lives of his commanding officer and other soldiers before succumbing to his own wounds.
 
In the wake of their loss, David and Deborah battle horrific grief and anger while trying to hold their marriage—and one another—together in an unforgettable journey toward healing. A portion of the proceeds from Heart of a Hawk is donated to the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, a nonprofit organization that provides grief support to the families of fallen military personnel.
 
Heart of a Hawk received the Spirit of Freedom Award from Military Writers Society of America.
 
About the Author
As a mentor for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, Deborah talks with military families across the nation, sharing her family's continuing journey of grief, love, and hope while celebrating a son's courageous life with the message that "our children expect no less courage and giving from us than what they showed the world." Deborah’s poems are included in the National Endowment for the Arts archives of Operation Homecoming: Writing the Wartime Experience.
 
ISBN 0-9657483-8-3
6"x9" paperback
192 pages
 
 
 
 
 
 
BLOOD BROTHERS:  Among The Soldiers of Ward 57
 
 
 
Journalist Michael Weisskopf is the senior correspondent for the Washington bureau of Time magazine. In 2003, while on assignment in Baghdad, he threw a live Iraqi grenade from the back of an open Humvee.

He saved himself, four soldiers and Time's photographer, but lost his hand. Weisskopf's new book is Blood Brothers: Among the Soldiers of Ward 57.

 

 

 

"Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We Didn't pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same, or one day we will spend our sunset years telling our children and our children's children what it was once like in the United States where men were free."
 
Ronald Reagan 1961

 

Movies and Videos 

MOVIES 

 

Norway Navy Drill
 
AMERICA -- Why I Love Her
 
 
A  SOLDIER'S  PRAYER
 
 
DEAR DADDY 
 
 

I KISSED MY SON GOOD-BYE TODAY 

http://www.link4u.com/kissedmyson.htm

 

GOING HOME

http://www.thefinalrollcall.us/rc_goinghome.html 

 

 
 
 
BEFORE YOU GO
 
 
A TRIBUTE TO VETERANS -- PAST AND PRESENT
 
 
THANK YOU!! 
 
 
 
 

Iraq....  Until Then.....

http://www.clermontyellow.accountsupport.com/flash/UntilThen.swf

 

"In God We Still Trust'
video 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Let The Light Of Freedom Shine!
(video)  Click Here:
 
 
 
 
"Old Veterans"
Made Me Laugh..... and Cry
 
 
 
IRAQ -- Music and Video
101 St Airborne Tribute Video, Toby Keith
 
Click Here:
 
 
I Just Came Back From A War
 
 
 

DOCUMENTARIES 

 

 

 

FRONTLINE --  "A Company of Soldiers"

"In November 2004, a FRONTLINE production team embedded with the soldiers of the 1-8 Cavalry's Dog Company in south Baghdad to document the day-to-day realities of a life-and-death military mission that also includes rebuilding Iraq's infrastructure, promoting its economic development, and building positive relations with its people.

Filming began three days after the Fallujah campaign was launched in November 2004."

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/company/etc/synopsis.html

There is a link to watch the production online!

 

 

 

THE SOLDIERS HEART
 
 
Examinging an unexpected story of the Iraq war: the phychological cost of those who fight.
 
Program may be watched online.
 
FRONTLINE PRODUCTION
 
 
 
 

 

Vietnam Door Gunners Association

http://www.kfvn.com/ptsd/tablecontents.htm


 

Col Edward Tolfa Jr was the Battalion Commander of the 13th Combat Aviation Battalion at Can Tho which is in the Mekong Delta of South Vietnam. Col Tolfa's call sign was Guardian Six. During 1970 thru 1972 the Crew that flew with Col Tolfa is now known as the Guardian Six Pack. This 47 minute DVD is the actual life and times of the Six Pack and others as filmed using Kodak Super 8 Millimeter Film.



Vietnam Door Gunners Association would like you to have a copy of this Documentary Movie at no cost, no obligation, no sales pitch... No BS Attached. This film will have you laughing and crying as you meet the Guardian Six Pack and watch real footage of real day to day living in the Vietnam War. The film is not all about blood and guts. Rather, viewers are introduced to nineteen year old kids and what they did to cope with the daily grind of Vietnam.



How to get the Free DVD

Drop an e-mail to the below address. Send us a Snail-Mail address and we will mail you the DVD. We won't keep your e-mail or your Snail-Mail address. We are not compiling names and addresses because we aren't selling anything. We don't charge for use of the information in the PTSD Book and we don't charge for the Guardian Six Pack DVD.


kfvn@pop.powweb.com

_______________________

My Child -- Mothers Of War
 
click here:

 

Patriotic Midi Files
 
click here:
 
 
 
Music From The Vietnam Era:
 
click here:
 
 
 
 
 
Songs For The Brave
 
Click Here:
 
 
 
 
SONG
So Brave
A Mother's Tribute To Her Son
 
 
 
 
 
Hooah Radio
 
 
 
 
 
STARDUST RADIO
Serving Military Personnel Around The World
 
 
 
 
 
 
I Just Came Back From A War
 
 
 
 
 
"We Know You're Out There'
Song For Our Troops
by Kory Brunson
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Music For Troops.com
Sending Free Music To The Troops!
 
 
 
 
 
Patriotic Song -- Bring Our Daddy Home
 
 
 
Patriotic Song -- Bring Our Daddy Home
 
 
Music For Troops.com
Sending Free Music To The Troops!
 
 

 

LET'S BRING EM HOME!
 
LBEH (Let's Bring Em Home) is an organization that purchases plane tickets for junior enlisted military personnel, allowing them the opportunity to fly home and spend the holidays with their families. This program was initially started in December 2001 to show grateful appreciation to American service members deployed in support of Operation Enduring Freedom, and has become an annual tradition ever since.
 
You too can be a part of this awesome event - by donating frequent flyer miles and/or making financial contributions - if you can't do either, then help out by spreading the word of this effort to others!
 
Here's the "411" on: Let's Bring Em Home
How you can help: http://www.lbeh. org/?help
Current status of donations for 2006: http://www.lbeh. org/?status
How you can request a ticket: http://www.lbeh. org/?request
Background info on the birth of LBEH: http://www.lbeh. org/?about
How to contact LBEH: http://www.lbeh. org/?contact
IRS certification of this organization as a legitimate charity: http://www.lbeh.org/?501c
 
 

 

AMERICAN SOLDIER MEMORIAL PROJECT:
 
click here if you would like to make cross stitch samplers for the families who have lost loved ones in the war:
 
 
Some of the young people that have fallen do not have people working on their samplers yet -- here is a list of the Connecticut names:
 

++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

Sgt. Major Phillip R. Albert, 41, Terryville, Conn., November 23, 2003, Afghanistan¬ Taken

Sgt. Benjamin L. Gilman, 28, Meriden, Conn., January 29, 2004, Ghazni, Afghanistan ¬Taken

Lt. Col. Michael J. McMahon, 41, Conn., November 27, 2004, Bamian, Afghanistan¬Taken

Maj. Stephen C. Reich, 34, Washington Depot, Conn., June 28, 2005, Afghanistan

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

Pfc. Jeffrey F. Braun, 19, Stafford, Conn., December 12, 2003, Baghdad, Iraq¬Taken

Chief Warrant Officer William I. Brennan, 36, Bethlehem, Conn., October 16, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq¬Taken

"Delivered"® Pfc. Anthony D. Dagostino, 20, Waterbury, Conn., November 2, 2003, Al Fallujah, Iraq ¬Taken (D'Agostino)

"Delivered"® Sgt. Felix M. Delgreco, 22, Simsbury, Conn., April 9, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq ¬Taken

Staff Sgt. Richard S. Eaton, Jr., 37, Guilford, Conn., August 12, 2003, Ar Ramadi, Iraq

Spc. Tyanna S. Felder, 22, Bridgeport, Conn., April 7, 2004, Balad, Iraq¬Taken

Barbara Heald, 60, Stanford, Conn., January 29, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq  (this lady was a State Dept Worker -- civilian -- non military)

Spc. Christopher L. Hoskins, 21, Danielson, Conn., June 21, 2005, Ramadi, Iraq

"Delivered"® Spc. Robert W. Hoyt, 21, Ashford, Conn., December 11, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq ¬Taken

Spc. Jacob D. Martir, 21, Norwich, Conn., August 18, 2004, Sadr City, Iraq¬Taken  (Martir-Gutierrez)

Pfc. Wilfredo Perez Jr., 24, Norwalk, Conn., July 26, 2003, Baghdad, Iraq

Staff Sgt. Thomas E. Vitagliano, 33, New Haven, Conn., January 17, 2005, Ar Ramadi, Iraq

Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler, 20, Suffield, Conn., May 4, 2006, Iraq

Cpl. Kemaphoom A. Chanawongse, 22, Waterford, Conn., March 23, 2003, Iraq

¬Taken

Sgt. David J. Coullard, 32, Glastonbury, Conn., Aug. 1, 2005, Iraq

Cpl. Kevin J. Dempsey, 23, Monroe, Conn., Nov. 13, 2004, Iraq

Lance Cpl. Lawrence R. Philippon, 22, Hartford, Conn., May 8, 2005, Iraq

Lance Cpl. John T. Schmidt III, 21, Brookfield, Conn., May 11, 2005 (from injuries sustained in Iraq)

Staff Sgt Phillip A. Jordan -- Enfield, CT -- KIA Iraq March 23, 2003

Staff Sgt. Henry E. Irizarry -- Waterbury, CT -- KIA Iraq Dec 3, 2004

 

We Wish To Thank The Following Agencies and Organizations For Listing Our Chapter And Providing A Link To Our Website

 

State of Connecticut -- Department of Veterans' Affairs

State of Connecticut -- Department of Labor

State of Connecticut -- Veterans Service Organizations

Blue Star Mothers Of America, Inc.

   The Silver Star Families Of America 

The American Legion -- Department of Connecticut 

The American Legion -- Sutter-Terlizzi Post # 16

Military Connection

Service Flags.com

Veterans Wives And Families

Veterans Information

Wildgun's C Troop 11th Calvary

USA Patriotism

Doc's Military-Veterans Website

International War Veterans' Poetry Archives

Cornerstone Ministries

Families Support Our Troops

Soldiers' Angels

Hooah Radio

SSP Soldier Portraits

Koinonia  eLibrary

Homes For The Brave

Guardian Angels For Soldier's Pet

VFW Post 296 - Winsted, CT

Operation Homefront Quilts

 

 

 

WEBSITE AWARD OF EXCELLENCE GIVEN TO US by 'VETERANS INFORMATION'

 

 

WEBSITE PATRIOTISM BADGE AWARDED TO US by  'USA PATRIOTISM'

 

 

HELLO ... I'M PERRY FROM THE 2ND INFANTRY DIVISION.....  I WISH TO PRESENT  TO YOU THIS AWARD FOR AN OUTSTANDING WEB SITE .... THANK YOU FOR YOUR  INVOLVEMENT AND SUPPORT  OF OUR TROOPS
 
SINCERLY
PERRY E. EDENFIELD
 
 
 
Rev Lin
I hope you will accept this humble award to show my appreciation for all that you do for all veterans God Bless our Troops in harm's way and the USA!  Your site will be listed among the award winners here.
Viper
 
 
 

CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS 
Copyright © 2006  All Rights Reserved

The Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc. is a non-partisan, non-political organization. We do not support any political candidate nor do we endorse any religious organization. The military represents all aspects of America as does our organization. We are here to support our troops, our veterans, one another, and the cause of patriotism  Please adhere to our purpose when posting to this site; do not use it for any personal platform.   DO NOT post anything that does not comply with Operational Security measures! Also we must adhere to copyright laws when posting.  Linking to our website does not represent an endorsement on the part of Connecticut Blue Star Mothers or Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.

 


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TAPS

Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, Inc.,

http://www.taps.org/

The following information is presented to you directly from the TAPS website.  Please visit their website by clicking the link above to fully see their programs and information.  That which is presented here is only for the purpose of directing you to TAPS, its programs, contact information, resources, and events.  Please do not copy information from this page, rather go directly to the TAPS website for anything you will need.  Thank you very much.

© 2006 TAPS, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, Inc.,

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"The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, Inc., is a one of a kind non-profit Veteran Service Organization offering hope, healing, comfort and care to thousands of American armed forces families facing the death of a loved one each year. TAPS receives absolutely no government funding, but through the Departments of Defense and Veterans Affairs, all families faced with a death of one serving in the Armed Forces receive information about TAPS and our military survivor programs."

TAPS Resources & Information

We are so very sorry for the loss that has brought you to this page, but grateful you have reached out to TAPS. We are here for you, and will do our best to help you in anyway we can. TAPS is a family you are lovingly welcomed into, and we hope you will lean on us whenever you need an ear or a hug or a shoulder to lean on!

First, I’d like to tell you a little bit about what TAPS gently offers for you, 24 hours a day, free of charge. Our website includes a few articles that we hope you’ll find helpful. Please call or write us if we can send you more information. We will also be glad to add you to our data base.

Here are the Services TAPS offers for you:

  • Peer support: We have a wonderful, loving program to connect you with others who have also suffered the loss of a loved one serving in the armed forces. This is part of our TAPS national survivor network. Together, we share our pain and fears in a safe and supportive environment, and help each other heal. Let us know if you would like to receive a call from another widow, who will then be there for you in the coming weeks and months. Just a friend who will truly understand, to offer comfort and information, but most of all, an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.

  • Crisis Intervention: You now have a number to call, anytime of the day or night, for help and information. We have a wonderful network of trained crisis response professionals on call in each state 24 hours a day through 1-800-959-TAPS (8277).

  • Case Work: If you have questions about anything at all – from benefits to burial to resources, TAPS can help you find the answers. We have good friends throughout the government, and they are standing by to help you. Our 800-959-8277 is a good starting point for your questions, and we can either tell you how to find the answers, or we can make calls on your behalf. We understand how hard it can be sometimes to reach out!

  • Grief and Trauma Resources and Information: TAPS is a member of the Association of Death Education and Counseling and the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, and are able to offer information about bereavement support groups throughout the nation. TAPS also partners with the Department of Veterans Affairs Readjustment Counseling Service and their 206 Vet Centers around the country. These are wonderful people who are not only therapists and counselors, but are also, in many cases, combat veterans themselves. They get it! And they are here for you now, to offer counseling and support. This is free of charge to you, so call us if you could like your local Vet Center counselor to contact you and we’ll make it happen.

  • TAPS’ Annual National Military Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp for Young Survivors: You are invited to attend this wonderful weekend of healing and comfort, held every year during Memorial Day weekend in Washington, DC. The theme of our conference is “remember the love, celebrate the life, and share the journey” and through workshops and special events and support groups, we offer a caring, loving environment. We hope to see you there!

  • TAPS Chat: Join us online each week for the national support group meeting held at www.taps.org (click on TAPS Chat and sign up).

You may reach TAPS, at any time. Don’t hesitate to call.

With love and care and sorrow,

Your family at TAPS


Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, Inc.
1621 Connecticut Avenue, NW, Suite 300
Washington, DC 20009
info@taps.org
Office: 202.588.TAPS (8277)
Toll-Free: 800.959.TAPS (8277)

 

  

White House Commission on Rememberance
 

 

~~ Looking at Grief ~~

By Bob Nelson

Grief, in brief, is about the loss of someone or something. It can be sudden or unexpected. When it comes to healing from grief everybody is different. Some methods are healthy and some are not healthy and actually hinder the grieving process. Grief doesn’t have to wait for loss, the anticipation of loss will start the process.

Dying seems less sad than having lived too little.

Gloria Steinem

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross: "On Death and Dying"

Denial - this isn’t happeningto me

Anger – why is this happening to me?

Bargaining – I promise to be a better person if

Depression – I don’t care anymore

Acceptance – I’m ready for whatever comes

 

These five things were identified by Dr. Kubler-Ross as her "stages" of grief. I prefer to think of them as "emotional behaviors."

The real problem with the list is that some people take her words literally. Know that there is no script for grieving. Everybody is an individual and therefore handles their emotions differently.

 

 

What we commonly call death does not destroy the body, it only causes a separation of spirit and body.

Brigham Young

Dr. Roberta Temes: "Living with An Empty Chair"

Numbness – mechanical functioning and social isolation

Disorganization – intensely painful feelings of loss

Reorganizaton – re-entry into a more "normal" social life

 

The problems with the above list are that people don’t fall into neat list categories. If the process was this predictable the list could be posted on the wall and we could chart our progress as we journey through grief. Grief, especially our personal grief, is as individual as those who feel and live it.

It has been said that America does not have a culture of grieving… that it instead has a grieving culture of anger – about death, about being cheated, about having to feel miserable with a vague hope that "someday we will feel better."

If you think you are confused about grieving, think of the people that surround and support us. They have questions such as: How should we treat those that are grieving, what do we say to them, when will they get over it, I’d like to help – but what can I do? As a result it is not uncommon for people to just avoid people who are grieving.

Although death is the only certainty in life, in America death or the grieving process is rarely discussed. As a culture we are uncomfortable with the topic.

There are many sides to grief: physical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological reactions to loss. It is not limited to feelings about death – grief can be the response to loss of home or country; separation from family, loved ones and friends; and having to adjust to new life stages.

 

Death is psychologically as important as birth… shrinking away from it is something unhealthy and abnormal which robs the second half of life of its purpose.

Carl Gustav Jung

 

I never knew

it could hurt so much.

 

I never knew

so many strong feelings

would churn inside me.

 

I’m overwhelmed.

I’m confused.

I’m angry.

I’m lonely.

I’m hurting.

 

Part of my heart

has been ripped away.

 

How will I survive this?

How long with it hurt, God?

How long will it hurt?

Unknown

 

~~~ ~~~

Dr. Kenneth C. Haugk in his book – "A Time To Grieve" answered a question for me that dates back to my repeated trips working in New York City following 9-11. While doing brief grief therapy and other models, I learned to dislike the word "normal" when it came to describing how the families and friends of the families were feeling. After a few sessions they would be upset with the word and tell me that their feelings are not "normal." They were hurt, upset, crushed, demoralized, lost… it was a long list, but a list that they did not want to be "normal.

"

Dr. Haugk talks about "the three Ns of grief."

 

Grief is normalbecause it is how people respond to a significant personal loss. It’s normal to expect people who have lost someone they love to be deeply affected by their loss.

Grief is natural in that it’s a completely human thing to do. We cannot avoid grief – it’s built into us. We are created to grieve, just as we’re created to love. We love, and when we lose someone we love, we grieve.

Grief is necessary. Grief provides a healthy way to cope with the loss and everything it means to us. Trying to ignore or avoid grief does not work. It will only make the grief last longer and possibly cause even more pain.

 

My new word from Dr. Haugk is "natural." It is a process and it is "natural." As in any process there is a beginning (the event), a middle (grieving), and closure (emotionally and mentally being in a different place).

Our society likes things to happen "right now." As said, there is no schedule or completion date for grieving. It takes as long as it takes and then some.

Like love, grief fades in and out.

Mason Cooley

As with emotions and processes, there are a number of theories on how to properly grieve. One list, no author given, gave five steps:

 

Acknowledge

Accept

Allow

Express

Choose

 

There are different types of grieving: grieving due to death, grieving due to divorce, grieving due to loss of control, grieving due to loss of power, etc. In general grieving follows the same basic pattern. But, in each of the types of grieving the "how to" is different based on the situation, the person, and their base of support.

Another aspect of grieving is called "secondary loss." Those losses can be on the outside: financial, bills, loss of income, loss of love, loss of companionship, loss of security, etc.

They can be spiritual; death may challenge the way you see or think of God.

Loss can change your activities: forms of entertainment, movies, sports events, concerts, eating out, social clubs, taking trips, shopping, etc.

Loss can result in loss of identity: husband, father, wife, mother, son, daughter, friend.

 

Each substance of grief hath twenty shadows…

to manage your grief by deciding the best way, time, place for you to do your work. You determine when, where and how to grieve rather then letting the grieving process take control. Choices make us strong, as we start being able to make choices for ourselves, rather than letting circumstances and people dictate us, we regain our inner power and our self-esteem.
how you feel in an appropriate manner: cry, shout, work out parts of the body where the symptoms seem to be concentrated.
yourself to feel the pain without denial, recriminations, judgments.
these symptoms: Grief work must be done before you can let go and go on with your life. If you don’t do the grief work and own and feel the pain, your body may express it through other ways: headaches, ulcers, colitis, asthma, depression, etc. Unresolved feelings put your body through a great deal of stress.
the symptoms: anxiety, depression, not wanting to face people, not wanting to leave the house, sleeping all the time, not being able to sleep, stomach pain, etc.

William Shakespeare, Richard II

 

 

Grieve as you need to grieve. You are you, your loss is different from anyone else’s loss, and you will grieve the way you need to grieve.

Dr. Kenneth Haugk 

 

Tears are sometimes an inappropriate response to death. When a life has been lived completely honestly, completely successfully, or just completely, the correct response to death’s perfect punctuation mark is a smile.

                                Jimmy Buffett

 

 

In our inpatient world Americans want things to start and to end very quickly. That may work for some things, but not for grief. Not only can it be a wild ride sprinkled with many highs and lows, but it will last as long as it needs to last. In her book Elizabeth Kubler-Ross talks of the grief process taking up to two years. Others have no definite time limits.

Grief is a choppy "two steps forward, one step backward" experience.

Therese Rando

Dr. Haugk has a rule that I embrace: share, don’t compare. His point is that it can be very beneficial to share your thoughts and experiences with grief. His message is that other people have walked the same road and have survived and we can support and comfort each other through these very difficult times.

In treating war trauma one of the first things I learned was to not compare wounds. Your trauma, your grief is just as real as the next persons. Grief and trauma are not a contest that "my experiences were worse than yours". Comparing grief and trauma is another trauma just waiting to happen.

After desolation, grief brings back our humanity.

Mason Cooley

In Book Three of his book "Finding Hope and Healing," Dr. Haugk shares three basic thoughts of comparing.

 

Comparing grief can cause heartache

Comparing grief can cause tension

Comparing grief can cause unrealistic expectations

 

In a culture with no single ritual for response to loss, many people use avoidance to cope. However, coping by avoidance is associated with poor adjustment to loss.

Dr. Edward J. Callahan, Ph.D.

All things grow with time, except grief.

Yiddish Proverb

Situational

Developmental

Internal

 

 

Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of a joy you must have somebody to divide it with.

Mark Twain

Some things you can do to help yourself "get over it" are:

 

Surround yourself with "known" things and friends.

Know that this is a process hence there is a beginning, the middle and an end.

Be real with yourself. Grieving is both hard and time consuming and it doesn’t happen in a vacuum.

Face the event or crisis actively so as to realize the full reality of what happened.

Avoid medications if possible. A changed belief in the psychological community is that people affected by trauma do better with medication followed by therapy. Working with military members returning from war in the Middle East has shown that talk (group or individual) therapy should be first. If the symptoms persist or get worse medication may then be prescribed.

Do not make any hasty decisions. An unofficial rule of thumb is following a major trauma or death; postpone making any life changing decisions by up to a year. The first step is to cope with the loss knowing that running away will not help.

Remember the memories and thoughts – running away physically or mentally only lengthens the grief process.

Need help – recognize that need and seek the services of a good friend, pastor, counselor, family member.

Beware of well-meaning friends. Our western civilization can be of great help when a tragedy or trauma initially happens, but that help can turn to misguided advise such as get over it, it’s time to get on with life, everybody dies – you need to live, etc.

When possible talk to yourself – out loud. There’s magic in hearing yourself saying certain words and giving your self permission to think and feel again.

Journaling is a great exercise. Like #10 it’s the writing down of the words and dealing with your thoughts that provides a catharsis.

Don’t wander – establish growth goals for yourself. Recognize those around you, reach out to others, volunteer, try something you’ve always wanted to do but never gave yourself permission to try.

Keep hope alive. This too will pass, but only after you’ve done the grief work necessary for your survival and growth.

Give yourself permission to feel better and to laugh. It is hard to laugh when you feel so bad, but there are good memories and laughter in your past life and you are allowed to reach out and touch them.

 

Grieving is not an exact science. All of the above are strictly "guides" to help you through the process. Do what works for you. Eliminate or throw out what doesn’t.

 

May you live out your life

Without hate, without grief

And your hair ever blaze,

In the sun, in the sun,

When I am undone,

When I am no one.

 

All those who try to go it sole alone,

Too proud to be beholden for relief,

Are absolutely sure to come to grief

 

 

                                                        Robert Frost

Theodore Roethke
- these feelings are usually unrelated to external situations such as age, social standing, developmental stage. The feelings are primarily those of low self-esteem and vulnerability. Some of these feelings can be carry over’s from our earlier separation stages.
– starting at birth life is about separating. We may just need to be or feel alone to develop higher feelings and emotions.
– a change in circumstances: someone is terminally ill; you’ve just moved and haven’t made friends, divorce, death.

Walking the grief road can be very lonely. Just as we can’t know what is going on inside of another person, they can’t know what is going on inside of you.

Loneliness is a state during which a person experiences powerful feelings of incredible emptiness and isolation. That loneliness is not just about being and feeling alone, it is also about feeling cut off, disconnected, and alienated from other people and support.

When asked to describe "loneliness", terms such as "I feel hollow" or "I feel empty, I don’t know what to feel."

There are three basic types of loneliness:

 

: Although you know (mostly) what’s going on inside of you, you can never really know exactly what’s going on inside another person. Looking in from the outside, you draw certain conclusions about the way another person is grieving. You may think you know what the person is feeling. But you don’t, not really. What the other person reports is happening and what you believe is happening are often very different from that persons reality. You may be setting expectations for yourself that may have no basis in reality.
: Even members of the same family grieving for the same loss won’t all grieve the same way. Dr. Haugk tells of one man who told him that his mother was very angry at the man because she felt he wasn’t grieving enough after his brother died. The man said, "I wasn’t showing the same emotions at the same intensity for as long as she was, so she felt that meant I didn’t love my brother enough. I loved him dearly. My grief was just different from hers." Trying to compare grief just creates more tension.
: You’re already feeling terrible because of your loss. Thinking you should grieve a specific way or for a certain amount of time to match another person’s grief will only make you feel worse. Losses are never comparable. Spare yourself the added pain.

A key thought about grieving is acknowledging that you need to grieve. Family providers, strong people, busy people – their life is to care for others and take care of themselves last. Know that you can’t care for someone else unless you care for yourself first – both physically and emotionally. Wise words are spoken to each of us when we fly. The flight attendant tells us that in the event of cabin depressurization a mask will fall from the overhead compartment. The instructions are to put our mask on first and then help another person. Self care starts with self care – first.

Grief causes a fog to roll into our lives. The fog of grief can affect our ability to think or concentrate. This fog often sets in right after the loss. But even after the initial shock wears off, the fog can linger or come and go for a long, long time.

This fog can look different. To some it will be denial – denial of the loss, denial of the impact of the loss, and denial of the affective experience (expectations and attitudes) of the loss. For others it may feel as being lost: I don’t know what to do, where to go, with whom should I talk?

Bottom line – we’re going through the motions of living while all of our systems are on overload. Another way of saying this is that we are "just going through the motions." However, grief will not be denied. Ignoring it will not make it go away, your reality will not change… you cannot NOT grieve.

Many books have been written about death, dying and grieving. All are similar, but all arrive at their final destination of resolution by a different path.

 

  

Centering Corporation and Grief Digest Magazine
 
 
 
 
 
 
GRIEF WATCH
 
 
 
 
 
GRIEF NET org
 
 
 
 
 
 
KID SAID
 
 
 
AMERICAN SOLDIER MEMORIAL PROJECT:
 
click here if you would like to make cross stitch samplers for the families who have lost loved ones in the war:
 
 
Some of the young people that have fallen do not have people working on their samplers yet -- here is a list of the Connecticut names:
 

++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

Sgt. Major Phillip R. Albert, 41, Terryville, Conn., November 23, 2003, Afghanistan¬ Taken

Sgt. Benjamin L. Gilman, 28, Meriden, Conn., January 29, 2004, Ghazni, Afghanistan ¬Taken

Lt. Col. Michael J. McMahon, 41, Conn., November 27, 2004, Bamian, Afghanistan¬Taken

Maj. Stephen C. Reich, 34, Washington Depot, Conn., June 28, 2005, Afghanistan

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Pfc. Jeffrey F. Braun, 19, Stafford, Conn., December 12, 2003, Baghdad, Iraq¬Taken

Chief Warrant Officer William I. Brennan, 36, Bethlehem, Conn., October 16, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq¬Taken

"Delivered"® Pfc. Anthony D. Dagostino, 20, Waterbury, Conn., November 2, 2003, Al Fallujah, Iraq ¬Taken (D'Agostino) 

"Delivered"® Sgt. Felix M. Delgreco, 22, Simsbury, Conn., April 9, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq ¬Taken 

Staff Sgt. Richard S. Eaton, Jr., 37, Guilford, Conn., August 12, 2003, Ar Ramadi, Iraq

Spc. Tyanna S. Felder, 22, Bridgeport, Conn., April 7, 2004, Balad, Iraq¬Taken

Barbara Heald, 60, Stanford, Conn., January 29, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq  (this lady was a State Dept Worker -- civilian -- non military)

Spc. Christopher L. Hoskins, 21, Danielson, Conn., June 21, 2005, Ramadi, Iraq

"Delivered"® Spc. Robert W. Hoyt, 21, Ashford, Conn., December 11, 2004, Baghdad, Iraq ¬Taken 

Spc. Jacob D. Martir, 21, Norwich, Conn., August 18, 2004, Sadr City, Iraq¬Taken  (Martir-Gutierrez)

Pfc. Wilfredo Perez Jr., 24, Norwalk, Conn., July 26, 2003, Baghdad, Iraq

Staff Sgt. Thomas E. Vitagliano, 33, New Haven, Conn., January 17, 2005, Ar Ramadi, Iraq

Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler, 20, Suffield, Conn., May 4, 2006, Iraq

Cpl. Kemaphoom A. Chanawongse, 22, Waterford, Conn., March 23, 2003, Iraq

¬Taken 

Sgt. David J. Coullard, 32, Glastonbury, Conn., Aug. 1, 2005, Iraq

Cpl. Kevin J. Dempsey, 23, Monroe, Conn., Nov. 13, 2004, Iraq

Lance Cpl. Lawrence R. Philippon, 22, Hartford, Conn., May 8, 2005, Iraq

Lance Cpl. John T. Schmidt III, 21, Brookfield, Conn., May 11, 2005 (from injuries sustained in Iraq)

Staff Sgt Phillip A. Jordan -- Enfield, CT -- KIA Iraq March 23, 2003

Staff Sgt. Henry E. Irizarry -- Waterbury, CT -- KIA Iraq Dec 3, 2004

 

 

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Silver Star Families of America
We are dedicated to supporting and assisting
our wounded and their families.
Our goal is to recognize the blood sacrifice
of our wounded and remember their efforts
by honoring them with the
Silver Star Banner.
 
 
 
 
The Connecticut Blue Star Mothers are working with the Silver Star Families of America to support and bring honor to those who have been injured in the line of duty to our country.  Basically we serve the wounded (past and present wars) in Connecticut, but are available to assist and support others throughout the world.
 
Please see our Connecticut information page on the Silver Star Families of America website:
 
 

 

The Silver Star Families of America www.silverstarfamilies.org is working to establish May 1st as a day to nationally recognize and give respect to those who have been wounded in the wars of this country.
 
The SSFOA organization has a book which you can sign to show your support for this national request.  Please click the following link to sign and to leave a message to honor our wounded: 
 
 
Please forward this message to others you may know who would like to help with this important project.
 
Thank you so much,
Rev. Lin McGee
State Coordinator, Silver Star Families of America
 
We honor our wounded with Silver Star Banners and Certificates of Appreciation.  If you know of a wounded soldier in Connecticut, please contact me 860-379-1298 so that we can get these to them.  If you know of a wounded soldier in another state, I can assist you in reaching the person that can provide these to that veteran.  RainbowBells@sbcglobal.net    Yes, PTSD is certainly a war injury.


--
Rev. Lin McGee     860-379-1298
111 Marshall St.  Winsted, CT  06098
PRECIOUS STARS  http://groups.msn.com/PreciousS<WBR>tars

 

SILVER STAR DAY
 
The Connecticut Blue Star Mothers wish to say 'THANK YOU' to every veteran on this May 1, 2007 -- the First Silver Star Day in America and Germany!!!
 
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE
 
We especially honor the sacrifices that our wounded veterans have made for the sake of our way of life in America!  As we appreciate being able to go about each day in freedom, we honor you and all you have given!
 
Please visit the Silver Star Families of America website for further information, they are doing so many things to honor veterans; especially our wounded veterans.  SILVER STAR -- SHINES FOR SACRIFICE!
 
  Applications for a Silver Star Banner and Certificate of Honor can be applied for through the CT State Coordinator, Rev. Lin McGee  at Blue.Star.Mothers.Rev.Lin.McGee@gmail.com
 
Also, application for membership to the organization.  You do not have to be a veteran to belong, only one who supports the vets!  Please consider joining such a worthy cause!
 
Please visit www.SilverStarFamilies.org for further information.
 
THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR BRAVE SERVICE TO OUR COUNTRY AND THE CAUSE OF FREEDOM!!
 

 

Children Of Fallen Soldiers Relief Fund
 

  

Wreaths Across America
 
 

 

You Are Invited...to participate in the wreath-laying ceremony and activities at Arlington National Cemetery, or at any of the locations across the Country on


Thursday, December 14th, 2006



*see location list for specific times and schedule. A Moment of Silence will be held at ALL locations at Noon EST(sharp).


List of Participating Locations

Help us with these locations we are still waiting to hear from

How can you get involved?

We hope you will be able to join us at Arlington National Cemetery or one of the other participating locations across the Country.

For those not able to attend, please pass the word that there will be a Moment of Silence at Noon EST, where people all across the Nation will stop and share a silent thank you, to all those who serve, to all we've lost, and to their families who will be without loved ones this holidays.


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Connecticut

Col. Raymond Gates Memorial Cemetery - Rocky Hill
Lt. Col Anthiny Cichocki, Jr.
860-306-6149
Royal Charter Composite Squadron

and

Spring Grove Veterans Cemetery - Darien
Greg Sokerka
914-293-7544
WE THANK YOU

 


  

Gold Star Mom

The banner was small
But the star was large,
The color of a blue, night sky.
She hung it in the window
With trembling fingers
And tried hard not to cry.
He was so young to go far away
As all soldiers have to do.
She knew that danger
Lurked everywhere,
As she touched the star of blue.
The weeks went by
The months rolled on
She knew he would not die.
Her faith in God held her head up high.
In her heart she sang a song.
But the battles raged.
The news was not good
Why did so many have to die?
The thought made her cold
And she felt terribly old
As the day came that she faced
With dread.
When a knock on the door
Shattered her life evermore,
And the blue star turned to gold.

--Esther B. (Campbell) Gates 

Written in memory of her son, Specialist Keith Allen Campbell

 

 

 

The Institute of Heraldry

The Institute of Heraldry of the U.S. Department of the Army has prepared a fact sheet on the service flag. This fact sheet gives detailed service-flag information from the Department of Defense Directives and U.S. Code. Click here to view the fact sheet.

 

 
military.com article
Blue Star Mothers of America
Deborah Tainsh | October 17, 2006
On September 30, in Columbus, Georgia, I sat among families attending the first Blue to Gold Tribute to honor Georgia's fallen heroes and their families -- an important event not possible without Georgia's Blue Star Mothers of America, Chapter One.


Few know the meaning behind Blue Star Mothers of America, an incredible support system for families and deployed service members (especially during wartime). This support system is offered through various state chapters of courageous moms called Blue Star Mother's of America, Inc., an organization I had no knowledge of until after the death of my stepson in Iraq on 11, February 2004.

Upon receiving by mail a beautifully framed flag with a Gold Star centered on white material bordered in red a few weeks after Patrick's death, and no letter to explain the meaning of the gift, I searched the internet for such a flag. I learned that the historical and proud significance of this Gold Star Flag was preceded by the Blue Star Flag designed and patented by Army Captain Robert Queissner during WWI. With two sons on the front lines, Captain Queissner began a tradition for families to signify the love, pride, and hope for children serving in war by hanging in household windows a flag with blue stars. As death of a child came to families, a blue star was changed to gold.

Blue Star Mothers of America became official in March 1942, after Army Captain George Maines placed an article in a Flint, Michigan newspaper requesting information about children serving in the armed forces. Over 600 moms responded and subsequently came together to create Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc. From the Blue Star Service Flag, Blue Star Mothers of America took their name and chapters grew across America with the goal of supporting their military community, helping to build the morale of their deployed loved ones through care packages, and providing visits and care for the wounded at home.

Gold Star Mothers of America, Inc took their name from the Gold Star that replaced a blue one, and in 1929 became incorporated after inspiration from the story of Grace Seibold, a WWI mother who worked through her grief and sorrow after the loss of her son by visiting the wounded in hospitals and reaching out to other mothers who suffered the same grief. What very few know today is that the last Sunday of September is officially Gold Star Mother's Day, as set forth in 1936 by Senate Joint Resolution 115.

Since learning the meaning behind Blue and Gold Star Flags and the mothers of America who currently work together, reviving a support system for parents and members of the United States Armed Forces, whether serving, wounded, or fallen, I have been privileged to meet many of these courageous and selfless women from coast to coast. Many of these Blue Star moms have learned together the pain, sorrow, and bittersweet pride of becoming Gold Star Moms as they personally present Gold Star Flags to grieving military families in their communities. Yet, Blue Star Moms who know their star color can quickly change, continue to support the Gold, one another, and strive to bring honor and support to our nation's armed forces serving in harm's way.

As a guest and keynote speaker, I have witnessed the support provided by Blue Star Mother chapters that work together voluntarily with a voracious synergy to raise funds and create events to honor their states' Gold Star families and fallen heroes. In September, 2005, I observed this with the East Bay Area Chapter #101 Blue Star Mothers led by Deb Saunders, where with help from Major General Michael J. Myatt, USMC Ret, President and CEO of the Marines' Memorial Association in San Francisco, California families were brought together for a time of honor, remembrance, and bonding in their time of grief.

On September 24, 2006, Gold Star Mothers Day, I was in awe of the Colorado Blue Star Mothers led by Janna Schaffer who brought their Gold Star families together in the town of Estes Park at the foot of Rocky Mountain National Park. Here Colorado Congresswoman, Marilyn Musgrave, also a Blue Star Mom, brought words of support and comfort, and families who had had no previous contact with others on this path of sacrifice, found new support through shared time and stories.

And on September 30, in my home state of Georgia, the amazing Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc., Georgia Chapter One, from every corner of the state, led by President, Nancy Seifert of Hamilton, Georgia, gave an incredible gift to Georgia families and their fallen heroes. With funding from Georgia's Columbus Bank and Trust, Synovus Financial Services, Total Systems, Inc., and Greystone Properties, family members of all service branches' fallen heroes received an impeccable dinner and honor as words of support were provided by Fort Benning Georgia's Commanding General, Major General Walt Wodjakowsi and his wife, Candy, who learned that as parents to a son serving in the United States Army, they are also Blue Star Parents.

Bill Stembridge spoke on behalf of Georgia's United States Senator Saxby Chambliss who also sent a personal video message for the families. The tribute was made complete with the professionalism of a Fort Benning Color Guard, a tribute slide show of Georgia's fallen heroes created through the help of Shaw High School in Columbus, near Fort Benning, and TAPS performed by a bugler from Fort Benning's outstanding Army Band.

Following the tribute, the mom of SGT Kelley Courtney, USMC, KIA October 30, 2004 in Anbar Province, Iraq wrote:

Tears still flow readily from the Tribute Dinner experience in honor of Kelley. We are very grateful for the experience. Meeting everyone face-to-face who we previously only knew ethereally was a kindred bond we all needed. What a special moment.

I can't imagine how we will be ever be able to adequately express our thanks to everyone for all the hard work that was put into making such a beautiful and memorable evening fall into place so perfectly. If we can ever be of service to you, in honor of Kelley, please let us know.
We love you.
Gena and Bobby Courtney, Macon, Georgia

Without Blue Star Mothers of America chapters, such needed support and honor for military families would not occur. Our nation's Blue Star Mothers are the epitome of servants to those who serve our nation. As during past wars, they are priceless treasures to our country's military families. They are among the true patriots. Each knowing they can at any moment become a Gold Star Mother as they remain diligent and courageous with open arms for all who need them, because, after all, that's what mothers do, and I thank you.

About Deborah Tainsh
Deborah Tainsh, Gold Star Mother of Sgt Patrick Tainsh KIA Baghdad, Iraq, 2/11/04, is the author of Heart of a Hawk: One family's sacrifice and journey toward healing, recipient of the Military Writers Society of America's Spirit of Freedom award.


A supporter of America's military and their families, Deborah is a national speaker, writer, and peer mentor for Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors of military personnel located in Washington, D.C. She and her husband, USMC Sgt. Major (Ret) David Tainsh live in Harris County, Georgia, near Columbus and their son, Phillip.
For more info go to:
www.heartofahawk.com 
 
 
 
 

  

CLOCKS

Every room in my house has a clock.
Only one has ever stopped.
They chronicle a life that is ebbing away,
A family history that is here to stay.

There is the clock that ticked off the hours
The times when my children were born.
One a clock whose china base holds flowers
And one with a face that is torn.

The grandfather clock in the hallway that chimed
Giving away the hour they came home.
A clock in the parlor that would ever remind
Me of the home they have always known.

But the clock that stopped when I was told
My soldier son gave his life for his friend.
Will never be wound now that I’m old.
But the others will tick to the end.

--Esther B. Gates 

Posted: 20 March 2005

 

 

A GOLD STAR MOTHER
For Ann Hampton, Gold Star Mother of Captain Kimberly Hampton

War has taken her only daughter
in the name of freedom in a foreign land
shot down in a Kiowa OH-58 helicopter...
so young... felled by an Iraqi enemies hand...
awakened while living her dream...
Death had not been in her scheme
Ann Hampton... a Gold Star Mother
but a child... this one has no other
America saluted her with a gold star
Now she sits alone... her thoughts afar
back to the youth of her only child...
when her tears did not have to fall...
back when her daughter had not given all
Through tightly close eyes... her happiness amiss
for gone forever are her days of maternal bliss...
her tears seep down... silent... unbidden...
on a mother's arms... cradling emptiness...

©Copyright January 12, 2004 by Faye Sizemore

 

  

Doc's Gold Star Mothers Tribute
 

 

White House Commission on Rememberance
 

 

 The Blue To Gold Program in CT For The Families of The Fallen 

Blue To Gold Program

 

The Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc. and the United States Department of Defense have worked together to establish the Blue to Gold Program through which mothers can offer comfort and assistance at the time of a military death.

Working through Casualty Assistance Officers and/or Funeral Home Directors, the Blue Star Mothers within the program follow strick guidelines to ensure family privacy, security, and respect.

Please see a copy of our guidelines for the program within our Blue to Gold Section here on the website:  Blue to Gold 

The Connecticut Blue Star Mothers - CT Chapter One also offer to our Gold Star families various personal items of comfort and care through this program.  Many we make ourselves (prayer shawls, memory books, cross stitch samplers, etc.) and some come from others (oil portraits of your loved one, portraits on wood, Gold Star pins, etc.).  All are given at no cost to the family to show honor and appreciation for the tremendous sacrifices they have made.  Messages within the Blue to Gold section Blue to Gold describe the various items we offer.  

The Blue to Gold Program is an on going program.  We seek to bring comfort at the time of loss and we also seek to continue to assist the families in any way that we can.  All Gold Star Family members are welcome and will be given honorary membership to the Connecticut Blue Star Mothers Chapter. 

Our Chapter began to form in May of 2006 and, thus we were not here at the time many of our CT military were lost in the war on terror.  If we can assist you at this time, please contact us.  If you would like to have any of the items we can offer, please let us know.  If you would like to join with us to be a part of our family that cares for the troops and veterans, we welcome you.

For any questions concerning the Blue to Gold Program in Connecticut, please contact the Connecticut Blue to Gold State Liaison for the Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.,   Rev. Lin McGee at:  Email  Blue.Star.Mothers.Rev.Lin.McGee@gmail.com    

Phone: 860-379-1298    Address:  111 Marshall St.  Winsted, CT 06098

 

 

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BLUE TO GOLD PROGRAM TO HONOR OUR FALLEN

To request Gold Star flags please E-MAIL the necessary information to both www.thirdvp@bluestarmothers.org and to sales@servceflags.com.

Please order from Service Flags via email if at all possible. If working with a limited time frame, contact them directly at 1-866-887-6678.

They will work with the National Third VP as needed or if any complications arise.

Please fill out the Gold Star Banner Requisition form found on all the Yahoo site files. It is also available on the Blue Star Mothers Web Site.

Information that you will need to include with your request:

1. Name of service person, i.e., which branch of service?

2. Spouse's name and address

3. Names of parents and their address. If divorced, both sets of names and addresses

4. When and where service will be held

5. Your name, address and telephone number, as well as what BSM chapter you belong to.

6. Address to where flags are to be sent

7. Time frame in which flags are needed.

1. Children's names and ages for letters of condolences sent with the banners for the parents/spouse.

Please use the Gold Star Banner requisition form available on the Yahoo sites and the web site.

When working on this program for our Fallen Military Members we work with the Casualty Assistance Officers. Sometimes it is necessary to contact the Funeral Director, explain what organization you are with and what we present, and ask them to give the CAO your contact information to get in touch with you as soon as possible. Contacts and verification that the family would like to receive this honor are to be made prior to attending any events regarding presentation of the banners.The following is done at a local level:

Operation Teddy Bear

Memory Books

The Casualty Assistance Officer (CAO) assigned to the family should have Gold Star lapel pins for them. For the family to request additional Gold Star lapel pins for other family members, print out a form for each family member, one form per pin. The information is available at www.dior.whs.mil/forms/dd0003.pdf. There are instructions and the mailing address on the form.

We recommend that you also download information regarding TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors). This is a wonderful support group for grieving families.

 

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ’s)

1) Who provides the Gold Star Banners and for whom?Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc. along with Service Flags (serviceflags.com) provide the Gold Star Banners at no cost for the Mother and Father (both if divorced) and surviving Spouse. These have the fallen military member’s military branch and name on them. These are the official banners recognized by the DOD. There is combination Blue & Gold Star Banners available for families with more than one child serving. There is information on ordering this Blue & Gold Star Banner on the Gold Star Banner Requisition form. Please include accurate information with the banner order. 2) What if there isn't enough time to get a Banner?

Service Flags works as quickly as possible to get them out to you, many times having to mail them overnight. When at all possible we try not to do this due to costs for us but in a last minute situation it is done.

Sometimes due to locations it is impossible to get it to the destination overnight but they take all necessary steps to try to do so.

Any Gold Star Banner will suffice especially in a tight time schedule if presenting at a memorial, prayer service or funeral. If you need one immediately and time doesn't allow it then you may use any Gold Star Banner but still honor the family with the official one with their loved one’s name/branch on it. If necessary you may simply mail these to them. If this happens you do not ask for the original one to be given back. Many states/chapters get keep ones on hand with no name/branch on it for emergencies. You may purchase these from serviceflags.com.3) How do we order the Gold Star Banner?

To order a Gold Star Banner please follow the instructions listed above. Fill out the attached requisition form which you may also find on the national website. This information is also uploaded under "files" on the yahoo groups. Send a copy to both Service Flags and the 3rd National VP at thirdvp@bluestarmothers.org. 4) How do I find the Casualty Assistance Officer (CAO) for the Fallen?

This can be a difficult task. If you do not have a contact locally you can start by using the Internet, newspapers and news to help you can find the funeral home. Call them and ask for the name and number of the Casualty Assistance Officer. The phone number posted with the names of the Fallen on the DOD postings is for the press releases. Some have used this as a starting place. Persistence is necessary to contact the correct post if doing this as you may be redirected to many sources before you are able to locate the correct one.5) When is the appropriate time to present the families with the Gold Star Banner?

When the family wants it presented. This is about them and their child or spouse, not about us.

Each family is different. They may want it at the prayer service, memorial, or funeral, presented in private, at a later date or mailed to them. Some choose not to receive it at all. If that happens give the CAO your information for the family to contact you if they so choose at a later date. Contacting the family directly should be the last resort.

 

When you contact the CAO, explain who we are, who you are with as well as information about presenting the Gold Star Banner. Ask him/her to check with the family to see if or when they would like it presented to them. Share with the CAO the options with the understanding that it also depends on the availability of a Blue Star Mother at that time. Respect their decision no matter what, be willing to go with the flow, if things change it is about their wishes/choices.6) What if part of the family or funeral is taking place in another state?

If this is the case and you need to contact someone in another state check the national website for a chapter located near where events are taking place or contact the National 3rd VP at thirdvp@bluestarmothers.org.

States with Departments and/or Chapters should have a Blue to Gold Liaison appointed and keep the National 3rd VP updated with contact information for this individual.

7) Who presents the banners or is a part of the presentation?

The Blue to Gold Liaison is the person that overseas the ordering of the banners and makes arrangements with the CAO or family which ever is appropriate in the particular situation. The National 3rd VP should be notified of who this person is.

That does not mean that someone else can’t do this duty but if you have a Blue to Gold Liaison for your state please check with that individual. If there is one appointed through a department they should notify the chapters of dates/times/places for the funeral or memorial service.

If the person doing the back ground work for this chooses to be part of the presenting or handing over of the flag please respect that, although it is not required that this individual make the presentation.

It is best to at least have two individuals do the presenting of the banner, but that isn’t always possible. One individual can read the presentation and one read the Gold Star Mothers Poem. Do what works for each individual situation. Location is also a consideration, since at times a chapter may be located close to the family and they may handle the presentation.

We need to put the families of the Fallen first, to keep in mind that this is a moment for them, not about us.8) What if the CAO/Family tells us not at this time?

Respect the family. No matter where, when or what put the respect of the family of the Fallen Military first. 9) Operation Teddy Bear, what is this about? (Optional – see previous information)

The teddy bear program is for the children of the Fallen or young siblings. At this time you find a patriotic teddy bear to give to the children. The Chapter/Department find any bear that you feel is appropriate, the chapters and/or departments pay for these.10) What are the Memory Books? (Optional)

These are put together by the chapters or members. An album honoring the fallen and their family with poems, information about Blue Star Mothers and information on Gold Star Mothers or Wives, the forms for receiving the Gold Star Pins (link on website). Many mothers have worked on these and if you would like to receive a sample on disk please contact the National 3rd vice president. Ask questions on the At-Ease Yahoo sight for help from others that have done this duty. You can also request information from others on the message board.

11) Do we follow up with the families at a later date?

Yes! Please contact TAPS at www.taps.org to obtain an information packet to mail out to the families a couple of weeks after the funerals/memorials. This is a necessary part of helping the families to grieve. TAPS volunteers will work with your chapter and assist you in any way they can.

TAPS: The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, Inc. (TAPS) provides a wide variety of programs and information to survivors, military and casualty personnel and others. TAPS is a national non-profit organization made up of, and providing services to, all those who have lost a loved one while serving in the Armed Forces. The heart of TAPS is our national military survivor peer support network. We also offer grief counseling referral as well as case worker assistance and crisis information, all available to help families and survivors cope and recover. We provide these services 24 hours a day free of charge! Please call us at 1-800-959-TAPS (8277) or e-mail us at info@taps.org if we can help.

 

12) Bereavement Training, who do we work with?

TAPS: "Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors". They have information about this on their website as stated above. Click into the Resource Room, you will find a lot of help and assistance which you can read at your convenience to help you with the process. They also work with the military closely and have links to bring you to the different military branches.

Obviously, anyone that wants to do training on their own is able to do so; you may choose to work with a military group locally for any available in-person training.

Either way please follow-up with sending the information from TAPS to the families as a resource for them.

What NOT to do:

Do Not: Present a Gold Star Banner for the 1st time without consulting the National 3rd Vice President.Do Not: Contact the family during the stages of funeral arrangements. Work with the CAO and if unavailable then the Funeral Director.Do Not: Be rude or disrespectful to anyone, especially the family and military. Do not be disrespectful during a Review, Funeral or Memorial. If asked to leave by the Funeral Director, CAO or anyone above him/her or the family you do so. Do Not: Put your wishes above those of the family.

_________________________________________________________________________

It is important that once a Department and/or Chapter starts this program, they maintain consistency in the presentation of the same information and items to all the Families of the Fallen.

The 3rd National VP needs notification of every banner that is ordered and presented. This is vital to keep an accurate record of this program.

This is a National Program. These guidelines should be followed as closely as possible.

 

 

If you have any questions regarding the program please contact the National Third Vice-President at thirdvp@bluestarmothers.org or call 937-307-9219. If complications arise the National 3rd VP must be notified immediately either by phone (937-307-9219) or via email at the above address.

(optional)There are poems referring to Gold Star Mothers that can be downloaded. These poems can be framed or placed in a Memory Book.
(optional) was started for the children of fallen soldiers. The bears may be presented when the flag is presented. They are furnished by the individuals, the chapter, or department presenting the banner by purchasing a teddy bear they feel would be appropriate to give to the children.

 Casualty Notification Officers Part of Team That Assists Families

A Posting From The Fort Hood Sentinel That Tells About Casualty Notification Officers
 
Casualty notification officers part of team that assists families
By Heather Graham
Sentinel Living Editor

It is perhaps the most difficult job in the Army.
It is also one of the most important jobs in the Army and another way the Army family takes care of its own.

Casualty notification officers are given the daunting task of knocking on a family’s door and delivering news that will change the lives of a Soldier’s family members.

“We are all one big family. That is all part of taking care of the family,” Sgt. 1st Class Latisha Brown, who works with the wounded and retiree cell at the Casualty Assistance Center, said. “You want to be able to notify the family before anyone else does because they are part of the Army family. We are taking care of our own.”

When a Soldier dies there are a minimum of four categories involved in assisting the family of the deceased Soldier.

The notification team, comprised of the casualty notification officer and a chaplain, visits the Soldier’s primary next-of-kin and delivers news of the Soldier’s death.

The next day, the casualty assistance officer comes to see the family to explain the paperwork and the benefits and entitlements the family may receive.
The casualty assistance officer continues to work with the family until all benefits and entitlements are started, sometimes up to 180 days.
An escort accompanies the remains of the deceased home.

The summary court officer ties up the affairs of the deceased Soldier and clears the Soldier from the installation.

When a Soldier is killed or dies in-theater, the body is flown to Dover, Del., where the mortuary services there prepare the remains and a final positive identification of the remains is made. The escort, sent by Fort Hood, meets the Soldier there and accompanies the body on its final journey home. The rank of the escort is dependent upon the rank of the deceased.

Casualty notifications are statutory and governed by law, not regulatory in that there is a set way of doing things, according to Lee Price, chief, Fort Hood’s Casualty Assistance Center.

Although not as difficult as receiving the news, the bearer of a casualty notification faces a hard and stressful task.

“Regardless of what you do in the Army, there is no more difficult job in the world than being a CNO,” Price said. “Soldiers, by virtue of what they do, are immortal. So the Soldiers making the notifications, 90 percent of them are saying, ‘Ok, it didn’t happen to me but I’ve got to take care of my battle buddy, my fallen comrade.’”

Price told of Soldiers shaking so hard during notifications, they could not stop knocking on the door and of others who broke down crying during the training.
Soldiers must be very diplomatic and retain their objective of getting the family to support agencies, Price said. “They must have empathy with the family without becoming part of the family,” he added.

Soldiers are picked for this task, a task no one would want to volunteer to carry out. The units select the Soldiers for the casualty assistance training.
Training is conducted on-post at the Casualty Assistance Center.
“The CAC has turned away Soldiers when we feel it would be detrimental to the Soldier or a family,” Price said.

Casualty notification officers at Fort Hood go through one week, 40 hours of training which includes videos, manuals, role play exercises and Web-based resources, Price said.

While the Army has initiated standardized training effective Nov. 1 for casualty notifications, the Casualty Assistance Center has yet to be given the instructions.

Fortunately, Fort Hood is already known for the above-the-bar-standards and excellence in casualty assistance.

According to Price, a large part of the standardized training will reflect what is already used in common practice at Fort Hood.

“A lot of stuff the (Department of the Army) has done is a mirror of what we have done here at Fort Hood (regarding casualty notifications),” Price said.
There are two types of notifications: Those done over the phone and those delivered in person. Whenever possible, the notifications are conducted by someone in the Soldier’s unit.

For injured Soldiers, regardless of the extent of the injuries or illness, notification is made by telephone to the primary next-of-kin. The notification officer follows a script and gives the pertinent information such as the Soldiers condition from not seriously ill or injured to seriously to very seriously as well as some general information regarding the circumstances.

This phone call must be made within two hours of the CAC receiving the report of the injured or ill Soldier. If contact with a family cannot be made, the local casualty office informs the DA that a notification has not been made and why. Price said. “Then, the DA officials tell us to keep trying or they take over to complete the notification,” he said.

The caller does not go into great detail on the incident or the injuries. This is to protect the family. “There is some sensitivity that has to go with it,” Price said.
At the family’s request, they can receive the casualty report which goes into depth of the incident and injury.

A phone number is also given that the family can call 24 hours a day, seven days a week for more information.

That initial telephone call is then followed by a call from someone at the Department of the Army level within 48 hours. This call will provide an update on the Soldier’s condition and afford the family the opportunity to ask more questions.

The unit usually contacts and keeps in touch with the family as well, Price said.
Family members are reminded not to make travel arrangements without DA approval. Travel and Transportation Orders are generated by the DA and are only issued at the hospital commander’s or attending physician’s request. “The DA can move up to three members of a Soldier’s family within 24 hours if the doctors think it will benefit the Soldier,” Price said.

In-person notifications occur when a Soldier dies or is missing. The CAC has four hours from when the office is notified to complete a notification to the family
.
Notifications are done in-person for all deaths regardless of if they occur in theater or in garrison. Casualty notification officers must be in Class A uniforms for the notification. There are always two Soldiers: the CNO and a chaplain.
Notifications are conducted from 6 a.m.-10 p.m. in the time zone where the primary next-of-kin is located. With DA permission, notifications can be delivered after 10 p.m., Price said, giving the example of a range training accident that occurred at night and the family is awaiting the Soldier’s return.
Rank plays an important role in casualty notification and assistance.

For enlisted Soldiers, the casualty notification and assistance officers must be at minimum a sergeant first class. When notifying an officer’s family, the CNO and CAO must be at minimum, a captain with six years of active service. The families of warrant officers can be handled by CW2-5. For more senior enlisted and commissioned ranks, the rank of the team members should be at least equivalent to that of the servicemember.

“This has to do with similar backgrounds and experiences in Army life,” Price explained. “The duty is hard enough without throwing in extra dynamics.”
Within four hours of the notification, the CAO must contact the family. This prevents the family from making arrangements without being informed of all benefits and entitlements, Price said.

Families of Soldiers declared Duty Status Whereabouts Unknown and Missing in Action are also notified in-person and given the circumstances surrounding the Soldier’s status.

When notifying a family, the CNO follows one of five scripts depending on the situation – positively identified, believed to be/identification not complete, suspected to be, DUSTWYN and Missing.

“The CNO tells the family the circumstance surrounding the incident,” Price said. They speak to the primary next-of-kin alone and help them try to deal with the initial impact of the news.

The family can also be directed to support organizations on-post. “There’s a lot of good support organizations out there,” he added.

The CNO debriefs with the CAO, letting the assistance officer know how the family is doing.

“The CAO needs to know what they are walking into,” Price said.
The CNO and the CAO jobs rarely, if ever, overlap. “We try never to use a CNO as the CAO for the same case,” Price said. “The CNO is the ‘bad guy.’”
The Casualty Assistance Center tries to keep the jobs separate and try to align the support networks to best serve the family.

“We also recommend the company commander and the first sergeant not make the notification,” Price said. “We recommend they come in after and support the family.”
 


 

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First, I’d like to tell you a little bit about what TAPS gently offers for you, 24 hours a day, free of charge. Our website includes a few articles that we hope you’ll find helpful. Please call or write us if we can send you more information. We will also be glad to add you to our data base.

Here are the Services TAPS offers for you:

  • Peer support: We have a wonderful, loving program to connect you with others who have also suffered the loss of a loved one serving in the armed forces. This is part of our TAPS national survivor network. Together, we share our pain and fears in a safe and supportive environment, and help each other heal. Let us know if you would like to receive a call from another widow, who will then be there for you in the coming weeks and months. Just a friend who will truly understand, to offer comfort and information, but most of all, an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.

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  • TAPS’ Annual National Military Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp for Young Survivors: You are invited to attend this wonderful weekend of healing and comfort, held every year during Memorial Day weekend in Washington, DC. The theme of our conference is “remember the love, celebrate the life, and share the journey” and through workshops and special events and support groups, we offer a caring, loving environment. We hope to see you there!

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MOTHER OF AN AMERICAN SOLDIER
Author Unknown

You see me every day going about life as usual - or so it appears. I rub shoulders with you at work. I shop at Wal-Mart and the grocery store. I fill my car at the corner gas station. You might see me anywhere. Don't be deceived: My life has not been "normal" for months. I am the mother of an American soldier.

Although I continue the routines of life, I do so with a burdened heart and distracted mind. There are some tell-tale signs of who I am.

I'm the one with the frayed yellow ribbon pinned on my clothing. It was fresh and new when my son first deployed months ago. Even though the war is supposedly over, my son is in a place where bullets and grenades are still killing our soldiers. I am determined to wear my ribbon until he comes home, because it reminds me to pray for him every minute. When you see me wearing that ribbon, please stop and whisper a prayer for him and all the others still there.

My house is the one with the faded yellow ribbons the tree in the yard and one on the mail post. There is an American flag on a pole attached to the front porch, and a small red-and-white banner with a blue star in the middle in my window. When my son gave this to me before he left, I told him that I never wanted to cover the blue star
with a gold one. Gold Star Mothers are the ones whose sons come home in body bags.

When you drive by a house of this description, please pray for the son or daughter overseas and for the parents waiting inside for their child to come home.

To those of you who have posted yellow ribbons at your house or in the windows of your schools, thank you. It warms my heart every time I see your expressions of support for our troops.

One of the hardest things about being the mother of an American soldier is living 1,500 miles (how bout 2600 miles!) away from the post of my son's unit. Wives usually live on or near the fort, where
they can glean support from others in the same situation. But a mother may live across the nation, so she feels totally alone.

Letters rarely make their way home, and if they do, it is weeks after they were written. We go more than a month without hearing anything; then we might get a short phone call. E-mail is out of the question most of the time.

Every week is like a rollercoaster ride that I want to get off. When I read a soldier has been killed and his name has not been released pending notification of kin, restlessness, depression and insomnia rule my life until 24 hours have passed and the men in dress uniforms have not appeared at my door. I pray constantly they will never come.

When you hold your baby close, remember we mothers of American soldiers held our babies, too. Now our "babies" are putting themselves in harm's way for your babies.

And if you see a woman at the store buying tuna and crackers, beef jerky, powdered Gatorade, baby wipes and potted meat, check to see if
she is wearing a yellow ribbon. If so, stop and pray for her. She is probably the mother of an American soldier, getting ready to send her
child another "care package." You may see tears in her eyes or dark circles under them.

I am there among you, trying to carry on some semblance of a normal life. Like so many others,
I am the mother of an American soldier.

 

Gold Star Mom

The banner was small
But the star was large,
The color of a blue, night sky.
She hung it in the window
With trembling fingers
And tried hard not to cry.
He was so young to go far away
As all soldiers have to do.
She knew that danger
Lurked everywhere,
As she touched the star of blue.
The weeks went by
The months rolled on
She knew he would not die.
Her faith in God held her head up high.
In her heart she sang a song.
But the battles raged.
The news was not good
Why did so many have to die?
The thought made her cold
And she felt terribly old
As the day came that she faced
With dread.
When a knock on the door
Shattered her life evermore,
And the blue star turned to gold.

--Esther B. (Campbell) Gates 

Written in memory of her son, Specialist Keith Allen Campbell

 

 

The U.S. Military - Blue Star Mother Prayer

Give me the greatness of heart to see, The difference between duty & his/her/their love for me. Give me understanding so that I may Know, When duty calls him/her/them, he/she/they must go. Give me a task to do each day, To fill the time when he/she's/ while they're away. When he/she's/they're in a foreign land, Keep him/her/them safe in your loving hand. And Lord, when duty is in the field, Please protect him/her/them and be his/her/their shield. And Lord, when deployment is so long, Please stay with me and keep me strong.
 
 
 

  I'm Invisible

 It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken to the store. Inside I'm thinking, "Can't you see I'm on the phone?"

Obviously not. No one can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see me at all.

      I'm invisible.

Some days I am only a pair of hands, nothing more: Can you fix this?
Can you tie this? Can you open this?


Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being. I'm a
clock to ask, "What time is it?" I'm a satellite guide to answer, "What
number is the Disney Channel?" I'm a car to order, "Right around
5:30
,
please."

I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes that studied history and the mind that graduated summa cum laude - but now they had disappeared into the peanut butter, never to be seen again.

She's going - she's going - she's gone!

One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from
England . Janice had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself as I looked down at my out-of-style dress; it was the only thing I could find that was clean. My unwashed hair was pulled up in a banana clip and I was afraid I could actually smell peanut butter in it. I was feeling pretty pathetic, when Janice turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, "I brought you this."

It was a book on the great cathedrals of
Europe . I wasn't exactly sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription: "To Charlotte , with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees."

In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book. And I would discover what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I could pattern my work:

 * No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record of their names.

 * These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished.

 * They made great sacrifices and expected no credit. The passion of their building was fueled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything.

A legendary story in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tin y bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and  asked the man, "Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that will be covered by the roof? No one will ever see it."  And the workman replied, "Because God sees."

I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost as if I heard God whispering to me, "I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does. No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn on, no cupcake you've baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over. You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see right now what it will become."


At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction. But it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride.  I keep  the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work on something that their name will never be on. The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.

When I really think about it, I don't want my son to tell the friend he's bringing home from college for Thanksgiving, "My mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and presses all the linens for the table." That would mean I'd built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home. And then, if there is anything more to say to his friend, to add, "You're gonna love it there."

As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're doing it right.   And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we ha ve built, but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women.
 
 

 

A GOLD STAR MOTHER
For Ann Hampton, Gold Star Mother of Captain Kimberly Hampton

War has taken her only daughter
in the name of freedom in a foreign land
shot down in a Kiowa OH-58 helicopter...
so young... felled by an Iraqi enemies hand...
awakened while living her dream...
Death had not been in her scheme
Ann Hampton... a Gold Star Mother
but a child... this one has no other
America saluted her with a gold star
Now she sits alone... her thoughts afar
back to the youth of her only child...
when her tears did not have to fall...
back when her daughter had not given all
Through tightly close eyes... her happiness amiss
for gone forever are her days of maternal bliss...
her tears seep down... silent... unbidden...
on a mother's arms... cradling emptiness...

©Copyright January 12, 2004 by Faye Sizemore

 

 

 

IF I EVER GO TO WAR MOM

If I ever go to war Mom, Please don't be afraid.
There are some things I must do, To keep the promise that I made.
I'm sure there will be some heartache, And I know that you'll cry tears,
But your son is a Soldier now, Mom, There is nothing you should fear.


If I ever go to war Dad, I know that you'll be strong.
But you won't have to worry, Cause you taught me right from wrong.
You kept me firmly on the ground, yet still taught me how to fly.
Your son is a Soldier now Dad, I love you Hooah, Even if I die.


If I ever go to war Bro, There are some things I want to say.
You've always had my back, and I know it's my time to repay.
You'll always be my daybreak, through all of life's dark clouds,
Your brother is a Soldier now, Bro, I promise I'll make you proud.


If I ever go to war Sis, don't you worry bout me,
I always looked out for you, but I can't do that anymore,
Cause I'm a big bro to all in America.
I love you so much and you know that, Your brothers a soldier now Sis,
So wipe your eyes, I'll be fine even if I die.

If I ever go to war my Friends, We'll never be apart,
Though we may not meet again, I'll hold you in my heart.
Remember all the times we had, Don't let your memories cease,
Your friend is a Soldier now, Dear Friend, And I'll die to bring you peace.

And when I go to heaven, And see that pearly gate,
I'll gladly decline entrance, Then stand my post and wait.
I'm sorry Sir I can't come in, I'm sort of in a bind,
You see I'm still a Soldier Sir, So I can't leave them behind.

By PFC Jonathan W. Guffey - Alpha Company
101st Airborne 2/506th Infantry Air Assault - Iraq 2006
10 July 2006

 

 

National Center for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Department of Veterans Affairs

Coping When a Family Member Has Been Called to War

A National Center for PTSD Fact Sheet
by Julia Whealin, Ph.D. & Ilona Pivar, Ph.D.

When a family member goes to war, the impact upon those left at home can be daunting. There is often tremendous uncertainty about the dangers that exist where the loved one is being deployed and about when he or she will return. Concerns may be intensified as TV news programs emphasize threats, such as chemical or biological warfare, scud missile attack, and environmental destruction. In addition to having to adjust to the loved one’s absence, the families of those who have been deployed may live in constant fear of harm to their loved one.

The Emotional Cycle of Deployment

When a loved one is deployed, fluctuating emotions such as pride, anger, fear, and bitterness can add to the distress of uncertainty. Various emotions continue during the person’s deployment, based upon changes the family encounters as they adjust to the departure and absence of their family member. The following is a typical cycle of emotions:

·        The cycle begins with a short period of intense emotions, such as fear and anger, when news of deployment is released to the family.

·        As departure grows closer, a period of detachment and withdrawal may occur. In preparation for the physical separation, family members may experience intense emotions.

·        A period of sadness, loneliness, and tension begins at the time of departure; this can last several weeks or longer.

·        Following the first weeks of deployment, families begin to adjust to a new routine without the deployed service member.

·        As the end of the deployment period draws near, tension continues as the family anticipates changes related to the return of the service member.

When Families Have Difficulties

Deployment will be a challenging time for family members who are left behind:

·        In addition to patriotism and pride, feelings of fear and anger are also common. The mixture of these feelings may be confusing, particularly for children.

·        If a family already has difficulty communicating with one another, such problems may worsen during times of stress, and add strain to the family.

·        Those deployed may downplay the potential for danger in order to protect the family from excessive worry, which can make family members feel their feelings of fear are being invalidated.

When there is an impending crisis such as a war deployment, some families may need to be become more aware of their style of relating to and supporting each other.

·        Emotions can run high during the deployment, and people can turn fear, anger, and other emotions against those they care for the most.

·        When certain family members, particularly children, do express their fear or anger, families should not view these feelings as too sensitive or as an annoyance. Instead, realize that those feelings may be emotions that everyone shares, but perhaps not everyone has acknowledged those feelings yet.

·        Alternatively, it is possible that members will feel as though their emotions are numb during the time before a departure. This is because these individuals may be preparing emotionally for the separation from the family; it does not mean these family members don't care. Sometimes the stronger the numbing, the stronger the emotions underlying the feelings.

Fear of the Unknown

Communication with the deployed family member during war may be minimal. When the family knows little about where the service member is being deployed, they may try to obtain any information they can about that area of the world. Often, family members will turn to the media for this information. When families do this, they may be faced with media speculation that emphasizes frightening commentary and images. Online discussion groups can also be a source of unreliable information that creates needless distress. Learn what you can about the issues from trustworthy resources, such as public libraries and published books. Put the risk in proportion so that you are in a better position to think realistically. For example, remind yourself that even though you hear regularly about deaths in the military, the vast majority of deployed troops are not harmed.

Changes in Family Structure

A spouse left at home during deployment will be faced with work tasks that s/he may be unfamiliar with. Juggling finances, lawn care, car and home repair, cooking, and raising children can lead to stress overload and exhaustion. Families that are flexible regarding roles and responsibilities are better able to adapt to deployment stresses. It's important for family members to support each other in these new responsibilities and to get outside help as much as possible. Your military contingency officer and your employee assistance program can provide you with childcare referrals, including before- and after-school programs and in-home care.

Special Concerns When the Primary Caretaker Is Deployed

Many more women are now participating in war-related deployments. During Operation Desert Shield/Storm, more than 40,000 women were deployed, thousands of them mothers with dependent children. Research on work-family conflict among active duty women indicates:

·        The struggle between work and family duties is a source of parenting distress.

·        Women who were supported by their husbands in their marital and parenting roles had fewer work-family conflicts, less distress, or less depression.

·        Families that are flexible regarding roles and responsibilities are better able to adapt to deployment stresses.

·        Getting information about difficult issues, such as separation anxiety, discipline, raising adolescents, and sibling rivalry, may help make care easier.

Special Concerns for Reservists

Reservists have added concerns pertaining to the families and jobs left behind. In some cases, military deployment can create financial hardships due to a loss of income. Sometimes the household financial manager is the one who is deployed and the remaining head of the household is left to manage the finances, perhaps without much practice. The government has developed many services and programs to assist you and your family with these challenges during the predeployment, deployment, and reunification stages. There are groups that can help with the development of family emergency plans, family care plans, and personal financial management.

Suggestions for Families of Those Going to War

The following are suggestions to help you manage the stress of having a family member deployed for war-related duties:

1.      Take time to listen to each other. Know that deployment will be a painful and frightening time, particularly for children. Spend time listening to family members without judging or criticizing what they say. People may need to just express themselves during this time. The more family members can communicate with one another, the less long-term strain there will be on the family.

2.      Limit exposure to news media programs. Families should minimize exposure to anxiety-arousing media related to the war. News programs often emphasize fearful content and frightening images to create a "story." Watching a lot of TV news programs, for example, can create needless distress. When children worry about war, let them know that the war is far away. Acknowledge children's fears, and let them know that parents, teachers, and police are here to protect them.

3.      Remember the deployed member is still a part of the family. Find ways to keep a symbolic representation of the deployed member visible to the family. Keep photographs of your loved one in prominent locations. Get children's help in keeping a family journal of each day's events for the deployed member to look at when he or she returns.

4.      Understand feelings. Emotions such as fear, anger, and feeling "numb" are normal and common reactions to stress. Family members need to make sure these emotions aren't turned against one another in frustration. It will help family members manage tension if you share feelings, recognize that they are normal, and realize that most family members feel the same way.

5.      Spend time with people. Coping with stressful events is easier when in the company of caring friends. Ask for support from your family, friends, church, or other community group.

6.      Join or develop support groups. Forming support groups for the spouses of deployed military personnel helps spouses cope with separation from their loved ones. Peer-support groups, led by spouses of deployed service members, can be a tremendous aid to family functioning. Spouses can share ideas with each other, trade childcare or other responsibilities, and encourage each other if they are feeling taxed.

7.      Keep up routines. Try to stick to everyday routines. Familiar habits can be very comforting.

8.      Take time out for fun. Don't forget to do things that feel good to you. Take a walk, spend time with your pets, or play a game you enjoy.

9.      Help others. It is beneficial for everyone to find ways you and your family can productively channel energy. Helping other families and organizing neighborhood support groups or outings can help everyone involved.

10.  Self-care. The more emotionally nurturing and stable the remaining caretaker is, the less stress the children will feel. However, trying to "do it all" can lead to exhaustion. Signs of caregiver stress include feeling as though you are unable to cope, feeling constantly exhausted, or feeling as though you no longer care about anything. It is especially important for caretakers to devote time to themselves, exercise, and get plenty of rest.

11.  Get professional help if needed. When stress becomes overwhelming, don't be afraid to seek professional help. Ongoing difficulties such as exhaustion, apathy, worry, sleeplessness, bad dreams, irritability, or anger-outbursts warrant the attention of a professional counselor. The military employment assistance program provides free counseling for family members impacted by the stress of deployment. Contingency planning personnel are available on bases around the country to help families handle stress related to deployment.

12.  Use military outreach programs. Military outreach programs are in place to help families prevent social isolation. Interventions for military families are especially important for younger families and those without a prior history of deployments. Group leaders are trained to (1) assist in the grief process that a family goes through when a spouse is deployed, (2) teach coping skills to deal with indefinite separations, and (3) help spouses plan a family reunion.

Conclusion

War brings about difficult stressors for families of deployed service members. Mixed feelings about the deployment are common, and emotions tend to fluctuate over the course of the deployment. It is most important to take added steps during this time to take care of yourself and your family. Also, seek help from others around you who will understand, including friends, family members, or other families who have a member deployed.


Related Fact Sheets

Managing grief

Information about the course of bereavement, the treatment of bereaved individuals, and complications of bereavement

Talking with children about war

How do children understand what war means? How can adults best address the concerns of children?

The effect of PTSD on families

Provides information about the effects of PTSD on family members, and how to cope with the effects

War and families

How traumatic stress reactions can affect families

Web site links

Family Readiness Groups (FRGs)
The Army recognizes that helping families is its moral obligation and in its best interest. Family Readiness Groups (FRGs) are an organization of officers, enlisted soldiers, civilians, and family members who volunteer to provide mutual social and emotional support, outreach services, and information to their fellow soldiers and family members in a local area. For information contact your unit, or if you need help in locating family assistance, contact the Army-wide Family Liaison Office or call toll-free 1-800-833-6622.

Selected References

Black, W. G. (1993). Military-induced family separation: A stress reduction intervention. Social Work, 38, 273–280.

Gimbel, C., & Booth, A. (1994). Why does military combat experience adversely affect marital relations? Journal of Marriage and Family, 56, 691–703.

Pincus, S. H., House, R., Christenson, J., & Adler, L. E. (2001). The emotional cycle of deployment: A military family perspective. U.S. Army Medical Department Journal, 4/5/6, 15–23.

Van Breda, A. D. (1999). Developing resilience to routine separations: An occupational social work intervention. The Journal of Contemporary Human Services, 80, 597–605.

Vinokur, A. D., Pierce, P. F., & Buck, C. L. (1999). Work-family conflicts of women in the Air force: Their influence on mental health and functioning. Journal of Organizational Behavior, 20, 865–878.

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Daughter and Wife


 

Author: Royse Sessums


 

I want to be home
with my daughter and wife
I left long ago
I put a hold on my life
My daughter has grown
My wife has stayed true
I pray you both know
I do this for you
My time here was long
but the end now grows near
I'll take my last flights
with a new burning fear
My daughter wont know me
My wife feels betrayed
The decisions I made
a life thrown away
Will they forgive me for leaving
Can they trust me to stay
Will they hold and embrace me
or have I pushed them away
I'm counting the days
til I'm with them once more
So I can start giving the life
the life that I swore
I know that they love me
I know that they care
But the thought of them leaving
Is a thought I cant bare
The count down is over
The day is now here
No more time for the worries
Its time to face all my fears
They run up and hug me
My fears fade away
Their love had not faded
As if I was gone just a day
Now that I'm home
With the loves of my life
I'll cherish the time
With my daughter and wife
 
 

 

SONG
So Brave
A Mother's Tribute To Her Son
 
 
 
 
 

 

COME HOME SOON
 
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The Silent Patriot

Author Unknown

 

A woman for all seasons
A woman for today.
She grows to meet the challenges
And grows along the way.


Her life is not an easy one
With many loads to bear.
She proudly serves with her husband
Yet the uniform he wears.


Although she didn't take the oath
To preserve democracy
She's there each day on the home front
To keep our country free.


She's foreign-born or a country girl,
Diversity you will find.
But to be a Military wife
It takes a special kind.


She's one who keeps on going
Through adversity and pain.
She's the steady, strong foundation
When nothing stays the same.


She's the one who sheds a tear
As Old Glory passes by,
But couldn't give an answer
If you were to ask her why.


Throughout the years, she marches on
Through tears and joy and strife.
She's America's unsung hero-
She's a Military wife.

 

 

 

 

Sisterhood

By Debbie Guisti



I am an Army Wife- A member of that sisterhood of women who have had the courage to watch their men march into battle and the strength to survive until they return. Our sorority knows no rank for we earn our membership with a marriage license, traveling over miles or over nations to begin a new life with our soldier husbands.

Within days, we turn a barren, echoing building into a home, and though our quarters are inevitably white walled and unpapered, we decorate with the treasures of our travels for we shop the markets of the globe. Using hammer and nails, we tack our pictures to the wall, and our roots to the floor as firmly as if we had lived there for a lifetime. We hold a family together by the bootstraps and raise the best of "brats", instilling into them the motto, "Home is Togetherness," whether motel, guest house, apartment, or duplex.

As Army Wives, we soon realize that the only good in "good-bye" is the "hello-again." For as salesmen for freedom, our husbands are often on the road, leaving us behind for a week, a month, an assignment. During the separation, we guard the home front, existing till the homecoming.

Unlike our civilian counterparts, we measure time, not by age, but by tours-married at Knox, a baby born at Bliss, a promotion in Missouri. We plant trees and never see them grew tall, work on projects completed long after our departure, and enhance our community for the betterment of those who come after us. We leave part of us at every stop.

Through experience, we have learned to pack a suitcase, a car, or hold baggage, and live indefinitely from the contents within, and though our fingers are sore from the patches we have sewn and the silver we have shined, our hands are always ready to help those around us.

Women of peace, we pray for a world in harmony, for the flag, that leads our men into battle will also blanket them in death. Yet we are an optimistic group, thinking of the good and forgetting the bad, cherishing yesterday while anticipating tomorrow.

Never rich by monetary standards, our hearts are overflowing with a wealth of experiences common only to those united by the special tradition of military life. We pass our legacy to every Army bride, welcoming with outstretched arms, with love and friendship, from one sister to another, sharing the bounty of our unique, fulfilling Army way of life.

 

 

 

Patriotic Song -- Bring Our Daddy Home
 

 

BLUE STAR MOTHERS

Mothers. do weep.
but your faithfulness keep
You raised your sweet children.
You raised them to recognize a wrong
to always defend and protect those not strong
to seek the truth in this cruel world
Now about them the battles may swirl
They have their promises to keep
Mothers... with you we weep...

When war does rage
recorded again on history's page
and Death counts its toll
pray your children are not on its role
This matters above everything
for when it is done and freedom does ring
Mothers, your praises they will sing
But for now its` price is so steep
Mothers... for you we weep...

©Copyright March 15, 2003 by Faye Sizemore

 

 

The U.S. Military - Blue Star Mother Prayer

Give me the greatness of heart to see, The difference between duty & his/her/their love for me. Give me understanding so that I may Know, When duty calls him/her/them, he/she/they must go. Give me a task to do each day, To fill the time when he/she's/ while they're away. When he/she's/they're in a foreign land, Keep him/her/them safe in your loving hand. And Lord, when duty is in the field, Please protect him/her/them and be his/her/their shield. And Lord, when deployment is so long, Please stay with me and keep me strong.
 

  

The Institute of Heraldry

The Institute of Heraldry of the U.S. Department of the Army has prepared a fact sheet on the service flag. This fact sheet gives detailed service-flag information from the Department of Defense Directives and U.S. Code. Click here to view the fact sheet.
 
 

 

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Blue Star Mothers of America
Deborah Tainsh | October 17, 2006
On September 30, in Columbus, Georgia, I sat among families attending the first Blue to Gold Tribute to honor Georgia's fallen heroes and their families -- an important event not possible without Georgia's Blue Star Mothers of America, Chapter One.


Few know the meaning behind Blue Star Mothers of America, an incredible support system for families and deployed service members (especially during wartime). This support system is offered through various state chapters of courageous moms called Blue Star Mother's of America, Inc., an organization I had no knowledge of until after the death of my stepson in Iraq on 11, February 2004.

Upon receiving by mail a beautifully framed flag with a Gold Star centered on white material bordered in red a few weeks after Patrick's death, and no letter to explain the meaning of the gift, I searched the internet for such a flag. I learned that the historical and proud significance of this Gold Star Flag was preceded by the Blue Star Flag designed and patented by Army Captain Robert Queissner during WWI. With two sons on the front lines, Captain Queissner began a tradition for families to signify the love, pride, and hope for children serving in war by hanging in household windows a flag with blue stars. As death of a child came to families, a blue star was changed to gold.

Blue Star Mothers of America became official in March 1942, after Army Captain George Maines placed an article in a Flint, Michigan newspaper requesting information about children serving in the armed forces. Over 600 moms responded and subsequently came together to create Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc. From the Blue Star Service Flag, Blue Star Mothers of America took their name and chapters grew across America with the goal of supporting their military community, helping to build the morale of their deployed loved ones through care packages, and providing visits and care for the wounded at home.

Gold Star Mothers of America, Inc took their name from the Gold Star that replaced a blue one, and in 1929 became incorporated after inspiration from the story of Grace Seibold, a WWI mother who worked through her grief and sorrow after the loss of her son by visiting the wounded in hospitals and reaching out to other mothers who suffered the same grief. What very few know today is that the last Sunday of September is officially Gold Star Mother's Day, as set forth in 1936 by Senate Joint Resolution 115.

Since learning the meaning behind Blue and Gold Star Flags and the mothers of America who currently work together, reviving a support system for parents and members of the United States Armed Forces, whether serving, wounded, or fallen, I have been privileged to meet many of these courageous and selfless women from coast to coast. Many of these Blue Star moms have learned together the pain, sorrow, and bittersweet pride of becoming Gold Star Moms as they personally present Gold Star Flags to grieving military families in their communities. Yet, Blue Star Moms who know their star color can quickly change, continue to support the Gold, one another, and strive to bring honor and support to our nation's armed forces serving in harm's way.

As a guest and keynote speaker, I have witnessed the support provided by Blue Star Mother chapters that work together voluntarily with a voracious synergy to raise funds and create events to honor their states' Gold Star families and fallen heroes. In September, 2005, I observed this with the East Bay Area Chapter #101 Blue Star Mothers led by Deb Saunders, where with help from Major General Michael J. Myatt, USMC Ret, President and CEO of the Marines' Memorial Association in San Francisco, California families were brought together for a time of honor, remembrance, and bonding in their time of grief.

On September 24, 2006, Gold Star Mothers Day, I was in awe of the Colorado Blue Star Mothers led by Janna Schaffer who brought their Gold Star families together in the town of Estes Park at the foot of Rocky Mountain National Park. Here Colorado Congresswoman, Marilyn Musgrave, also a Blue Star Mom, brought words of support and comfort, and families who had had no previous contact with others on this path of sacrifice, found new support through shared time and stories.

And on September 30, in my home state of Georgia, the amazing Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc., Georgia Chapter One, from every corner of the state, led by President, Nancy Seifert of Hamilton, Georgia, gave an incredible gift to Georgia families and their fallen heroes. With funding from Georgia's Columbus Bank and Trust, Synovus Financial Services, Total Systems, Inc., and Greystone Properties, family members of all service branches' fallen heroes received an impeccable dinner and honor as words of support were provided by Fort Benning Georgia's Commanding General, Major General Walt Wodjakowsi and his wife, Candy, who learned that as parents to a son serving in the United States Army, they are also Blue Star Parents.

Bill Stembridge spoke on behalf of Georgia's United States Senator Saxby Chambliss who also sent a personal video message for the families. The tribute was made complete with the professionalism of a Fort Benning Color Guard, a tribute slide show of Georgia's fallen heroes created through the help of Shaw High School in Columbus, near Fort Benning, and TAPS performed by a bugler from Fort Benning's outstanding Army Band.

Following the tribute, the mom of SGT Kelley Courtney, USMC, KIA October 30, 2004 in Anbar Province, Iraq wrote:

Tears still flow readily from the Tribute Dinner experience in honor of Kelley. We are very grateful for the experience. Meeting everyone face-to-face who we previously only knew ethereally was a kindred bond we all needed. What a special moment.

I can't imagine how we will be ever be able to adequately express our thanks to everyone for all the hard work that was put into making such a beautiful and memorable evening fall into place so perfectly. If we can ever be of service to you, in honor of Kelley, please let us know.
We love you.
Gena and Bobby Courtney, Macon, Georgia

Without Blue Star Mothers of America chapters, such needed support and honor for military families would not occur. Our nation's Blue Star Mothers are the epitome of servants to those who serve our nation. As during past wars, they are priceless treasures to our country's military families. They are among the true patriots. Each knowing they can at any moment become a Gold Star Mother as they remain diligent and courageous with open arms for all who need them, because, after all, that's what mothers do, and I thank you.

About Deborah Tainsh
Deborah Tainsh, Gold Star Mother of Sgt Patrick Tainsh KIA Baghdad, Iraq, 2/11/04, is the author of Heart of a Hawk: One family's sacrifice and journey toward healing, recipient of the Military Writers Society of America's Spirit of Freedom award.


A supporter of America's military and their families, Deborah is a national speaker, writer, and peer mentor for Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors of military personnel located in Washington, D.C. She and her husband, USMC Sgt. Major (Ret) David Tainsh live in Harris County, Georgia, near Columbus and their son, Phillip.
For more info go to:
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THANKSGIVING  (Troops)
 
 
 
The Mothers, Fathers, and Associates
of the
CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS
CT Chapter One - Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.
 
Send Appreciation To Each Service Member, Veteran, and Military Family Member For All They Have Done For Our Country
 
We Wish You A Very Blessed, Happy, and Peaceful Thanksgiving and Thank You For Our Opportunity To Be Able To Enjoy This Special Day In The Land Of The Free
  
Thanksgiving Day - November 23, 2006
 
THANKSGIVING (Troops)

 
Thank you for your service -- Thank you for your sacrifice
Official Chapter Statement
Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers
 
 
 

  

National Flag Day Website
 
 

 

 
The Mothers, Fathers, and Associates
of the
CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS
CT Chapter One - Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.
 
Send Heartfelt Thanks to Each Veteran and Their Families on this
Veterans Day - November 11, 2006
 
VETERANS DAY TRIBUTE
Thank you for your service -- Thank you for your sacrifice
Official Chapter Statement
Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers
 
 
 
 
 
As we all watch the sun fall in the West, let us think about the hope of the morning dawn as it rises in the East.

With each new day, let us remember

All those who gave their yesterdays
All those who left their youth on the battlefield
All those who still wait to see the sun rise in American soil
All those who continue to serve Our Nation.

Our military, our Veterans, our POWs, our families along with the families of the Fallen
have kept the flame of Freedom burning and the hope of Peace a reality
We thank them for our tomorrows.




Susan Naill, Past National President, BSMA
Proud Mom of Jason (USMC Persian Gulf)
TODAY'S MILITARY -- TOMORROW'S VETERAN

 

 

The Mothers, Fathers, and Associates
of the
CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS
CT Chapter One - Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.
 
~~ With Great Appreciation For Our Freedoms ~~ 
Wish Each Service Member And Veteran
A VETERANS DAY FILLED WITH HOPE

YOUR SERVICE TO OUR COUNTRY IS APPRECIATED
NO WORDS CAN BEGIN TO THANK YOU ENOUGH
 
 
 
 
 
Thank you for your service -- Thank you for your sacrifice
Official Chapter Statement
Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers
 
VETERANS DAY 2007
 

 

 

The Mothers, Fathers, and Associates
of the
CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS
CT Chapter One - Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.
 
 
Send Our Prayers, Love, Support, and Thankfulness
To Each Veteran and Their Family on this
Memorial Day / Memorial Day Weekend 2007
 
We Remember All Those Lost For Our Freedom
We Stand By Our Troops That Serve This Day
 
 
ARLINGTON

 
 
 
We Thank Everyone For Their Service
We Thank Everyone For Their Sacrifice
 
Official Chapter Statement
Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers
 
 
 
 
 
 
The Memorial Day Foundation
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
On this most sacred day of Remembrance and Reflection

May Beauty and Peace Surround Each of You on this Memorial Day as
Those who are no longer with us are Remembered
Those who suffer the pain of loss are Shielded
Those who must be returned are not Forgotten
Those who are in harm's way are Protected
Those who wait are Comforted
and Those who see through the eyes of the Veteran are Honored
written by SN May 2006


Susan Naill, Past National President, BSMA
Proud Mom of Jason (USMC Persian Gulf)
TODAY'S MILITARY -- TOMORROW'S VETERAN
 
 
 

 

The Mothers, Fathers, and Associates
of the
CONNECTICUT BLUE STAR MOTHERS
CT Chapter One - Blue Star Mothers of America, Inc.
 
~~ With Great Appreciation For Our Freedoms ~~ 
Wish Each Service Member And Veteran
A VERY HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY
 
  
July - 2007
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Thank you for your service -- Thank you for your sacrifice
Official Chapter Statement
Rev. Lin McGee, President Connecticut Blue Star Mothers
 

 

Military Families Appreciation Month Highlights Service, Sacrifice
By Donna Miles
American Forces Press Service

WASHINGTON, Nov. 1, 2006 - Today kicks off Military Families Appreciation Month, an annual tribute to the family members who, President Bush and other U.S. and military leaders frequently recognize, serve the country alongside their loved ones in uniform.
The month-long observance, with events planned at Army, Navy, Air Force and Marine Corps bases around the world and in communities nationwide, highlights the contributions and sacrifices military family members make every day.

Bush thanked families for that service during an Oct. 28 visit to Charleston Air Force Base, S.C. "As the president of the United States, I want to tell you plain and simple," he told military families, "(that) the American people respect you, they appreciate you, and I'll do everything in my power to make sure the families and those who wear the uniform have all the support necessary to win this war on terror."

Bush emphasized the important role military families play in U.S. national defense when he introduced Iraqi Prime Minister Nouri al-Maliki to U.S. troops and their families at Fort Belvoir, Va., earlier this summer.

"Mr. Prime Minister, when I speak to our troops, I also talk to their loved ones, because you can't have a strong United States military without the support of the military families," Bush told Maliki during the July 26 session. "Our troops have sacrificed, and as they have done so, so have our military families. And so today we pay respect for the men and women who wear the uniform and their loved ones. We're proud of you."

Marine Gen. Peter Pace, chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, expressed a similar sentiment earlier this month at the "Memorial Concert and Tribute to Today's Heroes" in Worcester, Mass. "When we go off to combat, our families wait at home and pray that we're safe," Pace told the audience, which included 400 Gold Star families who lost a family member in military service. >

 

By Carmen L. Burgess
American Forces Press Service

WASHINGTON, Nov. 29, 2006 - The Hallmark Channel marked its membership with
the America Supports You program by teaming up for a holiday card drive and
the premiere of its newest movie, scheduled to air Dec. 2.

In a press conference here yesterday, Hallmark Channel President and Chief
Executive Officer Henry Schleiff announced the company's partnership with
Operation Gratitude to send more than 50,000 cards and care packages to troops
overseas. He also said the Hallmark Channel planned to premier its new movie
"The Christmas Card" at Fort Belvoir, Va., that evening.

"Just as our courageous troops represent America's best, the Hallmark
Channel is proud to participate in the America Supports You program, because it
represents the very best of what our network, as well as what we as Americans,
stand for," Schleiff said.

"The Department of Defense is thrilled to welcome Hallmark to the America
Supports You team," said Allison Barber, deputy assistant secretary of defense
for public affairs and the program's founder. "The 'Cards for Troops'
campaign and the debut of the movie 'The Christmas Card' not only remind Americans
of the importance of sending letters to our troops, in particular around the
holidays, but provides them a perfect way to do it."

ASY is a Department of Defense program recognizing citizens' support for the
military and communicating that support to members of the Armed Forces and
their families, at home and abroad. Operation Gratitude is one of the more
than 230 ASY member organizations.

Schleiff said the movie "The Christmas Card" is one of the most impressive
and powerful stories the network has produced. Emmy-award winner Ed Asner ></SCRIPT>
Operation Gratitude volunteer Jennifer Parsley, who has written thousands of
thank you notes to troops overseas, was surprised with a satellite meeting
with her fiance Marine Sgt. Jeremy Harshman. The couple first met in 2005 when
Harshman opened a care package with her card and began corresponding with
her.

"It's amazing the difference that one person can make," Parsley said. "What
are the odds? I wasn't looking for anyone by sending notes of thanks, but
look at the result. If you only reach just one person you can still make a
difference in their life."

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FROM THE DEPARTMENT OF DEFENSE

 

 

 

By Gerry J. Gilmore
American Forces Press Service

WASHINGTON, Nov. 29, 2006 - The Marine Corps is renowned for its fighting
ability, but the organization also is famous for its nearly 60-year tradition
of ensuring needy children don't have empty Christmas stockings.

The "Toys for Tots" program began in the fall of 1947 when a group of Marine
Reservists based in Los Angeles collected and delivered 5,000 toys to local
needy children, according to the Toys for Tots' non-profit foundation Web
site.

Toys for Tots distributed $200 million worth of new toys to more than 7
million needy children in 2005, Bill Grein, vice president for marketing and
development for the Toys for Tots' foundation, said during a telephone interview
with American Forces Press Service. Grein's office is located at Quantico
Marine Corps Base, Va.

More than 550 Marine Corps' Toys for Tots distribution centers are located
across the country, Grein said, noting the program's busy time starts after
Thanksgiving and runs right up to Christmas. Collected toys are distributed
through local social welfare agencies and other organizations.

Toys for Tots enables families of limited means to provide something for
their children on Christmas, Grein said. Besides toys for young children, the
program also seeks gift donations suitable for teenagers, such as hand-held
video games, purses, watches and other items.

"We think it's important for these children to go back to school and to be
able to say: 'I got something, too,'" he said. "It's a positive experience in
their lives, and when you look back on your childhood, that's what you
remember."

Grein, a retired Marine major, has worked at the foundation since 1991, when
then-Secretary of Defense Richard B. Cheney authorized the Marine Corps to
work with the foundation on behalf of Toys for Tots.

The foundation augments the Marines' efforts by conducting year-round
solicitations for new toy donations and money from U.S. corporations to buy toys,
Grein said.

"The Marines just didn't have the time, other than for the toy-collection
process that goes on in November and December every year," Grein said. "We know
that our Marine units out there are going to run out of toys before they run
out of children.

"It happens every year, sadly," he said.

From 1947 through 1979, the Marines collected both new and used toys to
provide to needy children for Christmas. During that time Marine Reservists would
refurbish and repair the used toys on their drill weekends.

In 1980, the reserve components were incorporated into the Defense
Department's total force concept, resulting in greatly reduced time for reservists to
refurbish donated used toys for the program. Efforts were then focused on
collecting and providing only new toys.

The Marine Corps continues to work to ensure needy children have memorable
Christmases, Grein said. In 2005, the Marines collected and distributed about
$50 million worth of new toys through their Toys for Tots program, he said.
Foundation-solicited sponsors contributed another $150 million worth of toys.

"What's happened is that the foundation has provided additional means of
providing toys so that we can reach more children," Grein said.

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FROM THE DEPARTMENT OF DEFENSE

 

 

The holiday season is upon us and while many Americans will be enjoying the company of friends and family, more than 160,000 service men and women serving overseas will not. Instead of sharing in the laughter and smiles the holidays bring -- especially for the children in their lives -- they will be defending us at lonely outposts around the world.

Help the USO put a smile on their faces by giving them the very special gift of reaching out to their loved ones for the holidays. Make a donation to either the USO's Operation Phone Home or United Through Reading programs and help brighten the day of a lonely service member. Giving these men and women the opportunity to speak to and interact with their loved ones over the holidays will provide an immeasurable boost to their morale.


Operation Phone Home - Prepaid, international phone cards are distributed free of charge to service members, especially those in Afghanistan, Iraq and other overseas locations.


United Through Reading - At participating USO centers, service men and women can stay connected with the children in their lives by videotaping themselves reading a children's book. The USO sends the DVD and a copy of the book to the children back home. The parent or caregiver is encouraged to photograph or videotape the child's excitement while watching the DVD and following along with the book, and sends photos or DVD back to the deployed service member.


Let them know they are not forgotten!

  

By Samantha L. Quigley
American Forces Press Service

WASHINGTON, Nov. 30, 2006 - Silver Star Families of America, a group dedicated to supporting wounded servicemembers and their families, is thinking outside the box this Christmas.

A member of America Supports You, a Defense Department program highlighting ways Americans and the corporate sector support the nation's servicemembers, the group has undertaken a program to send holiday cheer to military and veterans hospitals.

"We concentrate on sending Silver Star banners to the wounded," Steve Newton, the organization's founder, said. "But the members wanted to do something special for the wounded for Christmas."

Through "Project Christmas," Silver Star Families is sending at least one box of goodies to a military hospital, a Veterans Affairs medical center or a combat support hospital in every state in the U.S., and to Germany and Iraq, Newton said.

The effort got under way a mere three weeks ago, and the organization has nearly met its goal. All boxes for overseas locations have been shipped to ensure they arrived in time for the holidays. As for the stateside venture, only a handful of states remain to be checked off the list. "This has been a big project for us," Newton said. "We usually don't tackle care packages on this scale. But we've had a lot of support."

That support has come from within, with members donating items to stuff the boxes, and from the celebrity realm, including best-selling author Dean Koontz. The author shipped "cases and cases of autographed books," which meshed well with the group's goal of sending "fun" items. Other items donated for the packages include signed baseball, football and other sports memorabilia, as well as items with musicians' signatures.

"We got pencils from the Chicago Cubs, just hundreds and hundreds of pencils," he said. "The Cleveland Cavaliers basketball team sent us, I bet it was 150 ... T-shirts, beautiful T-shirts."

The Silver Star members also are taking it upon themselves to pick up any slack, Newton said. One member from the Washington area stepped up to cover the postage for all of the packages being sent from the national headquarters in Missouri. Other members are sending packages on their own to ensure as many wounded servicemembers as possible have a great Christmas.

"If you'd asked me a week or two ago, I'd have said, 'I don't ever, ever want to see any kind of box again," Newton said with a laugh. "But I think we'll do this every year."

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SANTA ANA, Calif., Nov. 17, 2006 - Just in time for the holidays, Operation Homefront has launched "eCarePackage," an online service that allows caring citizens to send care packages to deployed troops and their families.

Operation Homefront is part of CinCHouse.com, a community for military wives, and is a team member of America Supports You, a Department of Defense program connecting U.S. citizens with members of the military.

Servicemembers and families can register on
www.ecarepackage.org, which protects their identity and location, and visitors can "adopt" them based on common interests. Then visitors select individual items to create a customized care
package for their chosen servicemember or family and include a personal message.

Operation Homefront's team of volunteers takes the order, boxes the selected items and ships them directly to the servicemember or family - always protecting their identity and physical location.

"There's nothing like a care package to cheer a deployed soldier or a lonely military family, especially during the holidays," said Amy Palmer, executive vice president of operations for Operation Homefront. "With operational security for the troops so tight, we were concerned that care packages weren't getting through. So we built eCarePackage to ensure our troops and families continue to
'feel the love' from Americans."

Items available in the eCarePackage store range from toiletries and necessities to games, books and candy. Most items were donated from sponsors, particularly The Dollar Tree, which runs its Operation Appreciation program in most stores nationwide.

Donated items are not marked up, so eCarePackage visitors often pay only the cost of handling and shipping - making eCarePackage less expensive than doing it yourself. Moreover, Operation Homefront has partnered with DHL, which provides postal service to overseas troops, to ensure direct and timely delivery of all
care packages to deployed troops.

The eCarePackage program is an extension of Operation Homefront's mission to provide emergency support and morale to our troops, the families they leave behind during deployments, and wounded warriors when they return home. Operation Homefront recently signed a Memorandum of Understanding with the Defense
Department to ensure greater collaboration.

(From a CinCHouse.com news release.)

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The Trees for Troops program will be stopping at Fort Benning, Ga., on Tuesday to deliver about 700 Christmas trees to troops and military families, according to a post press release.

Other trees will be delivered the same day to Fort Bragg, N.C., and Fort Leonard Wood, Mo. Fort Campbell, Ky., and Fort Stewart, Ga., get their turn Wednesday and Thursday, respectively.

The Trees for Troops program is part of FedEx Special Delivery, a nationwide program that provides transportation and logistical assistance for community and non-profit organizations. It is also sponsored by the Christmas Spirit Foundation.

For the second consecutive year, Christmas tree growers and
retailers nationwide have donated real Christmas trees for military families.

This year, more than 11,000 trees from 27 states are expected to be delivered to 25 military bases in the United States and overseas. In 2005, the program delivered more than 4,300 trees to bases across the United States.

Prior to 2005, members of the National Christmas Tree Association donated trees to military families in their local area if they could cover the shipping and transportation costs. In 2005, the Trees for Troops program came to life and developed into a nationwide initiative with the support of FedEx.

The 2006 Trees for Troops program launched Nov. 14 when the first shipment of trees from Ohio's Operation Evergreen and the Indiana Christmas Tree Association departed from the FedEx Express Hub in Indianapolis, destined for overseas bases.

The program started Nov. 27 and runs through Dec. 11.

On Friday, trees were delivered to Fort Carson, Colo., Fort Drum, N.Y. and Fort Lewis, Wash.
 
 

 

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FOREVER CHANGED -- Military families are urged to face facts:

Soldiers will be different when they return.

 

 

 

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Forever changed

Military families are urged to face facts: Soldiers will be different when they return

By Peter Schworm, Globe Staff


Cathy Carney dreams of her husband's return from Iraq in loving detail. He steps through a door, and she runs toward him, leaping into his arms for a deep kiss and tearful embrace. He doesn't say much, just ``Hi, Cath," but smiles ear to ear, the way he did on their wedding day. All around them, mothers are hugging their sons, and fathers are scooping up daughters, but she sees only him. She clings to him and, for the longest time, doesn't let go.

During Jack Carney's year long deployment in Iraq, she has replayed the scene in her mind over and over again. She turns to it when she misses him the most, even if it sometimes makes her miss him more.

But, at a recent meeting of a family readiness group at an Army Reserve Center in Brockton, a program trainer cautioned against such idyllic images of soldiers' homecomings. After the initial joy of the reunion, reservists and their families often struggle to pick up the threads of their shared lives, he warned. Many soldiers returning from war experience a rocky transition to civilian life, and that strain can permeate entire families.
Couples, in particular, find it hard to regain their footing, and shouldn't be disappointed if the old magic doesn't return overnight.

``Don't expect perfect in the reunion process," said Richard Croucher, the director of family programs for the 94th Regional Readiness Command, which oversees readiness groups across New England. ``To think you're both going to continue just the way you were, it's not going to happen. You're both different people."

Family readiness groups are volunteer support networks for relatives of service members who typically meet monthly to share experiences and advice, both on coping with soldiers' absences and preparing for their return.

The Brockton group is affiliated with the Army Reserve's 220th Transportation Company, a unit based in Keene, N.H., that was deployed to Iraq a year ago. The unit is poised to return home from Iraq soon, possibly within two weeks, and relatives are counting the days until the homecoming.

The hardships military families endure during deployment receive more attention, but the difficulties they encounter when soldiers return are often just as profound, military and civilian counselors say. Taken together, the toll of the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq are potentially causing ``secondary trauma" for millions of Americans on the home front, said Kenneth Reich , codirector of a group of volunteer therapists called SOFAR that has partnered with the Army Reserve to counsel families of several reserve units, including the 220th.

``The scope is staggering," said Reich, president of the Psychoanalytic Couple and Family Institute of New England, SOFAR's umbrella organization. `
`There's a real ripple effect on the families."

Reich started SOFAR -- it stands for Strategic Outreach to Families of All Reservists -- last year after extensive negotiations with the military, and is now coordinating with groups of mental health professionals across the country to broaden the effort. SOFAR, whose members usually meet with small groups of reservists' relatives, including children, is scheduled to begin working with the Massachusetts National Guard in October, and is also developing a program to train teachers to help children of men and women in the services.

With so many combat soldiers returning from Iraq with serious psychological problems, millions of their loved ones are dealing with the repercussions. Reich said he is struck by the depth of military families' resilience, but also of their hardships. ``The tail of trauma is a long one," he said.

Croucher and Reich said there is a growing recognition that military families, particularly those of reservists, need counseling before and during soldiers' return to ease the often-jarring reentry to their former lives. A National Military Family Association survey released in March found that military families experience high levels of anxiety, fatigue, and stress, and called for increased assistance to help families adjust after deployments.

Jaine Darwin, a Cambridge psychoanalyst and SOFAR codirector, said that while the public commonly perceives soldiers' returns as ``VE Day in Times Square," the post deployment transition is usually daunting.

Essentially, a new father or mother is coming home to a family that has also changed, she said. ``You can't take someone whose life has been in constant danger, drop them back home, and expect everything to be rosy right away."

Darwin said that families' daily exposure to intense stress -- the nightmares, erratic behavior, and emotional distance -- can be traumatizing, and hopes that counseling families will help prevent soldiers' children from incurring ``intergenerational trauma." SOFAR plans to continue counseling family members for several months after units have returned.

Mel Tapper , the returning combat veteran coordinator for the Boston area, who also works with National Guard readiness groups, said that families who pray each day for their soldier's safe return find it hard to think of anything beyond that point.

``But, after the initial euphoria, you have to deal with the reality," he said.

Matt Cary , president of the Washington-based advocacy group, Veterans and Military Families for Progress, said he is lobbying for expanded services for military families after deployment, noting high divorce rates among military couples.

Nancy Lessin , a Boston resident who cofounded Military Families Speak Out, which opposes the war, said that reunions are invariably bittersweet because soldiers return fundamentally changed.

``No one comes back from this war safe and sound," she said. ``Our loved ones who left do not come back."

In Brockton, a strong kinship pervades the room at the Army Reserve Center as members share smiles, empathetic looks, and nervous laughs. No one mentions the war, except to ask how a loved one is doing, and whether they've been able to get through on the phone. They want nothing more than to have their spouses and children safely beside them again, but they understand that reconnecting will take time.

``When they get back, it's wonderful, but everything's changed," said Lillian Connolly , the wife of an Army staff sergeant, Joseph Connolly Jr., and the readiness group leader. ``They don't know what the kids eat, what their bedtime is. You adjust to them being gone and suddenly it's, `` `Hi, honey, I'm home.' "

SOFAR and the group plan to keep meeting after the unit returns. When the unit returned from its first tour, families felt unprepared to handle the anxiety, paranoia, and restlessness many soldiers experienced. This time, relatives believe they will be able to spot the warning signs and have fewer illusions that their lives will resume without a hitch.

Connolly said members started preparing for the unit's return ``as soon as they left," to minimize the readjustment, and Croucher, who suffered post traumatic stress disorder after serving in Vietnam, counsels patience.

``It takes at least as long as the deployment for you both to get your nervous system back to normal," Croucher told the group. Many soldiers return home wary and withdrawn, hesitant to show affection, he said.

``They're still soldiers," he said. ``They're not husbands and parents yet."

Carney, a 44-year-old Canton resident, said she is relieved the group will continue its meetings, and that she has tried to remain ``cautious about my expectations" despite her excitement that a year that has ``felt like five" is nearly over.

As the meeting wrapped up, Croucher urged the group to call if they see signs of erratic behavior.

``Only time will bring your soldier back to you. Remember that."



Peter Schworm can be reached at schworm@globe.com .

 

 

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